Tindr, online dating, and what it means for field seduction

[xIRONCROSSx]

I recently met up with a friend who I haven't seen for over 3 years...we will call him Peter. We both were talking about life, which means women, and he totes how successful he is using the phone app Tindr for getting hookups.

If you are not familiar with Tindr, the basis of it is that you get pictures of women in your area, they of course get pictures of men. You swipe the image to the right if you are interested, to the left if you are not. If both you and the girl swipe right on each other, you are connected to chat and it goes from there. The app is very efficient in what it does and limits any wasted time - no approaches, no dates, no deep diving, no bullshit. Just pinging girls left and right, looking for sex, if none bite, then on to the next - swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe...

Peter is quite boastful about his success though; hooking up with 4 different girls in 4 weeks, 1 being over his lunch break.

Watching him use this app for a bit, it was a little disturbing (extremely objective, impersonal, but fast) and but the girls were obviously on there for the same reason doing he same things - to flirt and/or hookup with hopes vying on each swipe of their finger.

Peter told me his first direct line is always "Wow you're gorgeous" with a little face/emoticon. Then he gets right into it asking for naked pictures and even just coming out and saying "let's fuck". In it's simplest form, it is PURE numbers. I think he said he had 130 girls that he has swiped right or something like that. Screening on STEROIDS.

Besides Tindr, the same idea goes for online dating. People use it to find dates, filter out "matches", find their "soul mates" or find hookups - very straight forward stuff, if you're not interested then you have pages of girls to scroll through until you find some you are interested in...a potential buffet at your disposal.

It certainly is an interesting direction we are headed - considering the social, primal/evolutionary, and psychological implications of such efficient mate selection.

With the presence of technology and such quick, efficient, simple mate selection based on looks (via picture like Tindr), what does this mean for in-field seduction? Is it on it's way out? Should apps like Tindr or OKCupid.com become leading avenues of seeking mates because of their efficiency?

Let me know what you guys think!

-M

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Tinder is pretty much a direct reflection of our society and where it is today which is why I hardly advocate this PUA stuff.

Looks matter, they matter more now than they did back in the 90s and even early 2000s. Girls are a lot more shallow now than they were back then because traditional roles are no longer in play. I have seen it for myself, when my looks changed so did my results. I used to look at all of this PUA stuff but the problem is that I never managed to get much results off of it because I was average looking. Then I took a year of dedicated training and realized that my looks were what were getting women attracted to me and landing me the ONS while all these other guys were doing the PUA gimmick.

It is the truth of our age, women no longer need men as providers because they have their own jobs now and can earn lots of money on their own. All women want are men they can brag about standing next to and men that look like they can please them in bed and a large part of that is based on how muscular they look.

 

[Franco]

IC,

With the presence of technology and such quick, efficient, simple mate selection based on looks (via picture like Tindr), what does this mean for in-field seduction? Is it on it's way out? Should apps like Tindr or OKCupid.com become leading avenues of seeking mates because of their efficiency?

Absolutely nothing is more powerful than the emotional experience a girl goes through when using cold approach (correctly). How many girls do you know that imagine meeting the guy of their dreams by... swiping left on a phone application?

I'm sure probably not too many, right?

One thing to keep in mind is the intent that you will find when women use Tinder. What your friend is essentially doing, like you mentioned, is screening for women who are absolutely only interested in sex with someone, and sex right at that moment. It never necessarily means that the girl is looking for a boyfriend or even a casual fling; she might simply just be looking for a one-night stand. So it is definitely a very "low effort" way of a girl being able to "get her rocks off" so to speak when she's really craving a sexual experience. But that doesn't mean it will be her most powerful experience.

Also, as was somewhat hinted at by Proactivity, Tinder is primarily about looks. When it comes to a girl just wanting sex, she's naturally going to place a LOT more value in physical features. Why would you care if a guy works as a cashier if your only goal is to lick his washboard abs and have him rail you from behind for one night? That's the kind of thoughts a girl will have when she's using an application like Tinder since she's specifically looking for one thing at that moment. And that's not including the hundreds of girls that sign up just to get validation from attractive guys that they are indeed desirable (and then never actually use the app to meet anyone).

EDIT: One way to think of Tinder the way that girls think of Tinder is, "I am so tired of not meeting any sexy men recently that I JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE! I NEED SEX!" So, against her true desires, she reasons that just having sex with any decent-looking guy at this point will at least help her release that built up sexual tension that no man has recently been able to help her release. It's her last resort.

So Tinder will never replace cold approach. Mastering cold approach is the elite form of picking up quality women that can forever see you as the most dominant man that they have ever met. But with that being said, Tinder can get you laid... if you don't mind putting in the hours of effort.

UPDATE: This won't necessarily show the distinction between social network dating and cold approach, but it will help you understand what cold approach can do for you:

• Why Cold Approach Works Better Than Anything Else

- Franco