The "idgaf about girls" mentality.

[ThrowDown]

For the past several weeks I've had good success with women in terms of pickup. My mind state would always be "I'm gonna go out, and get numbers.." And I would practice the skills I have learned from GC daily. My mind focused on getting better because through persistence, one may be fruitful.

However there are days where I lose total interest in women, and my desire to meet them would disappear. This mind state is very counter productive and I wonder why this is happening? Are there ways to fix this, and if any, are there people who can relate?

 

[BarryS1]

However there are days where I lose total interest in women, and my desire to meet them would disappear. This mind state is very counter productive and I wonder why this is happening? Are there ways to fix this, and if any, are there people who can relate?

I know what you mean because there are some days when I'll go out, but I won't have a sex drive. I will be excited upon waking up, but once I get out of the car and start walking to the club/department store - it disappears.

I have heard a lot of people say, "Just do it and force yourself to approach" but walking around for hours aimlessly is a waste of time. Whenever I feel like this, I stop trying to approach right away and go home or to work because my results will be low (or none at all). Then, all of a sudden, or a couple days later, the sex drive will come back. Still haven't figured out why - I quit porn almost a year ago.

I'm like you, that if I'm not in the zone, approaching won't happen.

 

[R.A.D.]

Well there is a balance like all things. I also have weeks where im totally motivated and maybe manage approach and be with many girls during the week and then other weeks when i forget about them and want to focus on more individual things.

In my case i dont think its something bad and i try to respect when my body and mind tells me to make a pause, remember that socializing and approaching women in particular is a very rewarding but very exhausting activity where you invest lots of energy having your senses in full alert and you are exposed to a lot different situations and people. Your mind needs time to process them afterwards and if you are constantly adding its hard to do it.

For example if you make a sport you really like you will want to do it the whole time but your body will start to suffer injuries if you dont rest and pause properly to take care of yourself. Then with lots of time and practice you get to increase that time as much as you want.

Anyway just my thoughts about it.

 

[ThrowDown]

I read somewhere that by warming up, and taking advantage of social momentum will help you condition your mind for that days approaches. So let's say on a Friday, I wake up. Go to the gym, and socialize with everyone, chat with the employees, joke with the meatheads, tease the pretty milfs on the treadmill and when I leave, I feel ready to take on the day. When I make my approaches, I feel more confident and in a great social mood.

Just some food for thought.