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Hi!
A year ago, I moved from Russia to Amsterdam. I can speak English, but it’s still a struggle. I’ve only just started to adapt and socialize again, but I still don’t have any English-speaking friends. Honestly, I’ve kind of forgotten what sex even is.
Lately, I finally started going back to ecstatic dance — and I can feel myself becoming more free and open each week. I want to try going to a tantra again, but I’m nervous about doing it with my level of English.
So far, I haven’t been able to push myself to go out and meet people regularly. I’ve tried giving compliments, tried simple approaches like “Hey, I just want to talk for a minute,” and then left — usually they talked to me out of politeness. A couple of times I had real conversations with girls, but I was too hesitant to ask them out. Next time I won’t miss that moment. My current goal is to start talking to someone every day — just one conversation, minimum a minute, no excuses. But I still can’t make myself do it.
I know a wingman would help me a lot. What I really miss is just having some basic support — someone next to me. From experience, I know it gives me motivation. I have no idea where to find one. I can’t believe there’s no community in the capital of the Netherlands — but I haven’t found it yet. So for now, I’ll be playing solo.
A year ago, I moved from Russia to Amsterdam. I can speak English, but it’s still a struggle. I’ve only just started to adapt and socialize again, but I still don’t have any English-speaking friends. Honestly, I’ve kind of forgotten what sex even is.
Lately, I finally started going back to ecstatic dance — and I can feel myself becoming more free and open each week. I want to try going to a tantra again, but I’m nervous about doing it with my level of English.
So far, I haven’t been able to push myself to go out and meet people regularly. I’ve tried giving compliments, tried simple approaches like “Hey, I just want to talk for a minute,” and then left — usually they talked to me out of politeness. A couple of times I had real conversations with girls, but I was too hesitant to ask them out. Next time I won’t miss that moment. My current goal is to start talking to someone every day — just one conversation, minimum a minute, no excuses. But I still can’t make myself do it.
I know a wingman would help me a lot. What I really miss is just having some basic support — someone next to me. From experience, I know it gives me motivation. I have no idea where to find one. I can’t believe there’s no community in the capital of the Netherlands — but I haven’t found it yet. So for now, I’ll be playing solo.
