Three Years of Game: An Honest Reflection

[metalbird]

This is not a positive or negative evaluation of game, just an attempt to put my thoughts together.

Three years ago, I discovered Girls Chase, and my life changed forever. Over those three years, I've gone from being a 21 year old guy who knew he was nothing like what he wanted, to being a 24 year old guy is very close to the man he wants to be. A lot of that is probably just inevitable maturing, but then, I see a lot of guys who don't seem to mature successfully, so maybe I did need Girls Chase to guide me along the way.

I had slept with only my high school girlfriend by the age of 21, when I discovered Girls Chase. Since then, I've added nine women the count; very meager, though not terrible considering I got in a two-year relationship three months after starting my journey, during which time I was (mostly) loyal to my partner (read the forum post on why guys drop out of the game right before taking it to the next level, it's really good).

As far as what I've found here and overall in learning to be attractive to women: It absolutely works. All of it. I have personally verified to be true every piece of advice I've ever read on the public side of this site. Sleep with women within an hour of meeting them? Check. Pick up different types of girls in different venues, day game, night game, direct and indirect approaches, fundamentals... it's never steered me wrong, except when I didn't understand them properly out of my own blockishness. I would highly recommend these ideas to any young man simply as a lifestyle guide.

However, as someone who's practiced this stuff for three years, spending effort and diligently trying to learn from my mistakes, I'm still not very good at it. Or rather, I feel like I'm very good at it, but I still don't get much in the way of results. I'm sure that's more a reflection on me than on the material, but, I think I'm a bright and studious student, so I wish I were more easily taught to success. Honestly? I still struggle to get a date. Sometimes I'm able to move fast and sleep with women; most of the time I get friendzoned. Truthfully, the lessons I've learned here have helped me a hundred times more professionally, with other guys, and socially overall than with women in a dating context. I'm not fantastic looking, but I usually turn heads, and I know guys far less attractive than me that do way better with women, so I can't use that as an excuse.

So here I am, three years later, and my conclusion, personally? I feel greatly indebted to this resource for many, many, things, even including success with women. But all the stories I hear about guys who sleep with 20 women in their first year, and all these veterans who can get dime-quality sex any time, any where -- I guess I missed that chapter in the textbook.

Thanks for reading, I'd like to hear your thoughts.

 

[Drck]

Hey, I totally understand and can relate. I've been around for even more years, perhaps since 2008 or so...

I think my skills are pretty good, I believe that I am pretty attractive, but getting rejected from a girl that you really care about always suck... You think about the best strategy, you do the best steps you can, you exert the best behavior that you think is most appropriate, you don't show any neediness, you show genuine interest - and she rejects you anyway... It's a pain...

Sometimes I'm even thinking that no matter what is done, the rejection would come anyway...

You as a guy can only do so much. An interaction or a relationship is always composed of 100%, meaning that you are half (50%) and she is half (50%). You can maximize your 50% to the highest potential, however if she decides that for whatever reason you are not optimal match for the situation you are currently in, she builds up barriers and is gone... You can never become 51% to influence the final outcome, no matter how good you are...

 

[lao che]

OP should give himself a pat on the back for doing more than most men would.

also - and don't take this as any kind of put down - you're "only" 24. you got a good ten years of improvement in you (obv there's no age-limit to improvement. but physically your prime is a long way off). wait till you're in your thirties and you see things really skyrocket. it's great to be a man, embrace it and enjoy the ride.

However, as someone who's practiced this stuff for three years, spending effort and diligently trying to learn from my mistakes, I'm still not very good at it. Or rather, I feel like I'm very good at it, but I still don't get much in the way of results.

i feel ya man! me too ,-)
you've been with ten girls and you're not even 25. the average man sleeps with four of five women in his entire life. think about that.

I'm sure that's more a reflection on me than on the material, but, I think I'm a bright and studious student, so I wish I were more easily taught to success. Honestly? I still struggle to get a date.

me too. no kidding. gotta keep slugging away.

Sometimes I'm able to move fast and sleep with women; most of the time I get friendzoned.

you put yourself in the friendzone. keep working at it. it takes time to develop your sexy

Truthfully, the lessons I've learned here have helped me a hundred times more professionally, with other guys, and socially overall than with women in a dating context. I'm not fantastic looking, but I usually turn heads, and I know guys far less attractive than me that do way better with women, so I can't use that as an excuse.

in your eyes. obviously they are more attractive to women. but it can be worked on. and you've proven that to yourself. you'll only get better.

here's my take on the age-old "only looks matter" debate -

"looks" (as in the shape of your face) DON'T matter. the WAY you look, i.e "presentation" is what matters.

So here I am, three years later, and my conclusion, personally? I feel greatly indebted to this resource for many, many, things, even including success with women. But all the stories I hear about guys who sleep with 20 women in their first year, and all these veterans who can get dime-quality sex any time, any where -- I guess I missed that chapter in the textbook.

No man can get every girl he likes the look of