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So I have this good (female) friend, let's call her Sarah, who wanted me and her roommate, let's call her Rachel, to meet. She introduced us two Saturdays ago and we seemed to hit it off pretty well. There was a good amount of flirting and chemistry. Got her number and ended up parting ways with them after about 45 minutes.
Texted Rachel the following day and set up a date with ease. She responded promptly and warmly. Date was set for last Thursday.
I text her Thursday afternoon giving her the details about everything and I get the dreaded cancellation response. She said she was "really busy" and had "a ton of homework and other shit to do." She did not make any attempt to reschedule right then.
My policy for flakes is always take them at their word the first time, and move on after the second time. Give them the benefit of the doubt if they cancel on you and give a valid reason. If they don't give a valid reason, move on. I don't make a big deal out of whether or not they make an attempt to reschedule, because I see that as my responsibility.
I responded with a simple "Np, do what you gotta do. We'll get together sometime soon." Gotta play it cool and not make it a big deal.
And for the record, Sarah told me the next day that Rachel IS constantly very busy with school, and sometimes they will go for days without even seeing each other. So I think it's safe to assume Rachel wasn't bullshitting me.
Yesterday (3 days after the cancellation), I sent another simple text in an attempt to set up a date again, and got the dreaded no response. I always fear this when trying to set up dates after a flake because I feel like I may be appearing too available. But at the same time, I know I can't overthink this kind of stuff.
Not taking it personally because this girl showed signs of interest early on. Problem is I haven't seen her since our initial interaction so it may be dwindling.
I frequently read Chase's article about what to do when a girl doesn't text back, and I'm considering shooting her a text today or maybe tomorrow. Might tell her I made plans for this Thursday (my go-to date night), but that I'll make it up to her in the future. I actually do have plans this Thursday so I wouldn't be lying.
I've read articles here and elsewhere, and watched videos that emphasize the importance of persistence and how it can really work wonders sometimes. I would LIKE to persist with this girl, but I am aware that it's not always the best option and sometime it's best to just move on.
What say you, GC? To persist or to cut my losses and move on?
Texted Rachel the following day and set up a date with ease. She responded promptly and warmly. Date was set for last Thursday.
I text her Thursday afternoon giving her the details about everything and I get the dreaded cancellation response. She said she was "really busy" and had "a ton of homework and other shit to do." She did not make any attempt to reschedule right then.
My policy for flakes is always take them at their word the first time, and move on after the second time. Give them the benefit of the doubt if they cancel on you and give a valid reason. If they don't give a valid reason, move on. I don't make a big deal out of whether or not they make an attempt to reschedule, because I see that as my responsibility.
I responded with a simple "Np, do what you gotta do. We'll get together sometime soon." Gotta play it cool and not make it a big deal.
And for the record, Sarah told me the next day that Rachel IS constantly very busy with school, and sometimes they will go for days without even seeing each other. So I think it's safe to assume Rachel wasn't bullshitting me.
Yesterday (3 days after the cancellation), I sent another simple text in an attempt to set up a date again, and got the dreaded no response. I always fear this when trying to set up dates after a flake because I feel like I may be appearing too available. But at the same time, I know I can't overthink this kind of stuff.
Not taking it personally because this girl showed signs of interest early on. Problem is I haven't seen her since our initial interaction so it may be dwindling.
I frequently read Chase's article about what to do when a girl doesn't text back, and I'm considering shooting her a text today or maybe tomorrow. Might tell her I made plans for this Thursday (my go-to date night), but that I'll make it up to her in the future. I actually do have plans this Thursday so I wouldn't be lying.
I've read articles here and elsewhere, and watched videos that emphasize the importance of persistence and how it can really work wonders sometimes. I would LIKE to persist with this girl, but I am aware that it's not always the best option and sometime it's best to just move on.
What say you, GC? To persist or to cut my losses and move on?
