Sexual Technique Tips to train your woman to initiate sex with you?

[Kaida]

Basically the title.

Feels like I lose a little power over time since I keep being the one to initiate sex with the girl I’m fucking

After 5-10 times of us fucking they start playfully denying / acting coy

They eventually give in but I dont like that dynamic. Would love to get her initiating on me

 

[James D]

Feels like I lose a little power

I guess I don't view it that way.

If it's just about initiating (not overtly chasing or begging) then whatever power I lose is minimal and more than made up for when she's screaming while I'm inside her.

With girlfriends, I've found that the biggest determinant behind her initiating sex is how high her sex drive is + how shy she is about showing sexual intent.


The shy element means they'll do everything from putting themselves in a position they think will entice me to creating some drama to get us to fuck rather than saying "hey, le'ts fuck, I'm horny"

Would love to get her initiating on me

When she puts herself in an enticing position that gets me to fuck her, I view it as her initiating.

My current gf has a red lingerie she knows I go absolutely nuts for. When she randomly wears it, that registers as her initiating it.

Just my $0.02

 

[MrVariety]

Basically the title.

Feels like I lose a little power over time since I keep being the one to initiate sex with the girl I’m fucking

After 5-10 times of us fucking they start playfully denying / acting coy

They eventually give in but I dont like that dynamic. Would love to get her initiating on me

Why do you feel like you're losing power because you're initiating? That's normal.

If you seriously dislike her playfully denying sex and acting coy, when she does the unwanted behaviour, immediately stop chasing her, turn your back to her and stop paying her attention. If she asks what's wrong you can tell her your preferences. If she doesn't care, you should have someone else to fuck if you need sex -- to restore a favorable power dynamic.

How to train women in a nutshell:
If she does something unwanted - stop paying her attention.
When she does something you want - make sure you point that out to her and tell her you appreciate it.

Mr Variety

 

[KJ Francis]

Separate from whatever operant conditioning, there could also be a general attainability issue. General fuck buddy lifespan is 3 months (though of course longer is possible), so 5-10 times sounds like they have now fully internalized there is not a shot of making you their boyfriend. So then she may test to see how much you like and want her, or making you flustered is her way of getting a semblance of control back when you have her locked into a casual fling.