The right way to make people laugh?

[Ezio]

Back in highschool, when i attended it as a freshman, in the first days there and for some of the first months on, i used to make all the friends of my class laugh. Everybody would laugh with my jokes and they were giving me lots of attention and i think i was being percieved as a "motherfucker". It felt good. But, after a while, i was running out of smart or good jokes to say, and eventually they started to lose respect for me. I am not sure yet what happened but i think i eventually made myself look like a clown.

The end of the highschool found me without the respect of my classmates. And after i finished it, i told myself, i will never make a clown out of myself again, by making people laugh constantly because of my jokes.

Now i am in university and i have managed my reputation well in there. Being a little bit "James Bondy" and keeping more of a serious face. Not making jokes, not making people laugh.

But, today, after 2-3 years of being more of a serious guy( even in the university), i let out a bit of my highschool persona out. I was out with my university friends and i was saying jokes and they couldn't stop laughing. They gave me comments like: " Didn't know you were like this (funny)" , " I enjoyed it" ( I kept my serious face most of the time before) - then telling the other of our friends "Oh, he was making me laugh so hard"

It feels good, it really does, when you say something and people enjoy it.
However, it is a tricky thing, eventually, by all this validation, you can't help but just keep thinking of the next funny thing to say and trying too hard to please them.
Especially me, when i make somebody else laugh geniunely because of me, i love the validation i get back, i crave it, and i can't stop myself from craving it. Then i become needy of it.

Anyway, i want to know if i went too far today. I want to know what could be a "right" way to make people laugh, without making myself a clown. I want to know in which way you can make people laugh to the deepest of their hearts and still be respected and not percieved as a clown. For more, i think i have this bad habit of laughing hard to my jokes along with them, instead of leaving them do the laughing. I think making a joke and not laughing to it yourself, makes you come out as more of value than laughing along with them. But i can't help laughing with my jokes. Maybe this is my problem.

Then, again, how do i make people laugh in a way that i add value to their perception of me and not be percieved as a clown, instead even making them respecting me more?

 

[Troy]

Ezio,

Humor is mankind's greatest blessing. Don't ever forget that. What I think the problem is ( assuming based on the few details you gave ) is that these people were laughing at you and not so much the joke. What kind of jokes do you tell? Are they about you or other stuff?

There is research to say that when you make people laugh 3 times it's hard for them to dislike you. Look at what happened to Jeremy Clarkson from Top Gear. Every show I've watched he never failed to make me laugh and so too the crowd. Today I was listening to the news and I heard that he has been assaulting his producer, bullying others, and making racist jokes. Yet despite all that I still think of him as a good man and wouldn't want anyone to replace him on the show. Funny how the mind works huh? People from all around the world have brought it to social media and have even voted saying " bring back Clarkson ".

The point I'm making is that making jokes isn't the problem but it's how they are said. I'd like to share an eBook that helps with your sense of humor. Download it here http://goo.gl/F492h0

If you have any questions feel free to PM me.

Troy

 

[Ezio]

These people laughing at me? Which ones? - regarding to the highschool ones, they surely did after a while, i don't know about the uni ones if they were laughing at me or the jokes, at the moment i said those jokes.

The jokes i said are these:
1. They were joking about how ones dick should be and i said: " It should be flexible ( said it in a funny synonym of my language for the word "flexible")"

2. We were at a bar drinking coffee(water glasses are served with the coffee here) and i needed to go to bathroom but while getting up i said: " Hey, i better go to bathroom before i fill your water glasses (implying that i would fill those with my urine)"

3. We were walking and we were talking about our national soccer team and we were discussing about who is gonna play the next game and i said: " I think that guy from the "village name" ( this village's name is a funny one and fits the player's last name, almost sounding like he really comes from that village, which he doesn't), named Balaj, is gonna play.

4. While in the classroom, i was talking to a friend sitting next to me, and we were talking about desktop wallpapers and then i said: " Have you ever visited YouJizz?( a porno website, not very popular here, but some people know it) - there you can find good wallpapers ( while the guy i asked wasn't aware of what it was, but in the meantime a guy happened to know what it was and he couldnt stop laughing, then he told others, and they couldn't stop laughing, thus laughing with this joke of mine)

These are from what i could remember. There were some more, but these are mainly the ones which made them laugh hard. As to my jokes, when i think i can do something to make someone laugh, i don't spare myself-i make jokes at my expense too.

Thanks a lot for the book, when i downloaded it, i saw i had downloaded it before, but apparently never got to read it. Have you read this book yourself? If yes, how much has it helped you?

The point I'm making is that making jokes isn't the problem but it's how they are said.

Please, elaborate it more. I understand the point, but i would want to know more.

Thanks for helping, Troy!