Transitioning from Banter to Deep Diving

[Smurf]

Hey guys,

I've been having trouble switching gears lately. If I'm bantering and flirting, I might get stuck in that zone and stop trying to deep dive. Flip that, I might be getting way to serious into a deep conversation and not coming up for air at the right times. So do you guys have any tips for trying to transition from each of those better? Or even transitioning from Flirting to romantic energy and things like that?

Help's appreciated guys.

Jake.

 

[Thedoctor]

Jake,

If you haven't read these articles, give them a look:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/conversationalist
(Chase talks about managing the conversation flow or "coming up for air as you said." It's the #5 point near the bottom of the article

https://www.girlschase.com/content/secr ... -deep-dive
(Check out the areas titled "thread cutting" and "thread directing."

And this last one has some really good tidbits:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/20-w ... it-amazing

Basically, if you feel like you've been in deep dive too long and you think she may be wanting something lighter, just change the subject to something lighter (thread cutting). There's really no need to be subtle about it if you can't be. The fact that you noticed there was a need for a lighter topic makes you seem that much more socially aware. My advice would be to relate to something earlier that she mentioned but you didn't really explore at the time. Like maybe she mentioned a trip she took to Europe, for instance.

-Doc