The Victim mentality vs unfavorable location, what is hurting me more?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I think I maybe suffering from somewhat of a victim mentality. My victim mentality has to do with my ethnicity (Korean) and location (area of America known for being opposite of progressive) stopping me from getting the kind of women I run into a lot on a daily basis (attractive White girls). But I feel like even if I was to overcome my mental demons which were caused by me having lots of bad experiences with White American girls when I was going to high school in Louisiana, it won't help me get the attractive White girls in my location. Even if I did, the girl would have to be more of an exception like part of a crowd of girls known for going interracial, one with an asian fetish, etc. Not the kind of girl who is hot and in a sorority or just a hot girl who wants the best kind of men out there.

Now I know I can't change my race, even though I am tall and good looking, but I can change

1. My mindset
2. My location

I have already taken the steps to bettering my mindset in recent days.

The reason I think my location is limiting me is because I do so well with women who aren't White and some of these girls are very attractive, unfortunately when it comes to White girls even if I act normal around them they don't want anything to do with me. I have never seen any attractive White girls in my area with Asian or foreign looking boyfriends, almost all of them are with a White guy that has the All American looks.

What makes it a problem for me is that I don't know of areas in America where an Asian guy with good looks and nice game could get an attractive White girl because I have never personally met a couple like this in real life.

The issue here for me is I am wondering if there is really something wrong with me or if I am just in a bad location to get the kind of girls I want.

 

[Thedoctor]

Fuji,

The fact that you mention there is a possibility that you have a victim mentality leads me to believe you probably do. Otherwise, it probably wouldn't have come up from you. My suggestion would be to focus on changing your outlook (victim mentality) and focus on really honing your fundamentals. Then I'd make a checklist of white women vs non-white. Approach the same amount and track your successes. If you consistently find that you have absolutely no success with white women, but lots of success with non-white, then I'd suggest moving.

Personally, I don't really care what race a girl is. She could be blue-coloured for all I care so long as she's attractive. But we all have our preferences.

-John