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- Feb 11, 2015
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1. The music is too loud which makes it hard to talk. It makes it sort of not worth while saying something unless absolutely necessary. And nothing is 'necessary' when talking to a stranger. This means that a lot of the communication is non-verbal, which I think I'm better at, when it's mixed more with verbal communication. This leads into the next problem. That being that any seductive moves will therefore be done on the dance floor
2. Anytime I see anyone else score, it's on the dance floor. And any only twice ever have I scored in a night club without dancing. Because dancing has always been something that I've feared a bit, it lead to me sort of getting the idea that I had to overcome it, and prove to the girl that I'm not avoiding. I've always had the idea that it's sort of like a guys way of showing that he can walk the walk as well as talk the talk, and that it shows to the girl that you're making the effort, and therefore doesn't make her feel like you've earned her. I'm also tall which can make matters worse. Often when some song would come on that every likes, and when a guy and girl are dancing, they typically shout the lyrics of the chorus to each other while looking into each others eyes. This I just find awkward, especially if you don't feel anything for the song, & I don't think it would suit my character to even try faking it. All this, means that for it's basically 'hit or miss' for me.
3. The other problem is that recently I've ended up going out alone a few times. You see I fell out with my friend recently, who had a few other friends that we'd go out with. I adapted a zero tolerance policy towards the immature way he behaved. It used to really annoy me sometimes... silly things like he peed into a letter box once for example. On hindsight though I've been thinking that in spite of how he could annoy me, in the club environment that didn't matter a damn. There he was full of energy, and was just what I needed for getting me in the zone. This guy was mad for the women, although he didn't really seem to know what he was doing. None-the-less though, because he'd go out so often, he'd inevitably get with a few. He always had a positive attitude even though his success rate wasn't that high(which I admired). When out alone however, it often feels a bit alienating, and sometimes it can be hard to not look idol.
The main thing I liked about this pal of mine was that he thought I was really good with girls. It gave me that extra bit of motivation. The things that motivate oneself can be ridiculous at times. He'd often see me with a girl that nothing would end up happening with, and but yet he'd presume I got her home with me. He'd keep asking about the gals he'd see me with, and I'd just say something like "oh don't be silly, she'd just a friend" to which he'd say "I know you rode her". It was probably something to do with the fact that he knew I didn't need to brag that made me look good with the gals because if he was the one who got with a girl, the world would know about it. Most of my friends I know from a more academic environment, and couldn't really picture myself going out together. I guess you really need to buddy buddies to go out together.
2. Anytime I see anyone else score, it's on the dance floor. And any only twice ever have I scored in a night club without dancing. Because dancing has always been something that I've feared a bit, it lead to me sort of getting the idea that I had to overcome it, and prove to the girl that I'm not avoiding. I've always had the idea that it's sort of like a guys way of showing that he can walk the walk as well as talk the talk, and that it shows to the girl that you're making the effort, and therefore doesn't make her feel like you've earned her. I'm also tall which can make matters worse. Often when some song would come on that every likes, and when a guy and girl are dancing, they typically shout the lyrics of the chorus to each other while looking into each others eyes. This I just find awkward, especially if you don't feel anything for the song, & I don't think it would suit my character to even try faking it. All this, means that for it's basically 'hit or miss' for me.
3. The other problem is that recently I've ended up going out alone a few times. You see I fell out with my friend recently, who had a few other friends that we'd go out with. I adapted a zero tolerance policy towards the immature way he behaved. It used to really annoy me sometimes... silly things like he peed into a letter box once for example. On hindsight though I've been thinking that in spite of how he could annoy me, in the club environment that didn't matter a damn. There he was full of energy, and was just what I needed for getting me in the zone. This guy was mad for the women, although he didn't really seem to know what he was doing. None-the-less though, because he'd go out so often, he'd inevitably get with a few. He always had a positive attitude even though his success rate wasn't that high(which I admired). When out alone however, it often feels a bit alienating, and sometimes it can be hard to not look idol.
The main thing I liked about this pal of mine was that he thought I was really good with girls. It gave me that extra bit of motivation. The things that motivate oneself can be ridiculous at times. He'd often see me with a girl that nothing would end up happening with, and but yet he'd presume I got her home with me. He'd keep asking about the gals he'd see me with, and I'd just say something like "oh don't be silly, she'd just a friend" to which he'd say "I know you rode her". It was probably something to do with the fact that he knew I didn't need to brag that made me look good with the gals because if he was the one who got with a girl, the world would know about it. Most of my friends I know from a more academic environment, and couldn't really picture myself going out together. I guess you really need to buddy buddies to go out together.
