Online & Apps Tinder match... Ended with sex help

[rav2114]

Hello everyone, this is kinda awkward writing in this site, but I figure what the hell I wanna see everyone's opinion on this one.

So I just recently moved to a college town, I am 26 and as you can imagine I downloaded tinder to meet new people.

So I met this girl on tinder, ( I know what you all gonna say she is a skank) but actually we exchange phone and started to talk... eventually ended up talking and we ended up getting along.

So she invited me to go clubbing with one of her new neighboors(she just recently move also), so we actually met in person at a club for the first time, everything went well and we ended up at her house for a night cap.

At the end of the night we actually made out, stuff got heated ended up in the bedroom and what not, in the middle of it she gets a guilty, about the fact of not knowing me and the actual fact that we met for the first time in person and ended up fucking.... (we didn't finish BTW by that I Mean cumming)

So she stops me, I was like alright cool w.e... "she was like I like you a lot and thing and I got carried away in the moment.. " ...

I dunno if I actually like her or a just wanna end up busting the nut because I never finished, basically next day she text me like nothing ever happend... And everything is cool

Thing is I dunno if I am getting clingy, everyday I text her and she answers but I dunno of I should stop the texting everyday and text her like once a week or wait for a text from her...

What should I do? Thanks in advance

 

[ray_zorse]

Yeah, I was a bit nervous to post the first time too, but what the hell, soon found out the dudes here are very sympathetic and helpful.

Your post actually makes a change from "I love this girl... we did this together... and we did that together... and now she's not replying to my texts... how do I get her?"... hehe.

By the way, I would never call this woman a skank, that's not what is taught here, it's how to get their true skanky nature to shine! In a good way! All girls can do it with some help!

When they bail during escalation it usually means you fucked up somewhere and basically they hate you now (for not finishing what you started, and for accepting their "I'm a slut" frame and hence making them feel like a slut), and you probably could have handled it better and finished the job. Having said that, what I'm told is that if you actually penetrated her then your chances of a round 2 are a lot better than they otherwise would be. So I wouldn't be too concerned especially if she initiated texting with you. But you have to cut that shit out, the texting, get her out on a date and finish the job, otherwise don't invest any more time and effort into her.

You're in a pickle though, once you start texting every day she expects you to keep it up, girls don't like backward steps... bummer, next time, do it right, but for now maybe you could make some excuse, like a shit ton of work just hit you. Then go cold a bit. After maybe 7 days hit her up and propose a date? If you go for the date now it may look a bit chasey, but maybe it's OK.

Unfortunately you may be in boyfriend territory now in which case I wouldn't be surprised if she goes a bit coy and resists sex... unfortunately having to some extent rewarded her resistance (in bailing the first time round) you'll have problems smashing through it if she takes this route. But I'd suggest reading the article on date compression... boyfriend territory won't kill you (in Chase's words)... but as you're not totally into her, maybe you could not be bothered. Up to you.

-Ray

 

[rav2114]

Thanks man for the reply I think I am going to go with your advice and go the cold route for now, she seems like a very proud girl, so I don't think she is gonna text me anytime soon....

I'll keep you updated!!