This Is Probably Weird But Here Goes

[Anonymous]

Hello all! I've been reading GC for...well really ever since 2011. I've learned loads but I also realized some uncanny things about myself which is why I decided to make a forum account and see if anyone else has experienced this problem.

I was reading an article on naturals and it dawned on me that I'm a natural...only in certain moods.

Let me try and explain further--please bear with me..

I find that whenever I'm being myself and not worrying about anything I'm excellent with women. I get numbers. I lead. I sleep with women. I can hold my own--easily.

However, there are other moods where I can't do anything and I'm the complete opposite. I can't get numbers. I can't lead. I say the wrong things (a lot of the times while knowing exactly what I have to say to get what I want).

Up until I really started thinking about what could be going on...I was completely stumped.

But then, and this is what I want opinions on, I realized what it is that has been holding me back: my socialization.

I had been socialized in such a way as to:

a) Be afraid
b) Move slowly; hesitate
c) Not be confrontational

And I'm the furthest from these things when I'm in my "natural" mode

Has anyone noticed something like this with themselves or have any advice how I can move forward in the smartest way to riding myself of--what I consider to be--negative effects of socialization.

I hope this made some sense...

If anyone would like me to try explain better, I think I can do better if perhaps you prompt me with some questions.

Thank you everyone. I really look forward to growing with you.

 

[Mr.Rob]

What do you mean by socialized?
You mean socially conditioned?

What you're talking about as far as when your natural vs. not is probably what PUA's refer to as being "in state".

Yes I've noticed the same as well. I have a lot of "natural" tendencies to my personality as well (i'm very calibrated socially and emotionally intelligent) mostly subcommunication stuff but I lack the "howto" and the meat and potato type of shit (IDK what to call it) such as how to talk to people in general.

What happens is that over time, especially if I'm going out on a regular basis, I train my brain to be more "in state" than out of state and it becomes closer to my default.

Does that make sense/am I even hitting the right tangent here?

Nice to have you on board, 3 years of GC material is a lot lol!

-Rob

 

[Light]

You are talking about your "State".

Your state determines your every action in life.
When you get into the right state, you become powerful almighty and confident.
But if you're in a lousy state, you will get lousy results.

If you would like more information, I recommend you YouTube for Tony Robbins on State.