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hello Girls Chase community and Happy New Year.
I'd love to hear your opinion on a funny situation I had yesterday.
I spent New Year's Eve with a wingman messing around the city. I lost the count of the number of girls we approached.
Around 2 am we find these two girls (one blonde, one brunette) on the street looking for a bar. We join them and go to the bar with them. We sit at the table. The brunette is sitting close to me so I am naturally gaming her.
My wingman is better than me at creating comfort but not as good at generating sexual attraction. As I am gaming the brunette, I notice with my peripheral view that the blonde can't stop looking at me. After around 15 minutes of conversation, we switch targets. I start gaming the blonde (sitting in front of me) and my wingman starts gaming the brunette.
In situations like these our default plan is normally to try and pull them at the same place and then isolate them in two different rooms but unexpectedly the blonde asks me if I want to go with her to the smoking lounge (obvious escalation window).
Now, I know that the default rule is not to escalate before being back at your/her place, but I was asking myself: after this obvious interest signal can I just spend time with her in the smoking room and the go back to the table without doing any move whatsoever? Won't I risk sending her into auto-rejection?
I'm the kind of guy who prefers making the mistake of displaying too much intent than displaying tooo little so after 10 minutes chatting I start making out. We stop, we talk a bit and the second time we make out, with her sitting on my legs., and with her wanting to kiss more than I do, I can't help put my hands between her legs and start fingering (I also drank a bit which normally I don't when I game but it was NYE, so f**k it). It wasn't "naked fingering" as her jeans were still between our skins, but I was definitely stimulating her. She's okay with it for around 20 seconds and then she wants to go back in.
I go shortly to the toilet but as I come back she takes her phone out and goes out of the bar to make a long phone call. I don't want to come across as the sticky one following her or waiting like a dog for her to get in, so I also go to the smoking room, call some friends to wish them a NYE and chat with some people there.
My wingman come out saying that the two girls are actually in the bathroom together and that as usual he thinks me made the mistake of being too little aggressive with the brunette which nevertheless is okay with going somewhere else with us (although she claims to have a boyfriend)
When we're all back at the table (we 2 and the girls) the blonde has already her coat on and says they have to go but the brunette is laughing as to make fun of her. I am in 100% careless mode, I don't try to beg her or to chase her. I actually pull back and look at her with a bit of disappointment as to communicate: "is that all you got?", she looks back at me as to communicate " you really are an ass*ole"
I also take my jacket thinking "yeah well, maybe outside of the bar I'll propose to do something else" but I don't want to lose my composure and before going out I chat a bit with some guys at another table. As we go out the two girls disappear fast.
My wingman's still complaining about he being guilty because he wasn't aggressive enough but I tell him "don't worry, probably it was me being too pushy".
We went hunting again and had some other good sets until 4:30. Then I got suddenly tired. I wanted to game until 8 in the morning but I didn't have any more physical energy (the alcohol didn't help surely) so I just went home. Pausing today and gaming again tomorrow.
Now, just to know your opinion about this. Do you think the problem was
1) me being too sexually aggressive?
2) me being too unattainable with my "I don't care" behaviour"? (by the way it wasn't forced, I am really starting to develop spontaneous abundance mentality, especially since experimenting with day game)
3) my wingman being too little sexually aggressive
4) the two of us running two entirely different games so that when they had that little sit-down in the bathroom they decided this couldn't work.
and more importantly, what would have you done? Just chatted outside without doing any move? Wouldn't have that sent her into auto-rejection?
P.S. funny situation from another set. I was isolating a girl on the street but the mother showed up saying the father was watching us from the window of the restaurant and getting upset about it
I'd love to hear your opinion on a funny situation I had yesterday.
I spent New Year's Eve with a wingman messing around the city. I lost the count of the number of girls we approached.
Around 2 am we find these two girls (one blonde, one brunette) on the street looking for a bar. We join them and go to the bar with them. We sit at the table. The brunette is sitting close to me so I am naturally gaming her.
My wingman is better than me at creating comfort but not as good at generating sexual attraction. As I am gaming the brunette, I notice with my peripheral view that the blonde can't stop looking at me. After around 15 minutes of conversation, we switch targets. I start gaming the blonde (sitting in front of me) and my wingman starts gaming the brunette.
In situations like these our default plan is normally to try and pull them at the same place and then isolate them in two different rooms but unexpectedly the blonde asks me if I want to go with her to the smoking lounge (obvious escalation window).
Now, I know that the default rule is not to escalate before being back at your/her place, but I was asking myself: after this obvious interest signal can I just spend time with her in the smoking room and the go back to the table without doing any move whatsoever? Won't I risk sending her into auto-rejection?
I'm the kind of guy who prefers making the mistake of displaying too much intent than displaying tooo little so after 10 minutes chatting I start making out. We stop, we talk a bit and the second time we make out, with her sitting on my legs., and with her wanting to kiss more than I do, I can't help put my hands between her legs and start fingering (I also drank a bit which normally I don't when I game but it was NYE, so f**k it). It wasn't "naked fingering" as her jeans were still between our skins, but I was definitely stimulating her. She's okay with it for around 20 seconds and then she wants to go back in.
I go shortly to the toilet but as I come back she takes her phone out and goes out of the bar to make a long phone call. I don't want to come across as the sticky one following her or waiting like a dog for her to get in, so I also go to the smoking room, call some friends to wish them a NYE and chat with some people there.
My wingman come out saying that the two girls are actually in the bathroom together and that as usual he thinks me made the mistake of being too little aggressive with the brunette which nevertheless is okay with going somewhere else with us (although she claims to have a boyfriend)
When we're all back at the table (we 2 and the girls) the blonde has already her coat on and says they have to go but the brunette is laughing as to make fun of her. I am in 100% careless mode, I don't try to beg her or to chase her. I actually pull back and look at her with a bit of disappointment as to communicate: "is that all you got?", she looks back at me as to communicate " you really are an ass*ole"
I also take my jacket thinking "yeah well, maybe outside of the bar I'll propose to do something else" but I don't want to lose my composure and before going out I chat a bit with some guys at another table. As we go out the two girls disappear fast.
My wingman's still complaining about he being guilty because he wasn't aggressive enough but I tell him "don't worry, probably it was me being too pushy".
We went hunting again and had some other good sets until 4:30. Then I got suddenly tired. I wanted to game until 8 in the morning but I didn't have any more physical energy (the alcohol didn't help surely) so I just went home. Pausing today and gaming again tomorrow.
Now, just to know your opinion about this. Do you think the problem was
1) me being too sexually aggressive?
2) me being too unattainable with my "I don't care" behaviour"? (by the way it wasn't forced, I am really starting to develop spontaneous abundance mentality, especially since experimenting with day game)
3) my wingman being too little sexually aggressive
4) the two of us running two entirely different games so that when they had that little sit-down in the bathroom they decided this couldn't work.
and more importantly, what would have you done? Just chatted outside without doing any move? Wouldn't have that sent her into auto-rejection?
P.S. funny situation from another set. I was isolating a girl on the street but the mother showed up saying the father was watching us from the window of the restaurant and getting upset about it
