Things U should not do after she rejects you in social circle. 2nd Chances

[trashKENNUT]

Hi GUys,

This are the things you should not do after she rejects your advances in asking her out for a date.

1) Don't rub it in her face.

Don't rub it in her face. Just let her have the last say in what she wants to say. Given an example...

You: We should hang out sometime

Her: I actually was very busy starting my own business.

You: Okay i didn't actually care.

Some guys including myself tend to say this "Last statement" thing at times, It's unintentional. But it is a bad habit that allow girls to not ask you out when she's sees you with another women.

2) Don't Pull Back

This is quite similar to point 1. Just that this is more of you having a conversation with her, and flirting, and THEN she rejects you, you said it is okay, and we can be friends. Let me note this, YES, EVEN IF YOU EXPERIENCED AND YOU SAY WE CAN BE FRIENDS, GIRLS JUST DON'T THINK THAT WAY!!! JUST BE GRACEFUL ENOUGH AND END THE CONVERSATION. LET HER WONDER. ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS.

LASTLY,

3) LET HER COME TO YOU.

NOW, i will note that girls are good in games, they really do, but they are also terrible at hiding them. This applies to girls whom you had a feel that she likes you. DON'T CHASE AFTER HER. IT JUST SPOILS HER INTEREST AND EVEN IF YOU GET HER EARLY, SHE DOESN'T FEEL THAT ELEMENT OF CHALLENGE, AND TAKES YOU FOR GRANTED. GIVE HER a little bait here and there (not too long though) before you go for her. (YOu know like how you love to give cats that run around with the string kind of thing)

and that is of course if you willing to lose the friendship or you prefer only to sleep with her once just to preserve the friendship. Women are smart, They know sex changes everything, and you be surprised. They know.

Zac

 

[Marty]

Zac:

#3: how do you reconcile this with moving fast? This is where I slip up, every single time. I'm so afraid she'll think I'm one of those guys who just teases but never actually DOES anything and get bored, that I start chasing and she runs away?

How do you balance it??

-Marty

 

[trashKENNUT]

#3: how do you reconcile this with moving fast? This is where I slip up, every single time. I'm so afraid she'll think I'm one of those guys who just teases but never actually DOES anything and get bored, that I start chasing and she runs away?

How do you balance it??

I think you are more concern with what girls will react when you chase after them. I think we need to set two distinctions, because the way of handling it is two very distinct methods.

1) Girl in a Social Circle, and you like her

This is unfortunately what happen to most guys. There is a girl in the social circle and after awhile, something happen, You went for a trip and BAM!, She's hot, She's cool and all those sort of things. The problem with this is that guys will start display high value (DHV), tease her a lot harder than usual.

The thing is she doesn't know anything!!!

If she does, it depends on her attraction of you. IF she doesn't like you, you fucked yourself up, the social circle can know this, and if you not one of the few "cool", "funny" or you not seen being liked with other girls, you are "creepy", and if your guy friends are pussy, you lose friends, because the girl is more dominant. So yea, Life can be idiotic, but that's how some things unfortunately exist.

MY advice, Pull back, Slowly decline group outings. and be on the periphery. After some time, Invite them out and have some pre-selection done for you. Key here is pull and then push back slowly.

2) Girl in a Social Circle, and She likes you, suddenly

This is when she saw you with other girls outside, or when you reasonably sexy, and she saw you playing with children, and suddenly YOU HOT!. For this one, you don't rub it in her face, Don't tease her a hell lot. DOn't come out telling her i love you either. Be aware, Don't ask her out on a date so fast, because she really doesn't want to lose the friendship. She really do. She is just as worried as you are, and also, She is excited, So don't ruin that chance of slight fun.

My advice here, Be neutral, Don't talk to her so much (Don't purposely avoid her though!). Flirt with her lightly, then gradually without being too obvious, like what you do when dating in a workplace. and then casually ask her out. She will get it. If she doesn't mean, she doesn't like you as much!

*there will be exceptions where your other girl friends know this and push you two to be together. You can move things forward as normal but as i noted, you must be willing to lose the friendship too.

Zac