Tips for Visualizing Banging a Girl?

[TheEcho]

Hey all!

Going off of "Picture the Conquest" and "Women as Sex Objects", does anyone have tips for creating and holding the full sexual imagery in your mind of a women you've only seen fully clothed?

Probably am struggling due to porn conditioning (am at over a week of nofap) and being conditioned to not really see clothed women sexually (assuming her ass or boobs aren't bursting out). Also probably hampered from being on a dry spell, but even having done my ex over 1k times, my mind wouldn't retain the visuals of her very well. I toyed with this while working out, trying to visualize the cute front desk girl naked and submitting. Couldn't maintain it to even start exciting myself (though it felt more useful than standing there between sets doing nothing). I chatted with her a few times and there's been some flirtation, but there's a coworker always there and feel like my vibe is getting too polite and I'll be into the friendzone if this keeps up.

Thanks all!

P.S. somehow gave myself blue balls from the eye contact I had with one chick in the gym. Turned out she's a mom and was flattered but running to get her kids...

 

[MarioTheDom]

So it seems you are taking action to get out of the funk

Congrats on that.

First of all, I would be cautious with co workers, especially with the MeToo and how even a innocent compliment might get you a talk with HR, I know it's perhaps too cautious but still, first rule is to not eat where you shit, I understand you are hungry for female interactions but work ain't the place IMHO (neither the gym looking at what happens on tik tok these days)

I would recommend a simply old school method, to go on a detox first and then start by looking at paper photos (not digital, you can buy a vogue magazine or maxime) look at the woman and observe her curves, her skin, her hair colour.

My opinion is that in these days we are bombarded with so much information, dopamine and pornography (either hard or soft, like the instagram discover page) that we have desensitised ourself from observing a woman and feeling the natural attraction to her.

After you train your self awareness int observing women, you can do this exercise in real life ( no, don't stare women, that's creepy, I said observe)

An exercise I do with my students is to let them visualise the girl masturbating before approaching her, but I get the feeling in your case we need to make a step back before going through this.

 

[Conquistador]

Probably am struggling due to porn conditioning (am at over a week of nofap)

A full week? Wow.
Maybe in a few days it will kick in and you'll get a lot hornier overnight.

and being conditioned to not really see clothed women sexually (assuming her ass or boobs aren't bursting out).

DEPROGRAM YOURSELF NOWW

Seriously lol, I'd work on that if I were you.

having done my ex over 1k times, my mind wouldn't retain the visuals of her very well.

Hmmm, maybe your brain isn't really wired to picture things vividly in general. That's ok but it can be changed to an extent over time with a little work, if you want to try. The brain is surprisingly plastic.

I would recommend a simply old school method, to go on a detox first and then start by looking at paper photos (not digital, you can buy a vogue magazine or maxime) look at the woman and observe her curves, her skin, her hair colour.

What about 3D, living, breathing women on the street, on the bus, in the grocery store? You don't have to stare; quite the opposite. But the photo method would probs work fine if you live in Nunavut.

like the instagram discover page

You can make Insta work for you by consciously training their algos.
My Discover page mostly sends me outdoors and travel posts.
I do follow a girl from college who turned out to enjoy posting her scantily clad curves almost hourly with outrageous captions for the benefit of over 40k simps. I made a point of only liking her CompSci and cat posts/stories (and even messaging her over Discord about how she could improve the code she posted once), and recently muted her after I got tired of it (I habitually skim through pretty much all stories in my feed). I might change my mind if I see more of her IRL

that we have desensitised ourself from observing a woman and feeling the natural attraction to her.

Real-life feminine attractiveness engages four out of five senses (taste doesn't count initially ), plus other, subtler mechanisms by which the human brain processes things.

After you train your self awareness int observing women, you can do this exercise in real life ( no, don't stare women, that's creepy, I said observe)

An exercise I do with my students is to let them visualise the girl masturbating before approaching her

Wow, that's a step up from what I usually do, gonna steal that