The Right Amount of Money to Spend on a Date

[Troy]

This post isn't really a question. I'm just sharing general information on how much money I spend on dates.

I keep all dates simple. My typical dates are at KFC ,Burger King ,a drink shop ,a walk in the park, or sitting in a plaza. I never exceed $30 on a date, even if I have to pay for her and drink ( I know bad idea, though I've taken some broke girls . I'm " forced to pay ". I think it would look mean if I bought a chocolate cold drink, she didn't have money, and I sit there sipping away while she has nothing ).

General rule though : I don't pay for women till I've fucked them. Here's the estimated money I spend :

Transportation: If I'm meeting girls in the day, I'll just grab a drink, get to know them, then the date ends. In that case I spend $4 on two buses and taxis.

If I'm ( haven't done it yet) going back to her place) I'd spend $12. Late at night cab fares raise. ( if you're leaving from a bar per se late)


Food: I eat at home before going on dates. I'm a big eater ( 2 plates of food sometimes ). When I'm at a food court, I'd spend $5 maximum ( a drink ,ice cream, et)


On Her: If needs be (she has no money) I spend no more than $3 on a drink. If she wants steak and expensive Chinese food she's on her own . ( lol happened once)

Taking Her Back to my place : Again ( right now I can't bring girls back to my place, it's actually my parents place SMH). When I get my own place and pulling girls back there I think it's best to pay their fare. How would you feel if someone's taking you to their house and still expected you to pay? Exactly...$15 to charter a cab so I get her home really fast ( a bus ride and taxi would take too long, too much transitions and walking .
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That's all I do on dates. Movie dates and all those other adventures can wait till she's my girlfriend. We can watch a movie at my house .

Feel free to share your thoughts : how much you spend on dates. Again don't spend more than $30 on any date.

Troy

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Funny when I look back on one instance in my life I was in college and had no money. My mom tried to fix me up with a nurse, which I thought was extremely lame. I told mom I was broke and couldn't afford to date. She said the nurse would be willing to watch movies at her place. I was too embarrassed. Now I see that this was the perfect set up. If I had trusted my mother I may have gotten laid by a hot nurse. One big hang up was I did know what she looked like. I should have at least checked her out. Money doesn't mean sex. Man I was a dumb shit.

BDSC

 

[Troy]

Funny when I look back on one instance in my life I was in college and had no money. My mom tried to fix me up with a nurse, which I thought was extremely lame. I told mom I was broke and couldn't afford to date. She said the nurse would be willing to watch movies at her place. I was too embarrassed. Now I see that this was the perfect set up. If I had trusted my mother I may have gotten laid by a hot nurse. One big hang up was I did know what she looked like. I should have at least checked her out. Money doesn't mean sex. Man I was a dumb shit.

Well you learned and improved. Sometimes these past mistakes empower us to be greater, and never let it happen again. Great that you figured it out

Unless she is your girlfriend, the right amount of money to spend on a date is $0.

Ahh imagine you are in a situation where it's late and both of you are leaving a bar to get a nightcap. The only way back to your place is via a taxi. Your girl doesn't have cab fare to go home with you. In such a situation you would or wouldn't pay her fare?

Or you meet another girl at a drink shop and she doesn't have any money. Apart from just meeting her, you really would have come their with or without anyone to grab a drink. She can't buy a $1 beverage/ cheaper water. Would you sit there and sip at your drink while she has nothing?

I'm on dates all the while where girls are dead broke. That's one reason I keep my dates very simple ( a walk in the park, seat and chat outside a bar). However if I must buy a drink, I stick to something really cheap ( $1 soda for example). I usually find out " discreetly " if she can afford one before and if she can't I buy her a water ( less than $1US ).

For some reason I don't want to be SUPER MEAN AND INSENSITIVE TO OTHERS FEELINGS. That's not to say I'm throwing away money on every date...

Troy

 

[Troy]

1. First possibility is that these women are lying to you and pretending to be broke because they can tell you are the kind of guy to believe it and pony up. I don't know if that's true, but I never run into "broke women" on dates/meets. But that also might be because...

2. You might be dating losers. We don't talk about it too much here, because it sounds "mean," but a TON of women are go-nowhere losers who you shouldn't be dating in the first place. Chicks who spend all their free time and money getting high or drunk and not doing shit with their lives, are really not worthy of your time and attention.

So I might aim for a higher quality woman, or at least figure out why they all seem to be "broke." How is it that you "subtly" figure out whether they can afford a drink, if I may ask?

Majority of the girls I go out with are in high school or just leaving. They don't work and get money from their parents/relatives.

I do end up on dates with " low ambition " weed heads from time to time , they look and act normal , it isn't till I deep dive them do I find out. I'm a very ambitious person so I click better with high ambitious and intelligent girls. Those air heads that ask me to spend money on their food I never meet again. I find it insulting " where does she come from so low down ?" I say in my head mind you.

You might never run into broke girls because they work, plus your frame control is strong so they wouldn't dare " try it ".

Yes maybe some girls are lying to me. I once went out with a liar . She told me she couldn't afford a drink , later she had to go in her purse and to my surprise she had about $20 on top. Damn liar SMH! I never saw her again ,luckily I didn't buy her that drink.

How I subtly figure out who is " broke is something like this :

Kfc Date

Troy: What food is your favorite here ?( KFC)

Jody : I love the barbeque chicken wings

Troy : I like the barbeque too along with a salad. So what are you BUYING today? ( I emphasize buying so she gets it)

Jody : lol I don't know as yet . My Mom didn't give me any money today

Troy : Oh

Jody : What are you buying ?

Troy : I'm not sure. Let's go somewhere else

Jody : OK

That's it. Some girls would ask me to buy . I just tell them " I'm broke too "

Troy

 

[Rusty]

You're still in high school? Or just out of it?

I don't know where you live, or how affluent the girls you're meeting are, but most women tend to have part time jobs, especially those who are in high school or just about to leave.

Despite the fact that I make more than a little pocket change for my job as a college student, I still tend to keep dates very cheap. Not to be a cheapskate, but because I genuinely don't have the resources to be throwing cash around. Women understand. It's not about spending. And it is really mostly about your frame. If you're buying her something as a way of "bribing" her, or you feel inadequate so you buy her something to "boost" your value, you're coming from the wrong place. It should be coming from a place of generosity, like you might buy your own good friend a drink or a bite to eat. Even so, I don't invest much financially on women. And like Drexel said, you don't have to.