Hey All,
I'm extremely excited to finally be doing the newbie challenge. I've been an avid reader of girls chase since half way through my freshman year of college and I'm now starting my junior year. I think I've probably read something like 80% of the website, but I still have approach anxiety! It's baffling to me, because when I finally do talk to women I'm quite competent. I think that my fundamentals are down reasonably well and I have decent game, however whenever it comes time to grow some balls and approach women I get all in my head and freeze up. The breaking point for me was last night when I was at bar trivia and there were tons of beautiful women and I was too lame to approach any of them despite holding eye contact with several of them and receiving plenty of approach invitations. I decided then and there that it was time to overcome my illogical fears.
One of the reasons that it took so long to finally get around to this is because I'm a really busy college student. Ideally I'll be able to fit in 15 consecutive days of exercises by adapting the exercise to the schedule that I already have. To that end, I decided to slightly modify the Day One assignment to fit me better. Specifically I came up with 3 distinct locations that, combined, will surely have enough variety of women to allow me to practice consistently.
DAY 1
1) The gym. I go every morning and particularly in the beginning of the semester there are tons of women. Since most girls only go a couple days of the week, but many like to go in the morning there are plenty of people to approach. I know that I'll have to be a bit more cautious here than on the street because I don't want to risk being kicked out like this article warned about however I really don't think it will be much of an issue.
2) Walking around campus. Since I attend UC Berkeley which has about 30,000 students, literally anywhere I walk there are plenty of girls. I have several specific locations that I plan to walk through whenever reasonable because they are particularly high traffic areas.
3) Dining Hall. Of the three, I'm most nervous about this location. Our dining hall is not really conducive to meeting women because the tables are massive Hogwarts-style affairs that people inevitably like to group up in. Its really uncommon to see girls that are eating by themselves so the main time that I would be able to approach will be while they're grabbing food. I think that between the gym and street game I should have enough opportunities to approach that it won't really matter in the long run.
I'm aware that even on the first day I'm already starting to bend the rules however in my mind, its this or nothing because I'm enrolled in a rigorous course load. I think that this will allow me to integrate approaching into my day-to-day life which is really ideal and hopefully this creates a habit that I can continue for the rest of my time in college.
By the end of this assignment, my goal is to be able to have anyone (including most importantly myself) point out any girl in any situation and I will be confident enough to approach her. This will be the main benchmark of my experiment and I will try to quantify my anxiety throughout the process. Anxiety seems like a difficult thing to quantify so the metric that I've decided on will be my ratio of "i should talk to her" thoughts, to actually following through on my internal monologue. I'm going to keep track on my phone and hopefully by then end of the period this rate is close to zero.
I'm super excited about tomorrow where I'll be working on posture all day long!
Thanks for reading
I'm extremely excited to finally be doing the newbie challenge. I've been an avid reader of girls chase since half way through my freshman year of college and I'm now starting my junior year. I think I've probably read something like 80% of the website, but I still have approach anxiety! It's baffling to me, because when I finally do talk to women I'm quite competent. I think that my fundamentals are down reasonably well and I have decent game, however whenever it comes time to grow some balls and approach women I get all in my head and freeze up. The breaking point for me was last night when I was at bar trivia and there were tons of beautiful women and I was too lame to approach any of them despite holding eye contact with several of them and receiving plenty of approach invitations. I decided then and there that it was time to overcome my illogical fears.
One of the reasons that it took so long to finally get around to this is because I'm a really busy college student. Ideally I'll be able to fit in 15 consecutive days of exercises by adapting the exercise to the schedule that I already have. To that end, I decided to slightly modify the Day One assignment to fit me better. Specifically I came up with 3 distinct locations that, combined, will surely have enough variety of women to allow me to practice consistently.
DAY 1
1) The gym. I go every morning and particularly in the beginning of the semester there are tons of women. Since most girls only go a couple days of the week, but many like to go in the morning there are plenty of people to approach. I know that I'll have to be a bit more cautious here than on the street because I don't want to risk being kicked out like this article warned about however I really don't think it will be much of an issue.
2) Walking around campus. Since I attend UC Berkeley which has about 30,000 students, literally anywhere I walk there are plenty of girls. I have several specific locations that I plan to walk through whenever reasonable because they are particularly high traffic areas.
3) Dining Hall. Of the three, I'm most nervous about this location. Our dining hall is not really conducive to meeting women because the tables are massive Hogwarts-style affairs that people inevitably like to group up in. Its really uncommon to see girls that are eating by themselves so the main time that I would be able to approach will be while they're grabbing food. I think that between the gym and street game I should have enough opportunities to approach that it won't really matter in the long run.
I'm aware that even on the first day I'm already starting to bend the rules however in my mind, its this or nothing because I'm enrolled in a rigorous course load. I think that this will allow me to integrate approaching into my day-to-day life which is really ideal and hopefully this creates a habit that I can continue for the rest of my time in college.
By the end of this assignment, my goal is to be able to have anyone (including most importantly myself) point out any girl in any situation and I will be confident enough to approach her. This will be the main benchmark of my experiment and I will try to quantify my anxiety throughout the process. Anxiety seems like a difficult thing to quantify so the metric that I've decided on will be my ratio of "i should talk to her" thoughts, to actually following through on my internal monologue. I'm going to keep track on my phone and hopefully by then end of the period this rate is close to zero.
I'm super excited about tomorrow where I'll be working on posture all day long!
Thanks for reading
