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Cro-Magnon Man
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My dorm is relatively far from campus. I have to take about a ten minute trolley to get there. It is incredibly difficult to get a girl on that trolley and back to my dorm with me, I think it might be a psychological thing... but I've always gotten around it by going to her place. However, I don't have a roommate and I like sleeping in my own bed. Any tips for how to move her home with these logistics?
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
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10 minutes doesn't sound like a lot.

Have you tried to leading her that way instead of asking?
Or when you're outside, just hail a cab and go.

Don't ask, just lead her I think is the main point.
Asking for permission to take her gives her reason and time to resist. If you just lead she won't protest if she wants to go and she isn't given the opportunity to throw out the token resistance.
 
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Verisimilitude

Cro-Magnon Man
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Ten minutes doesn't seem like much, but walking to a trolley stop, getting on (with all the other people there), and riding is a lot especially on a small campus when most things are five mins away.

But leading does sound like a good idea. Could you give me specifics? As in after talking with her for a while, just say "let's get out of here" and lead her back?
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
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That's pretty much all there is to it.

I've been experimenting with this lately.
I'd always ask before "Do you want to go to X?" and it gives her the oppertunity to come up with reasons not too.. even if she DOES want to go, but then you'll have to overcome that to convince her.
So make it easier... tell her you want to get out of there or head away and as you walk keep talking and just go towards whereever you're going, don't ask, just assume she's following you.
'In that case you're not presenting her with the oppertunity to say No...
Obviously if she stops you and protests strongly then she doesn't want to go, but if you present someone with the oppertunity to make the decision and say No, there's a good chance they will as they are now thinking about it.
Make life easier, assume she's just going with you until she really protests to it, which hopefully she won't.
 
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