Too successful early on?

[MichaelAndrewLo]

I wonder if being too successful early on when you try to improve is actually a hinderance to long term growth. In my own life for example, the second girlfriend I had when I was 18 I was living in a foreign student house with 8 to 9 girls my own age and I met an amazingly attractive girl within a week of being there and we slept together within 5 hours of meeting. For the next three months all we did was go at it multiple times a day. Similar experiences have happened repeatedly where I meet the next girl and we stay together for various lengths of time, until it fizzles out. I think in the end if I would have had more resistance/more blow outs I would be easier able to move from one girl to the next on purpose. I think there is a mindset that you WILL fail so much and then wake up and be good. While I understand this is true from a skill set perspective, what do the men who say, approach 1 or 2 times and end up with an attractive girl who then you make your girlfriend (why wouldn't you if she's hot, cooks for you, pays for you, and puts effort to please you) do? There was one gap in my life of being single while I was still sleeping with my ex that I went to the library and cold approached 3 girls in the library and one ended up being my girlfriend I have now. I know it's not a bad thing to have success but I feel that I could be so much better. If there is anyone who understands this dilemma, how did you rectify it? Just cold approaching a lot to build the skills anyway? Thanks.

 

[trashKENNUT]

MichaelAndrewLo

one ended up being my girlfriend I have now. I know it's not a bad thing to have success but I feel that I could be so much better. If there is anyone who understands this dilemma, how did you rectify it? Just cold approaching a lot to build the skills anyway? Thanks.

If you still love your girlfriend, this will not show in your body language but it will be, that is if you lose interest in her.

Why you want to be better is what you want to ask yourself?

Zac

 

[MichaelAndrewLo]

The answer to why is I have been having a moral dilemma recently realizing I cheat into most relationships and I feel if I actually developed a high enough skill I could live with more integrity. The other aspect is I love the process of skill acquisition. It endlessly fascinates me that interacting with women is a skill that can be learned. I am a musician and see it as developing your technique to a high degree so that the performance is effortless. So I am in the process as to how the transition into acquiring the skill from a rather messy base. I am not sure what to keep and what to leave.

 

[trashKENNUT]

MichaelAndrewLo,

The answer to why is I have been having a moral dilemma recently realizing I cheat into most relationships and I feel if I actually developed a high enough skill I could live with more integrity. The other aspect is I love the process of skill acquisition. It endlessly fascinates me that interacting with women is a skill that can be learned. I am a musician and see it as developing your technique to a high degree so that the performance is effortless. So I am in the process as to how the transition into acquiring the skill from a rather messy base. I am not sure what to keep and what to leave.

If you cheat into most relationships and you feel the need to be more integrity, Just don't apologize if she doesn't know. Make peace with yourself.

Then decide if you want to leave then. (Girls don't like seeing guys being too pathetic, You know the tv show where the guy cries and all that shit?, Just be man enough to apologize or not apologize if you want, and then leave her. Leaving her helps you make peace, and also lessen moral dilemma on you if you are emphathic.).

Zac