Re: The Truth About Women (Chase, Franco, some stuff worth r
Good find here, Zac.
There are a lot of solid points made in these articles, and there is definitely some truth to be acknowledged. However, if it were myself, I would have to "tweak" his arguments a bit.
I think women are
definitely capable of making deep connections, but unlike men,
those deep connections only last as long as her emotions and desires are being fulfilled. In other words, the connections women make will decay if you do not constantly provide them with the emotions that they crave and desire.
If you have noticed, men, on the other hand, can form strong bonds with other men that last for a lifetime --
even if they are not in contact for long periods of time. I have plenty of friends that I consider "good" friends of mine that I do not interact with for months (or sometimes even years) and yet, when we see each other, it's almost as if we had never been apart.
This is where the disconnect comes in when a man tries to reconnect with a woman that has emotionally severed that connection. You'll often see men saying things like the following about their exes or their former lovers:
- "Well she must still have feelings for me! We shared such a strong bond... I'm SURE she must still feel something for me and be wanting to keep in touch!"
"She only left me because I messed up... but if I can show her I've changed, then she will want me back!"
What most of these men don't realize is that
once that emotional connection has been severed for a girl, then in her mind, she will never be able to get it back -- at least not anywhere near the level it was when it was the strongest. Biologically, this makes sense. If a woman has deemed a man as not worthy of bearing her children (or she has found a new man that is
more worthy of bearing her children), then keeping the "lower" man around as a "beta male" will only harm her value and decrease her fertility. It is biologically better for her to cut ties with unworthy men.
So in some sense, this article hits on some strong points about the emotional disconnect between men and women. However, I think it is important to note that women
are capable of strong, emotional connections... but their emotions are extremely fleeting. You
must continue to provide her with the best and strongest emotions for that connection to continue to last.
Just my two cents!
- Franco
