To guys on this board with limiting beliefs, here is what you should REALLY fear

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I am in a good mood tonight and the weather out there sucks, decided to stay inside and quite frankly I can't sleep right now either. Decided that I make a post for the struggling guys on here who are suffering from limiting beliefs about things like height, race and whatever mental setback you want to blame for your failures.

Can't believe that its been 4 years since I have been on this board, 4 fucking years.

When I came on here, I was one of the biggest whiners on here. A while back Chase had a mass banning spree and I was one of the very few guys whose head was on the chopping block but luckily, some members vouched for me and decided to spare me. After years of having gone through the hell, I am in such a better place now. Basically my limiting belief was that I am brown and it would stop me from getting hot girls or whatever, now I kind of see it as a joke.

I started to look back and dig into what really made me grow out of my limiting belief towards life. For a while I was stuck in the whole white girls being evil and my race holding me back from getting hot girls, now along with height, the race limiting belief is one of the more common ones out there. Somehow, over a period of years, I went from hopelessly insecure guy to someone who can stand right in front of someone saying the most racist things about Indian men and just laugh it off.

You have limiting beliefs because your life sucks!

Some Asian guy living the life and having an awesome time with it is not crying about being Asian.

I don't care what you claim but I find it tough to believe that some guy is getting laid yet still crying about his race or height on a forum. It makes no sense to me for the most part. If you were genuinely getting laid or having a respectable sex life, you would not be crying about your setbacks in life, at least not a lot to where it annoys people. Of course those who are natural losers will claim "well my life sucks because I am colored or short", you can't help them. But the fact is you have limiting beliefs because your life sucks.

Then I finally realized, I got over my limiting belief by coming to grips with the idea that I only have so much time left to enjoy my life and make the most of it.

I am not saying I am terminally ill but what I am saying is that I came to the realization about life itself.

In high school, you're finally growing into the social scene and getting a hang of how things work there, starting to grow.

In college, you're free for the first time in your life, away from home.

After college come your 20s, you have some money to spend and are young enough to enjoy it.

Then after that, at some point, life just kind of gets to you. Your body might start to collapse more and you might become too old to have the kind of fun you want. You can't readily fit in with the crowds that young hot girls hang out with and can't go out like you used to.

TIME is the one thing you need to fear, you won't ever get these years back and as you get older, you'll look back with regret at all the time you wasted and promising life experiences you passed up because you were too busy crying about things.

Even I have this experience now being in my mid-20s.

I look back and think if I had not been so busy crying about life at 21, I would have probably gone out more.

By going out more, I would have probably met more girls or probably made more new friends.

At some point, I would have probably got lucky and found new friends to go out with.

After that, I would have probably had more of a social circle and made more social connections.

All of that would have resulted in me having fun life experiences to look back on. Instead I whined on this forum and surrounded myself with toxic material, it depressed me and led me to not take action. Instead I didn't and I have a horrible college experience to look back on, a very depressing one. I won't ever get these years back.

After realizing how limited of time I have in this world, I went through head first towards life.

Sexy blonde standing around? Don't care if she is into my race or look or not, must approach.

Awesome party going on? I have to be a part of it!

I started going out and living life so much because I realized that at some point, I was going to get old. I was going to not fit in as easily with fun younger people and I'll probably have much less options when it comes to having fun with life. The great experiences I could have had would never be and I would be looking back at a life full of regret while my fellow men went out and made the most of their time.

It was that fear and feeling that made me shed my limiting belief.

Now if you are an older guy and have limiting beliefs about that? Sorry can't help!

 

[Seppuku]

Re: To guys on this board with limiting beliefs, here is what you should REALLY

Oh Pry,

This is a nice post and I wish many of these whining young guys will read it.

But are you really sure you are done with your limiting beliefs? Because you still have one recurring topic on these Boards, namely around the theme "is there a life after 30?" then gloomy like if it's the end of the world.

Here is the take of a 49 years old man: life after 30 is *awesome*.

Man's value INCREASE with age. You can remain attractive material for the opposite sex well into your forties and beyond, *IF* you avoid a few loopholes.

The good news is that you already know what these loopholes are, and already know how to address them.

Namely, continue to keep a good care of your fundamentals. Continue to be outcome independent. Continue to believe that you can make it.

You are right, most older men have limiting beliefs (e.g. "my sex life is behind"), and that's precisely what is holding them back. Because otherwise they have so many things going on for them:
(i) confidence
(ii) financial resources
(iii) life achievements
(iv) social status
(v) experience
(vi) less prone to oneitis (well, that is, most of us at least).
etc...

I, personally, wouldn't trade places with my 25 years old self.

Seppuku

 

[Sub-Zero]

Re: To guys on this board with limiting beliefs, here is what you should REALLY

What does that mean ? Isn't that a limiting belief right there? This post seems more about your specific limiting belief than others. Most men can careless about college and social circle. It's good to shed them no matter what they are. I don't know what u meant by the bolded, but If you're not saying that it's too late for older guys, then disregard what I said.

But I wanted to ask a question, from reading some of your posts I see you talk about college a lot, what is your end goal? For someone with 58 lays you seem to be worrying about having a college/very active social life a lot. Do you just want to be the cool guy in a group ? Maybe that's why the lays don't matter to you which is understandable, but why not just make your own circle?

If you want to be a bartender do it, in your other post it seems like you don't know if you want to be a bartender because you'd have to quit your job. Sound like you want to do it, but are afraid it will blow up in your face if you quit your job.

But this seems like a concern you should handle soon because it sounds like you want to really do it, why is the reason tho? You seem to be getting enough lays without it, but maybe it's the social aspect you want.

All of your posts sound like you want the party life very bad, I think you should just find a way to do it or just work around your job because I can tell if you don't scratch this itch, you'll be very miserable because you'll miss out. If I were in your shoes I would keep my job and try to work my way around it, but it seems you might work too much to make it happen?

If that's the case you have to take the risk, you have to do it or you'll regret it like college and go mad, you can always get another job.

I am in a good mood tonight and the weather out there sucks, decided to stay inside and quite frankly I can't sleep right now either. Decided that I make a post for the struggling guys on here who are suffering from limiting beliefs about things like height, race and whatever mental setback you want to blame for your failures.

Can't believe that its been 4 years since I have been on this board, 4 fucking years.

When I came on here, I was one of the biggest whiners on here. A while back Chase had a mass banning spree and I was one of the very few guys whose head was on the chopping block but luckily, some members vouched for me and decided to spare me. After years of having gone through the hell, I am in such a better place now. Basically my limiting belief was that I am brown and it would stop me from getting hot girls or whatever, now I kind of see it as a joke.

I started to look back and dig into what really made me grow out of my limiting belief towards life. For a while I was stuck in the whole white girls being evil and my race holding me back from getting hot girls, now along with height, the race limiting belief is one of the more common ones out there. Somehow, over a period of years, I went from hopelessly insecure guy to someone who can stand right in front of someone saying the most racist things about Indian men and just laugh it off.

You have limiting beliefs because your life sucks!

Some Asian guy living the life and having an awesome time with it is not crying about being Asian.

I don't care what you claim but I find it tough to believe that some guy is getting laid yet still crying about his race or height on a forum. It makes no sense to me for the most part. If you were genuinely getting laid or having a respectable sex life, you would not be crying about your setbacks in life, at least not a lot to where it annoys people. Of course those who are natural losers will claim "well my life sucks because I am colored or short", you can't help them. But the fact is you have limiting beliefs because your life sucks.

Then I finally realized, I got over my limiting belief by coming to grips with the idea that I only have so much time left to enjoy my life and make the most of it.

I am not saying I am terminally ill but what I am saying is that I came to the realization about life itself.

In high school, you're finally growing into the social scene and getting a hang of how things work there, starting to grow.

In college, you're free for the first time in your life, away from home.

After college come your 20s, you have some money to spend and are young enough to enjoy it.

Then after that, at some point, life just kind of gets to you. Your body might start to collapse more and you might become too old to have the kind of fun you want. You can't readily fit in with the crowds that young hot girls hang out with and can't go out like you used to.

TIME is the one thing you need to fear, you won't ever get these years back and as you get older, you'll look back with regret at all the time you wasted and promising life experiences you passed up because you were too busy crying about things.

Even I have this experience now being in my mid-20s.

I look back and think if I had not been so busy crying about life at 21, I would have probably gone out more.

By going out more, I would have probably met more girls or probably made more new friends.

At some point, I would have probably got lucky and found new friends to go out with.

After that, I would have probably had more of a social circle and made more social connections.

All of that would have resulted in me having fun life experiences to look back on. Instead I whined on this forum and surrounded myself with toxic material, it depressed me and led me to not take action. Instead I didn't and I have a horrible college experience to look back on, a very depressing one. I won't ever get these years back.

After realizing how limited of time I have in this world, I went through head first towards life.

Sexy blonde standing around? Don't care if she is into my race or look or not, must approach.

Awesome party going on? I have to be a part of it!

I started going out and living life so much because I realized that at some point, I was going to get old. I was going to not fit in as easily with fun younger people and I'll probably have much less options when it comes to having fun with life. The great experiences I could have had would never be and I would be looking back at a life full of regret while my fellow men went out and made the most of their time.

It was that fear and feeling that made me shed my limiting belief.

Now if you are an older guy and have limiting beliefs about that? Sorry can't help!

 

[Sub-Zero]

Re: To guys on this board with limiting beliefs, here is what you should REALLY

Yeah, people fear 30. I think it's mostly because they believe that at that time you're supposed to have everything figured out in life, I feel that way too and it's just not healthy, but I understand. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.

Oh Pry,

This is a nice post and I wish many of these whining young guys will read it.

But are you really sure you are done with your limiting beliefs? Because you still have one recurring topic on these Boards, namely around the theme "is there a life after 30?" then gloomy like if it's the end of the world.

Here is the take of a 49 years old man: life after 30 is *awesome*.

Man's value INCREASE with age. You can remain attractive material for the opposite sex well into your forties and beyond, *IF* you avoid a few loopholes.

The good news is that you already know what these loopholes are, and already know how to address them.

Namely, continue to keep a good care of your fundamentals. Continue to be outcome independent. Continue to believe that you can make it.

You are right, most older men have limiting beliefs (e.g. "my sex life is behind"), and that's precisely what is holding them back. Because otherwise they have so many things going on for them:
(i) confidence
(ii) financial resources
(iii) life achievements
(iv) social status
(v) experience
(vi) less prone to oneitis (well, that is, most of us at least).
etc...

I, personally, wouldn't trade places with my 25 years old self.

Seppuku

 

[Seppuku]

Re: To guys on this board with limiting beliefs, here is what you should REALLY

Yeah, people fear 30. I think it's mostly because they believe that at that time you're supposed to have everything figured out in life, I feel that way too and it's just not healthy, but I understand. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.

This is another area where older men are better off. They have answers to many of the questions they were asking themselves in their 20s:

What will I be doing with my life?
What is going to be my path in life?
Will I be successful?
Will I have children?
Will I be able to lead a family?
etc...

At 45, you have answers to most of these questions already. But at 25, these questions can be daunting. Don't worry they will find answers naturally.

Anyway, life doesn't end at 30. Nor at 40. And I hope I'll be still posting updates here in 10 years time. In any case, older guys can have it easier than older women, provided they avoid the loopholes I mentioned. Woman sexual value definitely takes a huge depreciation after 35. Not us.

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[Sub-Zero]

Re: To guys on this board with limiting beliefs, here is what you should REALLY

You should still be here, you'll be the first 60 year old seducer I know. You'll give others motivation to be pimps forever.

What are these loopholes you speak of and how do you fix them? Do they take long to fix?

Yeah, people fear 30. I think it's mostly because they believe that at that time you're supposed to have everything figured out in life, I feel that way too and it's just not healthy, but I understand. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.

This is another area where older men are better off. They have answers to many of the questions they were asking themselves in their 20s:

What will I be doing with my life?
What is going to be my path in life?
Will I be successful?
Will I have children?
Will I be able to lead a family?
etc...

At 45, you have answers to most of these questions already. But at 25, these questions can be daunting. Don't worry they will find answers naturally.

Anyway, life doesn't end at 30. Nor at 40. And I hope I'll be still posting updates here in 10 years time. In any case, older guys can have it easier than older women, provided they avoid the loopholes I mentioned. Woman sexual value definitely takes a huge depreciation after 35. Not us.

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[razir110]

Re: To guys on this board with limiting beliefs, here is what you should REALLY

I think 30's are amazing.

You can shoot for girls of all ages. The 20's see you as an experienced man, the 30's, well you are their age, 40's even 50's see you as a young but mature and experienced guy.

About the regrets,

Regrets in general are the worst thing you can have. "If i knew this, if I did that" .. you can't know the future and you can't change the past. Just accept it, this is how the universe we live in works. You do what you think is right at the moment and the only thing you can do about it later, is to realize you messed up, learn from your mistake and don't repeat it in the future. There is no point to regret for not taking the right decision. You didn't know what was the right decision back then, how could you have done the right thing? You couldn't. Regrets may come if you know exactly what you are doing wrong (for example not approaching) but you just keep doing it again and again. However if you changed you attitude and learned from your mistakes, even if it took you a while, you did the right thing, there is nothing to regret, as a matter of fact it's a reason to be proud.

If I could go back to when I was 15 with the knowledge I have now, I would be a master of women, a genius at school and a billionaire by now but hey, this is not how things work. I was an insecure guy with loads of issues and I learned how to deal with all that. This made me who I am today , this is my path, this is who I am. You mistakes, successes and choices are what builds your life and your personality. If you could just go back and change stuff.. as I said it's not how universe works. The best thing to do is to just accept this fact.

Nobody is free from limiting beliefs, we all have them and always will.

To conclude, if there is one thing I could transport to my old self in the past, it would be the lottery combination My life would be so much easier now

 

[Michal]

Re: To guys on this board with limiting beliefs, here is what you should REALLY

Life starts behind the edge of your comfort zone.

Razir mentioned it but I want to mention it again for someone who is really new to this.

If you want something and you know (or have general idea) how to get it, but do nothing... it will eat you up at some point.
And if you are more on the sensitive side, your head starts to feed you these bad memories of your inaction one evening and it might ruin your mood and drive for the next 2 or 3 days. And you don't want that because you will lose time.

So, if you know that all you need to do to meet the girl of your life is to walk up to her and start a conversation, why not do it? Will you die if it goes badly? No. You will learn something, you will grow in some way.. most likely by conquering your fear. There is nothing for you to lose. Except maybe your ego taking a hit.
And if she is not interested, keep in mind that there are things outside of your control.
Think about following analogy:
You (and all men out there) have a letter. It is red, blue, grey, whatever the color. Some were given their color, some changed it over the years. Your goal is to find a girl who has an envelope in the same color as your letter. Who cares if you find a girl who wants a red letter if you offer a green one. Yea, it might be a shame when the envelope is great and has nice ornaments on it or whatever, but that is how it is.

So take action because that is where man's power and fulfillment comes from

EDIT: Funny how I approached a girl after writing this and she showed me her engagement ring to make it clear