Sup guys. Been some time away from here for me. I got back into approaching after some needed time off last Saturday. Here we go:
I went out Saturday night in Philly, "warmed up" at one place (I didn't talk to anyone there, so I left about an hour after.) I was walking around Philly deciding where to go next, and I see these two girls walking in front of me. Couldn't tell how cute they were ( I'm near-sighted), so I got closer and asked if they knew where Coda lounge was. I noticed quickly they were drunk, but they were cool. We were talking for a few minutes, and they told me they knew the owner of the lounge I was looking for; they took me there. Sure enough, the club owner came out and escorted us past the line to get in and a free drink. Not a bad start!
Anyway, they lost interest in speaking with me, so I walked around and chatted up some people. First few girls weren't interested in chatting or dancing. I was going around talking to a couple of the bouncers just to keep some good connections, plus, it's not everyday bouncers are actually really cool. I danced with one girl whose hair I complimented earlier, but she left after one dance. Some minutes later, I lock eyes with this cute, petite girl with black hair who was dancing at her VIP area. I smiled and motioned her over. Keep in mind it was hard to hear her in the club:
As we were dancing, we were talking more:
I think I screwed up here but after a few minutes of dancing, I pulled out my phone and motioned for her to put her number in my phone. I noticed I did this because I've been working on being more aggressive and less passive:
She gave me a look when I pulled out my phone at first; her countering saying I should put my number in hers made me think that was a mistake since she could just ignore it; I also felt like I was chasing her at that moment (overthinking?) After that, I showed her how to dance bachata to get off of that mistake, and seemingly it worked. She seemed a little intrigued to learn a new dance. Here's where I start getting more confused. I think she was a little drunk too, so this may come into play.
I remember Chase saying that you shouldn't kiss a girl on the dance floor unless you have a place to pull her that's opportune enough. She was in the VIP area with her sister, so I was sure she wouldn't leave her alone there if I kissed her. But I gave her the triangle gaze from eyes to her nose and back a few times and I just felt like I should have. I didn't, and after dancing with her for about 20-30 minutes, the place was closing. I met her sister and said a few words to her, and she said she was going to leave. I convinced her to stay and chat with me for a few minutes outside, and while we were out there, she called her uber. I tried chatting her up to go for a pull and go to her place, seemed far-fatched here to me since she didn't want to stay initially, but fuck it, I'm trying. Sadly, she got into her Uber with her sister a few minutes after and I went to Mcdonalds with some guys hanging outside instead lol.
What do you guys think? I texted her the next day, but I got no response. Was I overthinking the kissing her on the dance floor part? That's one thing that always confuses me, because I see so many guys do that, but they end up going home alone after. Then again, I don't have enough experience to comfortable say that that's always the case. Feedback appreciated!
I went out Saturday night in Philly, "warmed up" at one place (I didn't talk to anyone there, so I left about an hour after.) I was walking around Philly deciding where to go next, and I see these two girls walking in front of me. Couldn't tell how cute they were ( I'm near-sighted), so I got closer and asked if they knew where Coda lounge was. I noticed quickly they were drunk, but they were cool. We were talking for a few minutes, and they told me they knew the owner of the lounge I was looking for; they took me there. Sure enough, the club owner came out and escorted us past the line to get in and a free drink. Not a bad start!
Anyway, they lost interest in speaking with me, so I walked around and chatted up some people. First few girls weren't interested in chatting or dancing. I was going around talking to a couple of the bouncers just to keep some good connections, plus, it's not everyday bouncers are actually really cool. I danced with one girl whose hair I complimented earlier, but she left after one dance. Some minutes later, I lock eyes with this cute, petite girl with black hair who was dancing at her VIP area. I smiled and motioned her over. Keep in mind it was hard to hear her in the club:
She gave me an inviting look that said: Show me. So I went under the VIP rope into her section and started dancing with her. The bouncer came over quickly to see if she was okay with me, and he quickly left.
As we were dancing, we were talking more:
I think I screwed up here but after a few minutes of dancing, I pulled out my phone and motioned for her to put her number in my phone. I noticed I did this because I've been working on being more aggressive and less passive:
She gave me a look when I pulled out my phone at first; her countering saying I should put my number in hers made me think that was a mistake since she could just ignore it; I also felt like I was chasing her at that moment (overthinking?) After that, I showed her how to dance bachata to get off of that mistake, and seemingly it worked. She seemed a little intrigued to learn a new dance. Here's where I start getting more confused. I think she was a little drunk too, so this may come into play.
I remember Chase saying that you shouldn't kiss a girl on the dance floor unless you have a place to pull her that's opportune enough. She was in the VIP area with her sister, so I was sure she wouldn't leave her alone there if I kissed her. But I gave her the triangle gaze from eyes to her nose and back a few times and I just felt like I should have. I didn't, and after dancing with her for about 20-30 minutes, the place was closing. I met her sister and said a few words to her, and she said she was going to leave. I convinced her to stay and chat with me for a few minutes outside, and while we were out there, she called her uber. I tried chatting her up to go for a pull and go to her place, seemed far-fatched here to me since she didn't want to stay initially, but fuck it, I'm trying. Sadly, she got into her Uber with her sister a few minutes after and I went to Mcdonalds with some guys hanging outside instead lol.
What do you guys think? I texted her the next day, but I got no response. Was I overthinking the kissing her on the dance floor part? That's one thing that always confuses me, because I see so many guys do that, but they end up going home alone after. Then again, I don't have enough experience to comfortable say that that's always the case. Feedback appreciated!
