Whether it's because of our need for instant gratification or our increasingly ADD culture, I've noticed a strong trend among youths and adults a like. I've worked extensively in the education system both as a teacher and a tutor, working with various age groups, and I've seen how easy youths today get caught up in instant results and impatience with their growth.
I liken growth in just about any area to learning a skill, specifically in a sport. I'm an avid basketball fan and player, and I'd like to use an analogy to illustrate the necessary growing pains in relation to dating and seduction.
Learning how to shoot a basketball is probably one of the most fundamental and important skills in basketball. But in order to be a good shooter, it takes repetition after repetition. It takes long hours, reevaluating form and technique, examining what parts of your technique need adjustments.
Basically, it takes a lot of time and effort. It doesn't happen naturally, and the best shooters in professional sports all had mentors, coaches, and teachers to help them refine and revamp their shooting technique. And even so, one can never say they've become a "perfect" shooter. It's impossible to shoot 100% or even come close to it. In fact, even if you could replicate the technique perfectly and use the proper amount of force, you wouldn't make all of your shots. There are many factors and variables that affect your ability and the best you can hope for is consistency.
So how does this apply to dating advice? Well, you need to know what works and how to do it. Just as there is no one perfect shooting technique, there is no one perfect or ideal way of meeting women. But there are principles and fundamental skills you need to learn. And it requires enormous amounts of practice and time and pain. You don't become a prolific 3 point shooter because you tried shooting a few times a day.
Likewise, you can't become comfortable and a prolific seducer (if that is your desire) if you don't meet women. Just as a good shooter doesn't wait for shots to come to him, a good seducer does not wait around for opportunities, he creates them. He's always looking for ways to grow and learn.
A shooter will inevitably go through hot and cold streaks. He does not get overly excited about his makes, and he doesn't linger on his misses. He just keeps shooting. Similarly, if you want to get any kind of success in dating, you can't get down on yourself because you "missed" a few times. You have to keep "shooting" until it goes in. If you're not making any "shots", then you have to find a way to correct your technique, your form.
A basketball player who blames the rim and the basketball court for his inability to make shots is unheard of. So as a man, as a seducer, for one to blame the women and external circumstances for the entirety of his failures is a fool. Take responsibility for what you can control, and let the chips fall where they may.
A seducer is not born, he is made. He is made through hours and hours of practice, of refinement and reflection. But keep in mind, just as a good shooter is made by his refinement and repetition, a bad shooter reinforces bad habits by practicing the wrong way. If you're not going back and reflecting and readjusting after you approach and interact with women, then you'll only end up repeating bad habits and reinforce negative feelings with approaching women.
Meeting women should be fun and an enjoyable experience, regardless if they respond favorably or not. Don't be attached to the outcome.
I liken growth in just about any area to learning a skill, specifically in a sport. I'm an avid basketball fan and player, and I'd like to use an analogy to illustrate the necessary growing pains in relation to dating and seduction.
Learning how to shoot a basketball is probably one of the most fundamental and important skills in basketball. But in order to be a good shooter, it takes repetition after repetition. It takes long hours, reevaluating form and technique, examining what parts of your technique need adjustments.
Basically, it takes a lot of time and effort. It doesn't happen naturally, and the best shooters in professional sports all had mentors, coaches, and teachers to help them refine and revamp their shooting technique. And even so, one can never say they've become a "perfect" shooter. It's impossible to shoot 100% or even come close to it. In fact, even if you could replicate the technique perfectly and use the proper amount of force, you wouldn't make all of your shots. There are many factors and variables that affect your ability and the best you can hope for is consistency.
So how does this apply to dating advice? Well, you need to know what works and how to do it. Just as there is no one perfect shooting technique, there is no one perfect or ideal way of meeting women. But there are principles and fundamental skills you need to learn. And it requires enormous amounts of practice and time and pain. You don't become a prolific 3 point shooter because you tried shooting a few times a day.
Likewise, you can't become comfortable and a prolific seducer (if that is your desire) if you don't meet women. Just as a good shooter doesn't wait for shots to come to him, a good seducer does not wait around for opportunities, he creates them. He's always looking for ways to grow and learn.
A shooter will inevitably go through hot and cold streaks. He does not get overly excited about his makes, and he doesn't linger on his misses. He just keeps shooting. Similarly, if you want to get any kind of success in dating, you can't get down on yourself because you "missed" a few times. You have to keep "shooting" until it goes in. If you're not making any "shots", then you have to find a way to correct your technique, your form.
A basketball player who blames the rim and the basketball court for his inability to make shots is unheard of. So as a man, as a seducer, for one to blame the women and external circumstances for the entirety of his failures is a fool. Take responsibility for what you can control, and let the chips fall where they may.
A seducer is not born, he is made. He is made through hours and hours of practice, of refinement and reflection. But keep in mind, just as a good shooter is made by his refinement and repetition, a bad shooter reinforces bad habits by practicing the wrong way. If you're not going back and reflecting and readjusting after you approach and interact with women, then you'll only end up repeating bad habits and reinforce negative feelings with approaching women.
Meeting women should be fun and an enjoyable experience, regardless if they respond favorably or not. Don't be attached to the outcome.
