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FR++  Three girls, one pissed, one stolen, one LMR

Byron

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Ok so this was last weekend, and it's almost friday again. i've been going out 2-3 days a week on weekends and trying to game, but have had some rep issues from getting wayyy too drunk one night.
So this is saturday. My friday night sucked. I was out with my sports team, but down the whole night, because everywhere I looked naturals were getting with girls and I was increasingly left on my own (I even had a girl ask me how to help her get with a guy, I gave her a few pointers for kicks).
Saturday night I resolved to change things. I started the night out going over to the dorm of the girl from https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=11493 to tell ghost stories with her and her roommate and a few other girls who were around (and I think into me, but not attractive). We passed around vodka as we did so, and when the lights were out I grabbed her and made out with her in an attempt to boost my confidence. She tried to escalate further, but I wasn't gonna stop there for the night. We will call her Girl #1 because I'm not in the mood to sort out names (long day of school, but trying to get back in the swing of writing reports, have a lot of FU reports I should have put up).
I convinced them all to head down to this house party thrown by people we met during our first week. Once there, we kept drinking, I passed around my drink (I had mixed blueberry vodka with lemonade and it tasted girly and fruity but I was quite proud of the fact that it was strong and the alcohol was tasteless), and had everyone taste it. I started up a conversation with with a junior girl, cute, slim and who I already had met previously. She was a dancer who we will call Girl #2, and it went something like this:


Me: You're so moody and quiet, is something wrong? You look pissed...
Her: Haha no, what?
Me: Seriously what's up?
Her: No this is just my face I have resting bitch face lol
Me: Ohhh wow I see. Hmm...Smile for me?
Her: what why?
Me: Come on, just smile! (I'm using a variation of cute and sexy look throughout)
*She smiles*
Me: Therrreeee we go.

I think at this point I start to tease her about dancing. Randomly she starts telling me about her different styles of dance. She takes off a ring and I move closer, sitting by her feet with my head near her lap kinda just tilted onto her legs (it sounds weirder thinking back on it...)


Me: So, this ring?
Her: yeah it's for our dancers, we all have it.

I take her hand, slide the ring off her and put it on my pinky
She shows me how it's made to not hurt a dancers hand etc...

Ok so this is getting longer than I wanted, I'm not even halfway through the night.

Eventually after I sit around and flirt, Girl #1 is jealous and gestures for me to sit next to her. I stick my tongue out at her teasingly (a habit that worked in high school, but may be too boyish now). We as a group decide to walk up to campus to this dance (everyone is pretty drunk by now, and our campus has a club style dance floor inside, where everyone goes already drunk to dance). I'm walking with Girls #1 and 2 next to me on either side, when the other girls call them back. They all shout to me
We are having a fivesome!

I smirk and yell back Good, let me join!

They all yell nooooo and I laugh. Then the owner of the house we were just at, a senior who has decent natural game (and latino machismo, despite being 5'5") just walks up and slides his hands around them. He says
You will let me join cause I'm king...
and one of the girls shouts "king of the man bun!"

and everyone laughs. I'm going to call this senior Oberyn, because of the machismo, accent, and general vibe (and cause GOT fucking rocks).

We arrive at the dance. I start dancing with a few people, some other friends join us (a lot of them are high) and a few are pretty decent at game but not spectacular. My sports team dances by and I abandon my current group to dance with them, but in the milieu of the tightly packed dance floor, I end up with a few senior girls from the team (we party co-ed) and they don't let me join their circle, giving me glares. I make my way back to the original group, and am joined by the second-best natural I've met while on campus. His vibe reminds me of Anatman's basically...except less direct. He's important to this, so I'll call him Drogo (he reminds me of the character, with tats and a very manly vibe). He and I compete a bit for Girl #2, who he has his sights on. He gets her and I'm left with Girl #1 and a few others, Girl #1 is trying to get my attention and grinding into me the whole while. Girl #2 comes back and starts flirting with me and I see Drogo is with another girl, and #2 is probably trying to make him jealous. I want a break and go out to find the bathroom, end up wandering outside and having to come back in again.

Once back in, more of the same happens for about twenty minutes. Then the dance is over and ambulances are there... and Girl #1 has had enough of my shit and says she's tired, and heads home. My friends and I head out back to the house, and Drogo comes with. He starts flirting with every girl there, and whenever I'd start a convo with one of them he'd come up and take her...and I started to get pissed.

Disclaimer: Drogo and I are friends, albeit not very good ones. We are both freshman, both competitive as fuck, and he's a great deal better than me, but with a similar game style.

So we are walking down to the house. Once there, we are unsure of where to go as multiple houses are having parties and we were invited to several. We are joined by another natural...the best I've seen on campus. I mentioned him https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=11412&p=57100#p57100 there, he was the natural flirting with Ashley (they hooked up later that night, I found out the next day). I will call him Daario, in keeping with the theme and his vibe (he seems very chill and masculine, but has a rep as one of the craziest partiers and most prolific player on campus). I start to talk to Girl #3, a cute, curvy, but not stunning shorter girl.

Daario invites us to go chill at his house, which just so happens to be the same house my sports team parties in. I mention that I know the way and start to lead the whole group there. Drogo and I start talking about girls, and he mentions wanting to go for Girl#2. Then he nudges me and points out this stunning blonde. Enter Girl #4. I immediately said dibs, and wandered over and put my arm around her.

She laughs and we start to head over to Daario's house. On the way there, I deep dive her about her past (she's a small town girl) and what she wants to do in college (have lots of fun basically). Drogo starts laughing at one point and pulls me aside.
He tells me

Bro, you're so physical hahahha.
I laugh and say yeah it's my style.
He responds: Yeah all I do is verbal. But you don't say shit you just act physical.

We were both pretty drunk and I fall back to Girl #4.
I stop her and kiss her in the middle of the street, just to see if I could. I can, but then she stops me. We continue on and arrive at the house. Once I am there, I dance with her a little bit then immediately pull her into a side room and we start making out.
I escalate to the bed, then one of my teammates bursts into the room and says YOOO not in my room bro
I laugh and say ok. We head down to the basement and continue making out, and I slide my hands under her shirt and shorts while doing so. I hitch her legs around my waist and push her up against the wall and she is all over me.
Then one of the people who came with us, a gay guy who tried to get with me one other night when I was really drunk (Drogo rescued me), yells out her name and she runs back upstairs.

I head up more slowly. I get into a beer pong game with Oberyn, Daario, Drogo, with it being Oberyn and I vs Drogo and Daario. Yeah...I'm playing in the big leagues tonight.

Except while I'm doing this, my teammate is flirting with girl#4. When we finish the game, he immediately challenges her to be his teammate while escalating on her physically. I try to get her attention with some jerk game, just telling her how much she sucks at it and teasing her, but her attention is all over him. After the game, he takes her hand and heads back to his room and they disappear for the remainder of the party. I. Am. Pissed.

Drogo comes up and we talk it over, he says the gay guy was worried cause I was being too physical and that's why he called her up etc. I doubt that's the reason but oh well. I ask what happened with Girl #2 and him and he says she's playing him to try to get back with her ex.

I head back to a dorm room with Girl #3 and her roommate, Drogo and a few other guys. We are sitting around drinking gatorade and I'm sitting on my own, with Drogo dominating the conversation, as he generally does. I pull Girl#3 to sit on my lap, she does briefly but leaves. Drogo pulls her roommate out into the hall and starts making out, a few more people start making out. I laugh, just whisper "wow" to Girl#3 and then grab her and pull her onto my lap again. She kisses me.
We make out for a while in full view of everyone, then as people start to head back to rooms with each other I stay and lead her onto the bed. We continue making out but every time I escalate further, she won't let me go beyond fingering her through her clothes.
Eventually I stop, smirk, and say "night"...Then I walk out and go home cause it's 5am and I gotta be up at 9.
Fucking college life.

This was last weekend and this weekend I'll try to see what happens, gonna party with these people one night (tomorrow) and then the team the next, who don't like me nearly as much.
My mindset was kinda fucked at the beginning of this week and Girl #1 and her friends are still mad at me, and I'm facing what Chase or Anatman detailed as Ricky-Bobby syndrome of being down cause other people are doing better than me. I also haven't talked to Drogo since, although Oberyn came up and said he and Daario had seen what happened, that I couldn't blame the teammate since it what happened was completely on the girl. I think Daario was just trying to keep me from being pissed at my teammate but whatever.

Will try to get my spirits back up. Thoughts? Suggestions?
Byron.
 

Byron

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Re: FR++ Three girls, one pissed, one stolen, one LMR

Also, how should I go about providing enough value that guys like Oberyn, Drogo, and Daario will want to befriend me? I struggle with creating friendship groups of guys and most of my friends are generally girls; I only see these guys at parties.
Drogo and I were close our first week, but he's drifted away to guys more on his level (and gotten laid 2-3 times each week), because as I said he's light-years ahead of me.
 
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Re: FR++ Three girls, one pissed, one stolen, one LMR

I'm no expert, but some things did stick out.

First was the beer pong game. If your mission was to get laid, and things had progressed to the point where you're pulling (even getting to third base), why hit the brakes for an all-dude beer pong game? Ride the momentum of the near lay and hit up another girl. Or at least invite some girl to play with you like the teammate did. If girl #4 had seen you with another girl, she might have gotten jealous and dragged you back again. Instead she saw you with a bunch of guys, all of whom are ready to snipe her from you.

Second was it sounded like most of the guys and girls know each other, or that the girls were all with guy friends. That changes the game a lot because the girls are more conscious of reputation if the whole social circle is there, and guy friends are never good news. Three times (more?) you made an open move, and three times some guy saw it and stepped in to muck it up. In that atmosphere it might work out better to be more discreet when pulling. Maybe tell her to meet you outside in a minute so you're not seen slipping away together. Regardless, I'd get her number before trying to pull. If you hit a snag, you can still salvage it by sending a text to meet up (either that night or later).

Third is the other guys. You know them better than I do, but from your story they sounded like serious cockblocks, even bordering on dick moves. No guys who are cool with each other would come up and pull away girls you're obviously flirting with. A real buddy/wingman would help you. These guys sound like they only hurt you. If you're not friends with them outside of parties and this is how they treat you at parties, do you really want to be friends with them? Pretending to be friendly then stealing girls you're talking to sounds downright sociopathic. If you can go out as friends with them and support each other as true wingmen, great. Otherwise...

Lastly, I think you could have had the final girl but there was a slip up. When everyone started making out, you told her, "This is crazy." That probably came off judgmental (not to mention nervous) to her and her slut defenses kicked in. Imagine if the girl had said that first. Would you interpret as something she approved of?

A better response would have been to say, "Wow. Look at all the fun everyone is having," smirk at her, then lean in to kiss. That does two things: set up the makeout outbreak as a good thing you won't judge her over, and reinforce the fact that "everyone is doing it" so the group won't judge her. If she's still hesitant, tell her, "We're just going with the flow." Smirk again, lean in again.

Honestly I think there was only that slight misstep of yours at the end. I think a lot of the roadblocks came from the other guys there. Try to branch out into parties and settings where everyone isn't already in a social circle together. At future tight circle gatherings, be a bit more discreet. Then ask yourself if you really want to be friends with those guys. Maybe I'm just misreading their personalities from your story and they're actually super great, but keep an eye out for any behavior that seems like they're pretending to be friends just to boost their own egos while disrespecting you. University can be a scary lonely place and the urge to quickly make friends is strong, but they have to respect you first and foremost.
 

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Re: FR++ Three girls, one pissed, one stolen, one LMR

H and T said what I was thinking. If you physically escalate, isolate to a private location, your or her room preferably.

Doesn't take long to get a reputation if you make out with multiple women at the same venue. Yeah it is an ego boost, but doesn't do you any good in the long run.

Also your numerous references to being drunk aren't doing you any good. Nothing wrong with having a few cocktails but your calibration is better the more sober you are.
 

Byron

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Re: FR++ Three girls, one pissed, one stolen, one LMR

Thanks for all the pointers!
@H and T
First was the beer pong game. If your mission was to get laid, and things had progressed to the point where you're pulling (even getting to third base), why hit the brakes for an all-dude beer pong game?
I'm also trying to network and make friends and these are all pretty high caliber dudes, albeit kinda dicks it's true. So, yeah that's why, but looking back it was a dumb move.

Three times (more?) you made an open move, and three times some guy saw it and stepped in to muck it up. In that atmosphere it might work out better to be more discreet when pulling.

This is true, but we all are only sort of friends, it being the first month of school. I have a couple crowds and I hadn't seen these guys in a while. Girl#4 did go on to fuck the other guy (who trust me, is not my friend, he wasn't even with us till we rolled up to his house, but he is on my sports team).

Maybe I'm just misreading their personalities from your story and they're actually super great, but keep an eye out for any behavior that seems like they're pretending to be friends just to boost their own egos while disrespecting you. University can be a scary lonely place and the urge to quickly make friends is strong, but they have to respect you first and foremost.
It varies. The guy I called Oberyn is actually pretty great. Drogo and I were friends when I first got here, not so much lately. Daario, I only see because he throws big parties and I go to them. And yeah, I've had a few lonely nights and so am trying to befriend as many people as possible. I'm not the best with having guy friends, I was pretty much a lone wolf in high school (my style was super brooding for a four years), so I'm still trying to work that out.

@tworocky
If you physically escalate, isolate to a private location, your or her room preferably.
Unfortunately, we were off-campus at a house, and it was a twenty or thirty minute walk back to either of our rooms.

Doesn't take long to get a reputation if you make out with multiple women at the same venue. Yeah it is an ego boost, but doesn't do you any good in the long run.
They were around some of the same people but I was actually at four venues during the night. The ego boost may be kinda why I did it to be honest though, so I will keep this in mind.

Also your numerous references to being drunk aren't doing you any good. Nothing wrong with having a few cocktails but your calibration is better the more sober you are.
My game is actually a great deal better when I'm drunk, perhaps simply because of liquid courage at this point. I am slowing down a bit, but as well I don't like being the only one sober at a party, it seems uncalibrated to me personally. I think I doubt myself too much when sober, and I'll try to up arrogance and drink less.

Thanks for all the help! Heading out in a few hours, same house but different people (with the sports team). I'll hopefully post a report about it tomorrow. Some issues I anticipate are honestly just respect and not being a wallflower, I do pretty well once I get to know people and loosen up around them (or even get their attention) but initially I can be pretty awkward and quiet.

-Byron
 
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The number of Game of Thrones references in this made me laugh hahaha.
 

Byron

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Oh I love game of thrones! Have you seen the new episodes?
 
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