after breaking up with a girl i was seeing from london (who genuinely liked me but i wasnt a strong leader which im not ) i couldnt refrain from getting back to the fail saddle: using tinder.
after unleashing my autolike script on the 3700 profiles and blocking about 60 terrible matches i browsed through the rest 24 and... found diamond in the rough. no profile text but a totally perfect fitness bunny body with handsome face. (facebook checked her because she had a unique name so i knew everything about her prior to texting)
one of the photos was taken in an MMA club with gloves on so texting:
*** shes texting the next day:
(rest of the convo was just finalizing the dets and exchanging numbers actually she asked for it and then called me)
********************** meeting
we met next to my workplace so decided to take her on my default bar run. she was less beautiful in real life, if she wasnt in this position with 300k+ salary (which is my estimate based on my knowledge about the market) i wouldnt have really cared about but she was a pretty high ranking real estate salesgirl covering a prime area of the city
BAR 1 started slowly with both of us slightly nervous - at a point when the conversation was getting stale i took the opportunity to take her to another place nearby. she suggested to eat something there and as it is my favourite restaurant here in this part of the city i said ok (money is not an issue anyway)
RESTAURANT 1: she was pretty impressed by the place and the fact i knew the staff. the interaction was great with sexy smiles and stuff -- and this is where i made a mistake
a) either i should have ended the date here on a high note or
b) should have taken her to my place
BAR 2: instead of these i took her to another place which was completely unnecessary and it killed the vibe (i just realized this today)
she told me she would send a message when she got home which she didnt and texted myself:
**** aftermath
think its a textbook aftermath after this, i knew i probably would never see her again but nevertheless i gave her a call 2 days later which she didnt pick up. in 5mins she called back but she pretended she didnt know me -- i told her who i was for which she replied "ahh how are you" some small talk and then she asked whether she could call me back. of course she didnt do it so i sent a text her that evening:
got no reply and the next day she blocked me on tinder so i decided to send her a last message on whatsapp:
************************** ending remarks
at this point i think im following the path of the guys described in the article "keeping cool dont chase women". i had a shot, didnt use it and now trying to salvage it. i wrote the last message as it was intentionally like the fusion of a sales brochure because 1) she is sales 2) she might have thought i just wanted to shag her. anyway based on the aftermath i think its a lost case, will follow up on saturday and then next week but i think she is a goner.
im annoyed that i only match and go out (and in fact meet & date in general) with successful girls. thinking about it apart from a handful of examples the girls im meeting are really quality girls (and they are goodlooking too).
and this sucks because all i want is a nice body, a pretty face and a barely tolerable personality who doesnt cheat on me (in an obvious way). these rich, successful women are looking for the fusion of a saudi price and orlando bloom but because their dating pool is so small they desperately meeting everyone remotely ok then of course decide they wanted more. ill need to tweek my profile because im sure its the result of improper selection.
after unleashing my autolike script on the 3700 profiles and blocking about 60 terrible matches i browsed through the rest 24 and... found diamond in the rough. no profile text but a totally perfect fitness bunny body with handsome face. (facebook checked her because she had a unique name so i knew everything about her prior to texting)
one of the photos was taken in an MMA club with gloves on so texting:
stratvm: xxx... id love to get a few punches & kicks from you
xxx:you live in yyy?
stratvm: no in zzz... if id live in yyy i would get my punches!?!??!!?
xxx: no... but you get one now
stratvm: just to let you know id defend myself
stratvm: do you think you could handle a few counters before taking me onto the ground?
xxx:
stratvm: then i suggest to get to know each other in a less violent way... like sitting down for a few drinks in the coming days?
xxx: K, sounds good
stratvm: great when are you free?
*** shes texting the next day:
(rest of the convo was just finalizing the dets and exchanging numbers actually she asked for it and then called me)
********************** meeting
we met next to my workplace so decided to take her on my default bar run. she was less beautiful in real life, if she wasnt in this position with 300k+ salary (which is my estimate based on my knowledge about the market) i wouldnt have really cared about but she was a pretty high ranking real estate salesgirl covering a prime area of the city
BAR 1 started slowly with both of us slightly nervous - at a point when the conversation was getting stale i took the opportunity to take her to another place nearby. she suggested to eat something there and as it is my favourite restaurant here in this part of the city i said ok (money is not an issue anyway)
RESTAURANT 1: she was pretty impressed by the place and the fact i knew the staff. the interaction was great with sexy smiles and stuff -- and this is where i made a mistake
a) either i should have ended the date here on a high note or
b) should have taken her to my place
BAR 2: instead of these i took her to another place which was completely unnecessary and it killed the vibe (i just realized this today)
she told me she would send a message when she got home which she didnt and texted myself:
- stratvm: hey wheres my message you promised to got home??!?
- xxx: here
- xxx: im home
- xxx: falling asleep
- xxx: GN
- stratvm: awesome night... we rocked
**** aftermath
think its a textbook aftermath after this, i knew i probably would never see her again but nevertheless i gave her a call 2 days later which she didnt pick up. in 5mins she called back but she pretended she didnt know me -- i told her who i was for which she replied "ahh how are you" some small talk and then she asked whether she could call me back. of course she didnt do it so i sent a text her that evening:
got no reply and the next day she blocked me on tinder so i decided to send her a last message on whatsapp:
- stratvm: i give another shot to this as i did feel we had an awesome night on monday together - im sure we can sit down and address & clear any issues you have -- but i dont want to guess so you need to tell it... drop me a text missy when in the mood, lets not end it like this there is always room for maneuvering
- xxx: (exactly 20 mins later): hey
- xxx: sorry very busy
- stratvm: ahh ok cool, we touch base later then
- xxx: K x
************************** ending remarks
at this point i think im following the path of the guys described in the article "keeping cool dont chase women". i had a shot, didnt use it and now trying to salvage it. i wrote the last message as it was intentionally like the fusion of a sales brochure because 1) she is sales 2) she might have thought i just wanted to shag her. anyway based on the aftermath i think its a lost case, will follow up on saturday and then next week but i think she is a goner.
im annoyed that i only match and go out (and in fact meet & date in general) with successful girls. thinking about it apart from a handful of examples the girls im meeting are really quality girls (and they are goodlooking too).
and this sucks because all i want is a nice body, a pretty face and a barely tolerable personality who doesnt cheat on me (in an obvious way). these rich, successful women are looking for the fusion of a saudi price and orlando bloom but because their dating pool is so small they desperately meeting everyone remotely ok then of course decide they wanted more. ill need to tweek my profile because im sure its the result of improper selection.
