FR this girl was so weird.... yet interested?

[maximus6004]

So I met yet another girl from the bar, same bar. However, she didnt really have a sense of humour.... stay awau from.these girls. Guess I.just needed a reminder though.

So I set up a coffee date with her and we meet up I finally get her laughing. She looks like sarah sylverman. However, we went to the first starbucks. Power was out. Second starbucks under construction... third starbucks bingo! I can already tell she is interested as this was a lot.of.investment on her part to.follow me.through.

Well I learn about her, into.reptiles like snakes, california girl... my god this is the second california girl who is pretty and like this, I.just dont understand girls from.cali. as one I went on a date with last year did the same thing just not as bad. She has a motorcycle, and an ass out of this world she is sexy as hell.... but so weird, oh so.weird!

So we go.walking I reach for her hand.

Her"no"
Me"lol, what do you mean no?"
Her"I thought you said you werent boyfriend.material"
Me"im not"
Her"then why are you trying to.hold my hand"
Me"oh my gosh! I forgot, boys have cooties shame.on.me for forgetting that. Shame on me, guess its just the bad girls around me who bring out that side of me, but im an angel"
Her"you are no fucking angel"

And fast forward.
Me"so lets go back.to my place and watch a movie"
Her"I dont watch movies"
Me"ok, lets say thats code for, lets just go back to my place and talk"
Her"fine, I guess lets go"

Uhm? Ok so we get back.to.my place and shes like so why dont you do relationships.

Me"girls cant keep.up.with ne im too.picky, I mean all the girls I talk to dont even read"
Her"I read"

So she is qualifying herself. Then I tell her to.come.sit by me but she doesnt like to be touched nothing. Her vibe just starts freaking me.out through the night she is just weird.I cant explain it. Very closed.off but I cant tell.she is interested. So I finally get weirded out and try the

Me"oh, well you have to work at 5a.m. dont.you have a curfew"
Her"no, so tell.me.more about you"

Lol woman go.home! She tries to talk.more and tells.me she likes concerts but hates them because she doesnt like to be in.close proximity of people. So finally im.able to get her out with.

Me"so, how do you have sex then"
Her"what do you mean"
Me"if you dont like.people touching you"
Her"ok its time.for.me.to go"
Me"oh, if only you could stay longer.... careful on the stairs when you leave though"

Just awkward, and I havent had a girl like this in over a year but wow I dont even want to know whats going through her head.... just saying, I need to day game.more because these woman at the bar just get weirder and more messed up and.its.messing with my head that woman.are not normal.

 

[Atra]

Ok, here are my thoughts from a woman's perspective.
When read the reports here, I often think you guys overestimate how interested women are to have sex with you. While I can understand that you got frustrated, I honestly think I could have reacted like her myself. Here is why:
Girls accept invitations from a variety of reasons. One, *she* may be looking for a boyfriend. Perhaps this was the case with this girl and she got disappointed and then angry when she understood that you had invited her out because you wanted casual sex?
Also, perhaps she just wanted fun conversation, admiration and attention and didn't want to sleep with you in the first place.
So, why did she accept to go to your place and see a movie? Perhaps she thought that the evening had turned out to be not what she had hpoed anyway, she didn't any other things to do and didn't want to just go home early and alone.

When I read the reports here, I think what you guys often miss and where you're dates go wrong, is that if you are going to make her have sex with you this early, you have to have built strong sexual tension and arousal first. How sexually initiatives are received, strongly depends of how aroused she is. There is a fine line between what is totally hot and sexy when you're really into a guy and just waiting for him to make a move, and what's to pushy and hence annoying.

Just curious: where there any signs that she was aroused and wanted to go to bed with you?

 

[maximus6004]

She told me she wasnt girlfriend material. She was just a very awkward girl. I even asked her up front why she met me up. She said what else do you do with a guy you like? No doubt in my mind did I doubt she wasnt interested in me as at the bar she came up.to me to say good bye. She just doesnt like physical contact. She doesnt.like to be touched or be close to anyone. Dont get me.wrong I dont get angry when I dont get sex the first night I have a roster of.girls.I.can call when.im desperate. But when I make.it clear that im out with you cuz I like you, but.your to scared to even sit beside.me.hold my hand or sit lay beside.me well we are just wasting time here. My sister is very shy around guys so trust me I.know some.girls arent like this however it usually leads tonprpblems.with that girl. Aka.my.sister was raped and she is an awesome.person she is.my sister she is fun but when it comes to.sexual relationships she is an.utter mess. So boom.red flag you gotta go.im.sorry but you cant save someone from themselves only they can.

Second point chase has talked about it, where he helped a girl.once that he liked, and then she went off and slept with a guy and knew he haf a crush on the girl. I had this happen twice to me. A girl told.me she didnt want to be with me.and.on her roster but we both liked each other and I helped her through depression when I called her to come.just lay and spend.timenwith me no where to be found until she wanted to.kill herself she expected me.to be therewhile finding out she was sleeping with a guy when she said she wasnt ready to just have sex. Well guess what when that ended thats when she called. I also had another girl and as embarrassing as it is to admit I was shopping guy and it hit me when she called.me.over to dispose of a pet that died so her daughter didnt.have to see it. Lol and after that happened thanks have a good day. Derp idiot.

Point is, I have had a couple girls who would be skeptical and pull away from a kiss or a hand hold but weren't weird about it they were testing she was just very awkward about everything. Yes im pretty sure she was upset when I didnt chase her shes a cool girl but she has some.issues that im not prepared to deal with.

I can understand when a girl will be upset about the situation when it a friendship but when.I clearly.flirt with yiu say lets go.on a date and you try to friend zone me lol no. Im not your bitch as it were.

Atra, the question I have for you, is why are you on a pickup site for men, and this post seem to hit a nerve.... its interesting, I love a womans.perspective but as chase points out its different for woman.to.pick.up.woman than men.picking up.woman. just curious though

 

[Atra]

Hey, Maximus!
Seems like it turne out the bet way, then, i.e. you found out fast that there was no point hanging out wwith her anymore!

To your question, why do I as a woman hang aroud o this site?
1. The simple, suerficial answer is that it is always interesting to know how "theother side" is thinking, and as a girl, you don't get the chance that often to listen to boys talk.

2. More profound: I have struggled with sex and relationships myself, and not really found many helpful answers in books,blogs etc I've read. Magazines like Cosmopolitan often writes things like "relax, he thinks you're gorgous anyway" that I also don't find very helpful. The few men I've met who have had a strong sexual vibe, have all been like Chase and his team describe, and I don't think it's common knowledge. This also applies to Chase's inrecource technique, which I didn't understand before a great lover demonstrated it to me. When I later saw the description here, I though "yes!"While I don't agree on everything, of cource, I stille think Chase has understood - and explained - things most other people haven't. In short, I wish I had met more men who had this knowledge earlier in my life.
I also find his posts about social skills very though out and helpful, even if not everything applies to women.
Does this make sense?

 

[maximus6004]

Yes ma'am I agree with you a hundred percent. Of course the articles in.magazines arent helpful. If they were no money would be made.

Im glad you are here its awesome to get a womans perspective. Yes the social situations also have helped me.incredibly, dealing with woman has increased my life in every aspect not just woman. How do you feel about it?. Has it helped you out? Hpw had your game increased.... hope I.dont run into.you though lol cuz you have our game figured out!

About the girl, im sure I could have got her over time, but the end scenario would have been ugly, and she would have made a dude jump.through hoops as well as just been a miserable person to be around. No.matter how beautiful there was something not right with her its good to be able to.see that. Up front

 

[R.A.D.]

Well to add a mans view on it In my experience those girls are terribly insecure even if they dont look like that. The awkwardness and how she constantly put herself in a different place when you showed affection instead of sexual behaviour are some signs. So she fell in auto rejection as you didnt make things happen as expected, so beyond that point i dont think that you could have said anything that changed things much, she was already trying to escape the situation. Most times she expects men to treat them a certain way and if you dont then they shut down like that, nothing is good enough then.

I think this shows you should search your priorities and look for girls like the ones you want, that didnt sound like the kind of girl you take out for a walk holding her hand and have an interesting chat. Not to say anything bad about her, just not the kind of woman for that.