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Tonight's Goals:
1.) Approach 20 sets
2.) Stay in set until rejection is very clear
3.) Practice Hook Material
I saw a girl with a very flowery top. I opened her with “I like this shirt you have on. It’s pretty cool. You know men’s clothing is never as colorful.” She didn’t speak English and asked “What?” several times. I used a canned-spike; this is the fourth time I’ve used it and it worked to stimulate her a little more. We exchanged where we lived and names. She was pretty receptive, no real timidity or apparent resistance to anything I was saying or doing. After about 5 minutes a song I liked came on and I said “Hold on” and started dancing to it. I stupidly failed to reengage after the song was over. It was as if my unconscious mind was trying to find a way to end a perfectly good conversation, which is what happened. The set ended right there.
After this girl there were two others I should have approached, both were two sets, neither I actually approached. One was an Indian/Pakistan looking woman who was with her friend. I should have opened her with “Your hair is really good. Damn. I can respect a good head of hair. Who are you?” (I have a pretty good head of hair myself) followed by a canned spike or question.
The second girl I should have approached was a blond white woman. She was dancing with her friend. I should have opened her with “I like your dance moves. Very impressive. Who are you? And is your hair real?” or, while she was standing still, I should have opened with “Hey what’s up. Damn, you look pretty cool. Who are you?” (with the generic standing still two-set I often have no clue what to do other than go for the target herself or say “Hey, you guys look [insert vague complement]. How’s your night going?” I’m trying to figure out a solid way to spike the two-set. It’s a work in progress.”)
All-in-all a pretty weak start to my weekend, though Thursday’s are always a mental struggle for me and tonight I at least did a solid approach whereas last Thursday I could barely speak a word. I also felt pretty solid, no big emotional fluctuations. I really believe getting a good nap in, plus a cup of good tea, plus daily meditation has helped my emotions become more under my control when out.
I clearly failed at achieving the first two goals for tonight, the most important ones of course. I at least practiced some hooking material. Getting good at hooking sets is my main theme of this year. Tomorrow and Saturday I need to hold myself accountable and get those 20 approaches in. I’ve never approached that many sets before in one night (the most was 19 at that was a long time ago) so it’s still mentally very daunting.
1.) Approach 20 sets
2.) Stay in set until rejection is very clear
3.) Practice Hook Material
I saw a girl with a very flowery top. I opened her with “I like this shirt you have on. It’s pretty cool. You know men’s clothing is never as colorful.” She didn’t speak English and asked “What?” several times. I used a canned-spike; this is the fourth time I’ve used it and it worked to stimulate her a little more. We exchanged where we lived and names. She was pretty receptive, no real timidity or apparent resistance to anything I was saying or doing. After about 5 minutes a song I liked came on and I said “Hold on” and started dancing to it. I stupidly failed to reengage after the song was over. It was as if my unconscious mind was trying to find a way to end a perfectly good conversation, which is what happened. The set ended right there.
After this girl there were two others I should have approached, both were two sets, neither I actually approached. One was an Indian/Pakistan looking woman who was with her friend. I should have opened her with “Your hair is really good. Damn. I can respect a good head of hair. Who are you?” (I have a pretty good head of hair myself) followed by a canned spike or question.
The second girl I should have approached was a blond white woman. She was dancing with her friend. I should have opened her with “I like your dance moves. Very impressive. Who are you? And is your hair real?” or, while she was standing still, I should have opened with “Hey what’s up. Damn, you look pretty cool. Who are you?” (with the generic standing still two-set I often have no clue what to do other than go for the target herself or say “Hey, you guys look [insert vague complement]. How’s your night going?” I’m trying to figure out a solid way to spike the two-set. It’s a work in progress.”)
All-in-all a pretty weak start to my weekend, though Thursday’s are always a mental struggle for me and tonight I at least did a solid approach whereas last Thursday I could barely speak a word. I also felt pretty solid, no big emotional fluctuations. I really believe getting a good nap in, plus a cup of good tea, plus daily meditation has helped my emotions become more under my control when out.
I clearly failed at achieving the first two goals for tonight, the most important ones of course. I at least practiced some hooking material. Getting good at hooking sets is my main theme of this year. Tomorrow and Saturday I need to hold myself accountable and get those 20 approaches in. I’ve never approached that many sets before in one night (the most was 19 at that was a long time ago) so it’s still mentally very daunting.
