Tinder help

[Jack123Frost]

Hi fella's

Does anyone know good openers or message starters for Tinder? I understand they should be short winded, but I am having trouble finding ways to start a good conversation...
Also, how long should a conversation last before a meetup ensues? It seem much different than past online dating sights, and much different than texting a girl you've already met... Much appreciated,

Jack

 

[SSantorini]

I start convos in Tinder that way:


Me: "Hi" or "good morning/afternoon/evening". Sometimes i add a smile.

(This is when i start. Sometimes the girl will start, and they start that way too in 99% of the cases).

She: "Hi/Hello/Good Morning/afternoon/evening"

Me: "How do you do?"

She: "i am fine/good. And you?"

Me: "i am fine/good. Ty"

Me: "where do you live?" or "do you live in (insert your city name)?"

She "I live in (her city)" or "yes" or "no, i live in (her city)".

Me: "cool"

Here i start some SHORT convo about what she like to do in the city, and/or what she like to do to have fun

This will naturally generate a minimum "proximity" between you too.

As you saw, the first and most important question is to know where she lives. This will be the start of a conversation about places or things you two like/dislike in the city, or something related to the matter (ehere you two study/work and so on)

At some point in this little convo, the majority of girls will ask what do you do/your profession. Be sincere.

After this SHORT convo, you will tell something like this "cool, let's continue our talk on whatssap (or whatever text media you use. Try avoiding facebook)".

(Sometimes the girl will ask you two continue the talk in another text media).

After you exchange contacts and start talking out of Tinder, you two will have some more talk about hobbies/things you like to do/things of your city. Some point later you will say something like this "is really cool talking with you. We need meet to talk in person". Then you try setting the date.

ALWAYS follow the "Law of Least Effort". Don't try to impress the girl so much with words, don't bragg, don't demonstrate excessive excitement for just talking with her, don't exageratte trying to be "funny", don't be so much available to chat through text, don't cumpliment or praise her (mostly her beauty). Always keep the eye on the ball (that is to set a date).

 

[journeyman]

@Jack123

I think it's worth experimenting to find your own opener because with the extensive internet use to master tinder there is a good chance that she will have heard the same thing before. Try coming up with something that uses you as an opener and most importantly be different. The vast majority of guys open with "hey how are you" (according to my tinder matches when they tell me that most guys are boring) so try to be original.

There is also another good thread on tinder, I will find the link later and post it.

@SSantorini

It's not like I don't believe you or anything, but if you get responses with hi and good morning you must be having THE fucking awesome pictures and in that case if you tweak the opener and the convo you will get crazy results...

To my limited experience (and according to logic) the hi/good morning and where are you from script is a recipe for disaster. I am relatively new to tinder but at the beginning I tried these low effort openers and the response rate was under 10%. After finding a good opener I hear back from more than 80% and if I just keep regular conversation with occasional jokes I can maintain contact. Now I am trying to find out how to get consistent dates because this is where I struggle...

 

[SSantorini]

@sakbishop


In Tinder, the girls with whon you matched are interested in you already, even if slightly. There is no need of a "opener" in the realiy, because they are already opened and already delivered a IOI by matching with you.

I dont know how is the Tinder you use, the mine i only can talk with girls i already matched.

 

[Fuck This]

Refer to something in her pictures. Eyes and smile have worked well for me.

I have yet had a Bad response to "Hello Cutie". I've had a couple no response.

I find asking active response questions is the best way to get a response. "Tell me..." " explain to me..." "I want to hear how..."


Of course Switch to Text as fast as possible.

 

[Bboy100]

If you're not getting replies/are having trouble starting conversations, your pictures aren't good enough. Don't worry about anything else until you sort this out. 90% of guys I say this to ignore me, and their results never improve. Don't be one of them. Having said that, to answer your question, here are my top 3 openers:

1. Soo, now that we're a tinder match, should we just go ahead and get married? <---This one is my bread and butter. It has the highest reply rate of the three.
2. Hey, did you just grab my ass? <---Credit to DrexelScott for this one. It has a lower response rate, but when a girl does bite, the convo usually gets sexual very quickly. I've had several girls meet me @ their house with this line.
3. Coffee or Tea? She'll reply, then you'll suggest meeting somewhere in accordance to her answer.
Ex.
You: Coffee or Tea?
Her: Coffee!
You: Ok, awesome! Let's go grab Starbucks tomorrow at Starbucks on first ave @ 3:00?

This one also has a lower response rate than the first line. But it's a lot more time efficient. I like to use this one in big metropolian areas where I have enough good matches to play the numbers game.

For more info, on Tinder, check out this thread: viewtopic.php?f=4&t=11121&hilit=Tinder+Tinder+Tips

It's a compilation of Tinder material that I and other board members have tested. It's a pretty long and unorganized thread, but there are quite a few jems in it if you spend the time to look at it.
Good luck!