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I met this girl on Monday. It was a quick interaction but qualified and connected with her. When I texted her to set up a date, she took 6+ hours to reply, but this morning she texted me first asking me where we should meet. I told her to meet outside the cafe. That seemed like a good sign.
I was a little late, but saw her waiting outside already. Put my arm on her back as I greeted her. She seemed a little nervous. I lead us to the counter to order coffee and sat down at a quiet corner in the cafe. My usual spot was taken, so I had to choose another bigger table. I choose my seat first, and she was about to sit across me. I told her to sit closer because that's a little too far, and she complied. Anyway, some vibing went on. I wrote down 3 things on my hand before the date that I should focus on during the date, and they were "qualifying", "us vs world, love, sexual topics", "pause, slow, calm presence". Even though I wrote these things down, I was still staying present to the moment and not thinking about them. I trusted myself that I would do these as the opportunity present themselves. Not long after, we started flirting with each other. About an hour into the date, I suggested we go for a walk.
As soon as we got outside, she asked me where my apartment is. I pointed to it, but we were already walking in the opposite direction. I was tempted to just change direction and went straight back to my place, but figured there's no rush. I'll just walk around and loop back. I started holding her hand as we walk. Sensed she was kinda half into it, so I let go, and we talked for a bit more. Deep dived a bit. Then as we got closer to my place, we started holding hands again and now she's more into it. I slowly changed the conversation to games of thrones as a way to invite her upstairs. She just followed me and no question asked.
As we entered my room, she commented on how big my bed is. I just calmly played it off, even though I probably could've put some sexual innuendo into it, but I felt like comfort first. I turned on my computer and started playing games of throne so things don't feel awkward. Then I started talking to her. When she's mid sentence talking about something, I felt like kissing her so I leaned in and she kissed me back. It felt amazing. We made out for a while then we had sex. I tried to do a lot of foreplay. During the sex, my boner went away for a bit because I had to pee lol I was afraid going to the toilet would ruin the mood, but it didn't. She was smiling when I came back.
After we had sex, I felt her legs shaking.
Me: "your legs are shaking"
Her: "yea you tired me out"
Me: "really? that was just round one lol"
We talked a bit more to connect. I asked her what's her best sex experience. She told me I'm the second best...haha liar. I could tell she wanted to say I'm the best, but didn't want to give me the satisfaction. Then she started saying I'm a player and joked about how I pick up girls like this. Tbh, it kinda bothered me, but I get it. She needs me to take the blame so she doesn't feel slutty. I flipped the script and accused of her picking me up and she laughed and agreed. Anyway, she suddenly asked for the time and said she has to go to a party. I teased her that she actually wanted to stay. She laughed and jokingly said na she has to go. Now in restrospect, I probably could've done better here and stopped the chase framing because now my value is too high and she's going into autorejection. She stayed for 10 mins after that and sit up in bed. I teased her "I could tell you really want to stay". Then she started putting her clothes on lol Comfort. Comfort.
I started to feel a little needy but I think I nipped it in the bud. I let her put her clothes on, and she went into the bathroom to get properly dressed. When she came out, I hold out my hand while looking on Youtube to pick a song. I told her to come dance with me. I played the Great Gatsby orchestra music at the background. I loved this track and thought it was fitting for the moment. We danced for a moment and she teased me again for being a player. I told her to shut up and not ruin this moment. Then I walked her out. As we're walking out, I started proposing possible plan in the future. It was around 6pm. We kissed and hugged goodbye. I'm not sure when I should text her. A part of me thinks I should text her the next morning because she's at a party, but I felt like that could be too late (more than 12 hours) and she might autoreject. Another part of me thinks I should just text her around 10-11pm, and that would make it 4 hours since I saw her.
I was a little late, but saw her waiting outside already. Put my arm on her back as I greeted her. She seemed a little nervous. I lead us to the counter to order coffee and sat down at a quiet corner in the cafe. My usual spot was taken, so I had to choose another bigger table. I choose my seat first, and she was about to sit across me. I told her to sit closer because that's a little too far, and she complied. Anyway, some vibing went on. I wrote down 3 things on my hand before the date that I should focus on during the date, and they were "qualifying", "us vs world, love, sexual topics", "pause, slow, calm presence". Even though I wrote these things down, I was still staying present to the moment and not thinking about them. I trusted myself that I would do these as the opportunity present themselves. Not long after, we started flirting with each other. About an hour into the date, I suggested we go for a walk.
As soon as we got outside, she asked me where my apartment is. I pointed to it, but we were already walking in the opposite direction. I was tempted to just change direction and went straight back to my place, but figured there's no rush. I'll just walk around and loop back. I started holding her hand as we walk. Sensed she was kinda half into it, so I let go, and we talked for a bit more. Deep dived a bit. Then as we got closer to my place, we started holding hands again and now she's more into it. I slowly changed the conversation to games of thrones as a way to invite her upstairs. She just followed me and no question asked.
As we entered my room, she commented on how big my bed is. I just calmly played it off, even though I probably could've put some sexual innuendo into it, but I felt like comfort first. I turned on my computer and started playing games of throne so things don't feel awkward. Then I started talking to her. When she's mid sentence talking about something, I felt like kissing her so I leaned in and she kissed me back. It felt amazing. We made out for a while then we had sex. I tried to do a lot of foreplay. During the sex, my boner went away for a bit because I had to pee lol I was afraid going to the toilet would ruin the mood, but it didn't. She was smiling when I came back.
After we had sex, I felt her legs shaking.
Me: "your legs are shaking"
Her: "yea you tired me out"
Me: "really? that was just round one lol"
We talked a bit more to connect. I asked her what's her best sex experience. She told me I'm the second best...haha liar. I could tell she wanted to say I'm the best, but didn't want to give me the satisfaction. Then she started saying I'm a player and joked about how I pick up girls like this. Tbh, it kinda bothered me, but I get it. She needs me to take the blame so she doesn't feel slutty. I flipped the script and accused of her picking me up and she laughed and agreed. Anyway, she suddenly asked for the time and said she has to go to a party. I teased her that she actually wanted to stay. She laughed and jokingly said na she has to go. Now in restrospect, I probably could've done better here and stopped the chase framing because now my value is too high and she's going into autorejection. She stayed for 10 mins after that and sit up in bed. I teased her "I could tell you really want to stay". Then she started putting her clothes on lol Comfort. Comfort.
I started to feel a little needy but I think I nipped it in the bud. I let her put her clothes on, and she went into the bathroom to get properly dressed. When she came out, I hold out my hand while looking on Youtube to pick a song. I told her to come dance with me. I played the Great Gatsby orchestra music at the background. I loved this track and thought it was fitting for the moment. We danced for a moment and she teased me again for being a player. I told her to shut up and not ruin this moment. Then I walked her out. As we're walking out, I started proposing possible plan in the future. It was around 6pm. We kissed and hugged goodbye. I'm not sure when I should text her. A part of me thinks I should text her the next morning because she's at a party, but I felt like that could be too late (more than 12 hours) and she might autoreject. Another part of me thinks I should just text her around 10-11pm, and that would make it 4 hours since I saw her.
