FR The Journey Begins

[Marcellus]

I'm new to the joining the forum and I've been a long fan of this website, First of I wanna thank Chase for creating this Website and showing me that I should not be lying to get girls and providing the tools that I need to improve my seduction skills and My Life in General, Second of I would like to thank Anatman, JustDave, Narrow J and all the other guys doing there best to post there field reports and giving me an insight into there daily pickup interactions.

First off abit of backround, Im about to turn 18 moving to the states next year to go to college, And I play basketball and am always working hard to improve and as my love for the game comes first women have always been second. I don't party much and Ive always been told how cocky I was because I always thought that I was so special but thanks to chase I have realized this is the complete opposite.
And with Women I always thought that I had sick game and tried to be smooth but


hahahahahahaha How wrong was I

After reading Half of Chases Book and saying that yesterday the pickup journey has officially begun for myself I went in to work at the Retail Store That I work in at the Plaza and told my self that If any cute chick or hotter were in the store I would approach them and Start a Conversation but before this happened a Chick from my school who I messed things up because of my lack of seduction skills met eyes with me and as she walked past, she said hello in a really awkward way an what I took from it was that she did not want to say hello but thought that I would get upset if she didnt since we both know how bad I messed things up and as soon as I said hello back we were both out of there. The reason I make this journal is because of this, to get help from you guys and make sure I never encounter this again because I felt so ashamed thinking this whole time That i had game and could get girls and then having this girl being a living example of the complete opposite.


Abit Later while Im working this really hot chick black hair, good with face with a nice ass walked past me with a dvd and as I smiled at her, she smiled back- GAme Fucking on
Me-Hey I just had to come to tell you that I think your really beautiful
Her- Smiling Oh thanks( I wasn't a normal smile it was more like a wow how fucking corny is this guy, I was really genuine and truly meant it but she must not have thought that)
Me- Hi Im Paulo( Fake name can't use my real for unjustified reasons)
Her- Hey Im Tina( Fake name obviously)

But then It completely went downhill from here and For most of the 5 minute Conversation there were long pauses, Me scrambling to find something to say and asking her boring repetitive questions while she only gave one worded answers and as I realised this I said goodbye to her and ejected from the Scene.

AA hit me and I got nervous during the Interaction but I still cannot explain why Ive assesed my weaknesses and my strenths and I am a genuinely confident guy and I do not fear rejections or approaching women or Certainly in my head I didn't but the body did not want to listen to my head anyways this is the beggining of a long journey and I hope that you guys can help me get started.
One day I will become the Man I want to be

 

[ray_zorse]

Re: The Journey Begins

Hey dude welcome and it sounds like you have a really genuine desire to work at this shit so props to you

Couple of things :-

1. With your girl and the awkwardness I get that u don't want this to happen again but really you won't get far with such a cautious attitude, it's probably the first of many times this will happen particularly if u take the view of approaching & hitting on girls in social circle, at your work, at their work, in planes trains automobiles, while camping, while clubbing, at weddings, in church, funerals, basically anywhere it is totally inappropriate (as I do...hahaha). A better mindset is that you put yourself out there and massively demonstrated your value as a man by seeing what you liked and taking a shot at it, even though you fucked it up and embarrassed her you're still a shit ton more attractive to her than 99% of other males out there. The awkwardness you feel is actually sexual tension cos you want to fuck her and she damn well knows it and you know she knows. You need to get better at generating and managing sexual tension, tip: if you feel a little uncomfortable doing this then you're golden, you're expanding your comfort zone at her expense What you can do is own your mistakes without supplicating... in a quiet moment pull her in (the encounter you mentioned would have been a great opportunity) and say "I realize I embarrassed you in front of your friends (or whatever) and I shouldn't have done that. But I learned to be more discreet so thankyou for the lesson. I'd like to make it up to you... I'll buy you an icecream... say tomorrow?" or similar. And in future take risks, don't worry about awkwardness! Just be calibrated (don't push quite as hard in social circle, etc).

2. Upgrading conversation is one of the hardest but most rewarding things you can do. As you discovered it is very necessary to do this. It takes consistent practice. This is why you must open and converse with everyone you meet for the next 3-6mth or so to see gains. This means register chicks, waitresses, salesgirls, baristas, your teachers, fellow students, relatives, old people, neighbours, guys, ... you get the picture. You should be able to sustain a 5min convo with anyone you meet. As an example I was in a club last night and I met some dudes who were pretty fun. They didn't have much game but were amusing themselves by introducing me to random women or just pointing out women I had to approach. So in each case I went over, spoke to them for 5min or so (even though first few minutes just establishing each other's name as it was totally loud on the dancefloor, if it was complicated I had them type it into my phone), in many cases this was a green light to start grinding or close dancing w them, cos most drunk guys in a club can't really do light conversation. If you don't know what to aim for, check out Chase's "Spellbinding" conversation series, I bought it a month into my journey and it was helpful (but doesn't really cover sexual flirting or cocky funny, you can develop your style after getting the basics).

Hope that helps bro.

cheers, Ray

 

[Marcellus]

Re: The Journey Begins

Thanks alot, your a big help I never really had that mindset before so ill see what happens next time.
I look forward to hearing from you and getting more tips next time