LR- Tinder virgin

[journeyman]

This is how I came accross a 21 year old virgin!!! through Tinder:

We matched, she responded well to my opener, exchanged some basic info and then moved to texting. At some point I ask her out and we arrange it, the day before she texts me to confirm and I ask her to wear something to stand out so all was going super smooth.

Then on the day I arrive at the venue but it was closed so she was waiting outside. I am bit disappointed because she looked worse and was a bit fatter than her pictures, but hey that's online dating...
I greet her and lead her somewhere else, then lead her to a corner couch. Then she starts sitting down but I didn't want to pay for her so I just go to the bar and order for myself. Lol the look on her face was priceless when I came back with just one drink. Then she was like "oh I need to get something for myself I will be right back" haha.

Then we start the usual dating talk, honestly she wasn't very attractive and a bit boring so I made her work hard and I used the bored look extensively to keep her talking. I made sure to touch her several times and she reciprocated touch. The whole time she was nervous and she was constantly playing with her hair or her jewellery. It was really low effort on my part, just maintaining eye contact basically. I made sure to seed the idea of pulling and talked about my housemate being away and how I need to watch the last season of Game of Thrones. Then after 1:30 hour I tell her we should leave and she says OK.

We lived in the same general direction from the venue, so we walk together, then the roads would split and she was like "I have to go that way". Then I looked her like she said the silliest thing in the world and said " It's way too early, come on we'll go and watch Game of Thrones together" and she was like " Oh Game of Thrones OK" I think she didn't even have time to react. We walk the remaining 5 minutes and we reach my house.

I order her to take her shoes off, we go sit at the couch and she doesn't want anything to drink, even better. I sit down and open my laptop and did something that could backfire, I had forgotten the folder of Game of Thrones open so when I opened it it looked very scripted but I got away with it. Probably a hotter girl would have tested me on it.

We watch for about 5 mins, she was moving restlessly the whole time, then I ask her about something going on in the screen, she looks at me so I ask something about her eyes and then I just pull her in and kiss her. She had no idea how to kiss, so that was a sign of what was to follow, I just rolled with it to see what would happen. Then as I was touching her all over the couch was too uncomfortable so I took her by the hand and told her to go somewhere more comfortable. We go to my room and start the usual escalation process, she is loving it but she was wearing really elaborate clothes, like high waist nylon leggings with a corset and a skirt, she was practically trapped in them.

I ordered her to take her top off and she was like "no" followed by "I am not having sex with you tonight" which ticked another box in my mind lol. I pushed her on the bed and after some more escalation she took her top off, then I started fingering her and she told me that no one had touched that before and then we just got rid of all the clothes, albeit with significant effort to remove that shit. She had some extra fat on her but she had nice boobs so I didn't have any trouble getting horny.

Then I realized that I don't want to have to deal with the drama of taking her virginity, so I told her that I am not going to do anything more unless she asks me to and of course she didn't take the responsibility. If I wanted to I could have really easily fucked her but something in me couldn't do it I guess the nice guy is still hidden in there. But it was fine, I was totally outcome independent and chilled so I could enjoy everything even more.

She told me several times that she had to leave and I told her that it's cool and she could leave whenever she felt like it and she just hang around. Then I asked her if she had ever given a blowjob before and she was like " No but I would love to" and then I commanded her to suck my dick and by the look on her face she really appreciated that. So after a pretty good (not that I have much experience or standards) blowjob I busted my load in her mouth and she left my home happy and with a cum-stained sweater lol. She was actually pretty chilled and relaxed for a virgin.

That's all basically the whole night I was ticking boxes and progressing from one step to the next one, followed the process quite well I think. This tought me once again that even if the girl is not very attractive you can still have a lot of fun with her once the lights go out you just have to ignore the mind's quality control system. Initially I didn't like tinder but now I will keep it on the side...

 

[Mystique]

Wow! You had a girl naked on your bed and you didn't put your penis in her vagina because she's a virgin?! Isn't that the whole point of being a seducer - to save the sexless/boring lives of the fairer sex, especially the virgins who have it worse (what could be worse than never having sex). I like to think of seducers as your atypical hero rescuing girls from their boredom, giving them mind blowing sex and an experience they'll never forget and then moving on to find another girl that needs saving. It's a higher calling. I'm sure you'd have left her better than you met her had you fucked her.

 

[lao che]

shit, dude ..... i'd have banged her, but i'd also have bought her a drink so, different strokes for different folks i guess.
obv not buying her a drink didn't hinder you at all (and perversely probably helped) but, ah well it comes down to frame and the way you do it. anyway i've probably got more money than you but i couldn't in good conscience buy just my own drink. guess that's my inner nice guy

well anyway, i love virgins which i is why i was somewhat disappointed by the mis-labeling of this report as an LR harumph

i was all excited when i read the title.


all the best

 

[journeyman]

@Mystique

I am not a seducer though. Although I am working on it.

@lao che

Haha sorry for letting you down man I am playing by the forum rules, oral is supposed to be LR- .

Not paying for their drinks is something that I am trying to learn because the first times I just couldn't do it and I ended up paying. If I get it down then I guess I can treat the occasional girl if I feel like it. As far as banging(or lack thereof) I don't regret it, I saw the potential of post-sex drama rising and decided to avoid it. Maybe in a year I will be at the level where I can fuck a virgin without blinking an eye.

 

[lao che]

hey yo i hope the playful tone was evident in my original response

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I am not a seducer

Well, not with that attitude!

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Re: paying/not paying, this is entirely situation dependent, and I assume my situation is quite different from yours.
As a 40yo man it would be churlish of me to invite a girl for a coffee and then not pay (in fact i think thats a fair rule of thumb, you invite - you pay the first, and then take it from there) especially as the disparity between what i have and what a 22yo girl has might seem rather large, and the sums of money involved are low enough as to be inconsequential (not that i have much, you understand, i'm certainly no baller)

I never just flat out pay for a girl. Usually I'll get something with the proviso that she get something later- ''I'll buy this you can buy that.'' Sometimes outrageous - ''I'll get the taxi, dinner's on you'' and sometimes reasonable - coffee/donuts

the "don't pay for dates" thing is useful to bear in mind so that a guy doesn't be seen to be an easy mark, a sap who thinks he needs to buy a girl's time, but my frame is such now that when i'm paying i certainly do not come across as needy or weak and i find more and more now that girls will often just pay for me, without much being said.

Then she starts sitting down but I didn't want to pay for her so I just go to the bar and order for myself. Lol the look on her face was priceless when I came back with just one drink.

it's humourous in your report, but i find it a little mean-spirited - if she was hotter than her pics, rather than overweight and less hot, would you have paid then?
anyway, i'm not saying "you should do this, not that" nor am i here to castigate you, you probably did the right thing.

I saw the potential of post-sex drama rising and decided to avoid it. Maybe in a year I will be at the level where I can fuck a virgin without blinking an eye.

Without blinking an eye is a little harsh. Something like that shouldn't be taken lightly

FWIW you did the right thing. Which isn't always easy to do. I'm too weak to go that far and not finish What I started. Well done, you're a better man than I.
managing emotions and predicting/dealing with/managing drama requires experience. what you did here was predict future drama that you weren't prepared or willing to deal with so, again. well done.

 

[journeyman]

yeah man I got the tone of your reply! Cheers for the comments !!