The Rejection Issue

[DKD]

So this rejection issue is coming up again.

Imagine, your in a bar, you scout around, and you find your target. You go up after 5 mins of ascertaining if she is single or not i.e not in a group and you go for the direct opener. She shoots you down.

And then your left standing in the bar, thinking I should have done all the 1000 other things than what I just did with her. Confidence takes a hit, and your mood changes. Is there any way to tackle this issue. Because, lets face it once your shot down your not in the mood to go for another one immediately. It takes a hit at your confidence, and that is directly related to your conversational skills.

Just a beginner, so any help will be much appreciated.

Thanks.

 

[Light]

Hi DKD,

That bullet will only put you down if you're not experienced / still a beginner. Absolutely normal.
What you need to realise is, its no big deal and move on quickly to the next girl.

Best thing to do next time is approach random girls without observing too much as a warm up.
Don't give your brain any time to think. Just approach them. Do it to any random girls.
If they shoot you down, its no biggie to you. You never was interested at them in the first place.
If they accept you, then its a level up to your game and you get the practice. This boosts your confidence.

Once you become more experienced and had more practice, you will eventually build yourself a coat of bullet proof armour, and the bullets will only sting a bit.

 

[Tyme2k]

Jeffy from RSD "After you get rejected, turn around spot your next target within 5 seconds. Start moving your feet towards them no matter what. Once you get up to her use the exact same opener you just used."

This is an easy excercise to push yourself passed that feeling of rejection. The funny thing you'll realize is this will happen a TON and eventually that first rejection feels amazing and can even put you in the mood. Laugh it off and plow, you can always reopen her later, RSD 4 times rule.