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The Psychology of Inner Game.
Inner Game definition: It is the internal and psychological element of what we do in regards to a challenging task.
Outer Game Definition: The way you approach, what you say, the way you deal with her reactions and her friends reactions.
Inner Game Challenges:
— Lapses in focus and concentration.
— Running out of things to say.
— Feelings of doubt about how attractive you are.
— Feelings of anxiety with interacting with attractive women.
— Moments of doubt where you don’t know what to say.
— When you feel like you should be doing something but don’t know what that is.
Catastrophizing: Fixating on the worst case possible outcome.
A friend’s grandmother told her on her deathbed not to live in fear like she did. She said (paraphrasing here) “I wasted 80 years worrying about something that never happened.”
Do not let negative imaginary and unlikely or impossible situations to limit yourself and your life.
Inner game is very strongly connected to our beliefs.
Task: Go up and open direct on a gorgeous woman.
Scenario 1: A guy with solid inner game and is confident and believes he is attractive will not see it as a difficult task, and will go up and open her confidently with the right non verbal signals.
Scenario 2: A guy with bad inner game and does not believe he is attractive. “Sorry to bother you…” He will approach in a shy way. He will be afraid to approach, he approaches full of fear and opens weakly, very quietly, possibly has to repeat himself. His posture and non verbals communicate a lack of confidence.
Women can sense when a guy has weak or bad inner game.
They can pick up on the thoughts and beliefs running through someone’s head a lot better than guys can.
Being in control of your inner state is an important skill.
Maintaining a positive mood.
Generally, this means not being inside your own head.
Being present in the current moment.
The solution to pervasive negative thinking:
— To find the positive side in everything.
— To always find the “silver lining.”
— Condition your mind to perceive the glass as always half-full.
You can control your own emotions.
You can calm yourself down in awkward situations.
In psychology, this is called an internal locus of control.
Inner game has a deep impact on being able to have a healthy relationship with women.
Inner game determines how you’re going to behave in the relationship, it’s not just for the approaching and seduction phases.
Lack of inner game can present as trust issues. jealousy, and other common relationship problems.
It’s absence can cause breakdown of trust, admiration, and respect in a relationships.
You may overemphasize your competition. (“oh she’s hot, cooler, richer, better looking guys approach her all the time I don’t stand a chance”)
Or under emphasizing your own abilities and attractiveness.
Confronting limiting beliefs.
First identify and label them.
Then develop an action plan for confronting it and disproving it.
Reference experiences that contradict limiting beliefs helps build up your inner game.
You will inevitably have good nights just by the act of going out consistently and often.
Confidence boils down to this one question:
— Do you trust yourself?
Challenging yourself helps build high self-esteem.
If you can overcome your own fears, that is the feeling of being a man.
Inner game directly affects your happiness.
Lots of people think they need something external in order to be happy.
But true happiness is cultivated internally.
Studying and practicing inner game can help worth your relationships with friends and family, even being more assertive at work, etc.
Low self-esteem can cause conscious and subconscious self-sabotaging.
An increased sense of self-efficacy.
Taking responsibilities for your own actions.
Just take action!
No excuses!
Don’t sell yourself short!
Cheers!
Inner Game definition: It is the internal and psychological element of what we do in regards to a challenging task.
Outer Game Definition: The way you approach, what you say, the way you deal with her reactions and her friends reactions.
Inner Game Challenges:
— Lapses in focus and concentration.
— Running out of things to say.
— Feelings of doubt about how attractive you are.
— Feelings of anxiety with interacting with attractive women.
— Moments of doubt where you don’t know what to say.
— When you feel like you should be doing something but don’t know what that is.
Catastrophizing: Fixating on the worst case possible outcome.
A friend’s grandmother told her on her deathbed not to live in fear like she did. She said (paraphrasing here) “I wasted 80 years worrying about something that never happened.”
Do not let negative imaginary and unlikely or impossible situations to limit yourself and your life.
Inner game is very strongly connected to our beliefs.
Task: Go up and open direct on a gorgeous woman.
Scenario 1: A guy with solid inner game and is confident and believes he is attractive will not see it as a difficult task, and will go up and open her confidently with the right non verbal signals.
Scenario 2: A guy with bad inner game and does not believe he is attractive. “Sorry to bother you…” He will approach in a shy way. He will be afraid to approach, he approaches full of fear and opens weakly, very quietly, possibly has to repeat himself. His posture and non verbals communicate a lack of confidence.
Women can sense when a guy has weak or bad inner game.
They can pick up on the thoughts and beliefs running through someone’s head a lot better than guys can.
Being in control of your inner state is an important skill.
Maintaining a positive mood.
Generally, this means not being inside your own head.
Being present in the current moment.
The solution to pervasive negative thinking:
— To find the positive side in everything.
— To always find the “silver lining.”
— Condition your mind to perceive the glass as always half-full.
You can control your own emotions.
You can calm yourself down in awkward situations.
In psychology, this is called an internal locus of control.
Inner game has a deep impact on being able to have a healthy relationship with women.
Inner game determines how you’re going to behave in the relationship, it’s not just for the approaching and seduction phases.
Lack of inner game can present as trust issues. jealousy, and other common relationship problems.
It’s absence can cause breakdown of trust, admiration, and respect in a relationships.
You may overemphasize your competition. (“oh she’s hot, cooler, richer, better looking guys approach her all the time I don’t stand a chance”)
Or under emphasizing your own abilities and attractiveness.
Confronting limiting beliefs.
First identify and label them.
Then develop an action plan for confronting it and disproving it.
Reference experiences that contradict limiting beliefs helps build up your inner game.
You will inevitably have good nights just by the act of going out consistently and often.
Confidence boils down to this one question:
— Do you trust yourself?
Challenging yourself helps build high self-esteem.
If you can overcome your own fears, that is the feeling of being a man.
Inner game directly affects your happiness.
Lots of people think they need something external in order to be happy.
But true happiness is cultivated internally.
Studying and practicing inner game can help worth your relationships with friends and family, even being more assertive at work, etc.
Low self-esteem can cause conscious and subconscious self-sabotaging.
An increased sense of self-efficacy.
Taking responsibilities for your own actions.
Just take action!
No excuses!
Don’t sell yourself short!
Cheers!
