Tinder Dilemma

[spicynoodle]

Hey guys, I'm on the lookout for a few pearls of wisdom from the folks on the boards with regards to a particular dilemma I've encountered via tinder with a certain lady. Lets call her EventingGirl.

The facts:

I got EventingGirl's number speedily and we hit it off, texting to and fro over the past few days. The barrier between us meeting being geographical. Much to my delight I discover that she is coming to university in my hometown in a couple of weeks time.

My dilemma:

Do I continue texting, I'm aware of the advice given against the use of texting for rapport building, at the risk of it becoming stale before we meet? Or do I propose a meet for when she arrives and then go radio silent? Or an alternative solution?

Thanks in advance for the advice

 

[fsc]

The advice about keeping text interaction to a minimum and using it primarily for logistical purposes and minor rapport building is more for the guys who met the girl in person. Your situation is a little different because communication via phone is the only option you have, and the chance for a face to face interaction won't come for another couple of weeks. Just keep texting with her because a radio silence that is too long can kill the attraction. I'd actually suggest talking to her on the phone or Skyping too if things go well. Texting all the time for a couple of weeks can get bland whereas having her hear your voice and possibly seeing you on cam will freshen shit up.

Do deep dive but try to reduce the frequency of texts, and try to incorporate sexuality. You don't want to be texting too frequently because it can make you appear needy, and you may run out of conversation topics fast. You want to deep dive and relate in order to build a connection strong enough for her to want to meet you in person. You also want to incorporate sexuality here and there, so that moving her to your bed will seem more natural, smooth, and easy. If you haven't done so yet, suggest meeting up in person on a high point during the text, and don't go radio silent if it's unnecessary. I mean, if you're having a great conversation, why purposely go silent? I'd prolly give her 1-3 days of radio silence when a conversation topic has died out. If she opens you up with another topic, awesome. If not, you open her up. Also ping her a day before the actual meet up with something like "are we still on for tomorrow?"

In the meantime, meet other girls so that you are truly occupied, truly not needy, and so that you have options in case EventingGirl flakes. Good luck