Transitioning from texting to first meet up

[Ry777]

Hey guys,

Ive been noticing that it seems my weakest area when it cones to women is transitioning from getting their number after a pickup, and the first date. If i can meet a girl within the first few days everything is fine, but if life intervenes and it goes more than a week or so, things almost always fizzle out. Now im sure this is natural but i also think it may be my ability to smalltalk and flirt over text messege prior to meeting. Im really bad when it cones to talking to new girls in tinder too and girls ive never met but i am fine in person, any advice? How often do you text girls and how do you keep things interesting with girls where you dont know likes interests cant read body language etc.

 

[foggy]

ry777, these are interesting questions. I think the answers you get from people on the boards regarding this topic will vary. Everyone has a different texting style.

If i can meet a girl within the first few days everything is fine, but if life intervenes and it goes more than a week or so, things almost always fizzle out.

You're right - this is a natural thing to happen. It's pretty common especially if your fundamentals aren't tight and/or the interaction was relatively average. I would recommend learning emotional cementing. It's a good technique that will help a girl retain the good feelings she felt for you when you first met her and then things will fizzle out less quickly. You can learn it here: https://www.girlschase.com/content/brain ... ng-emotion

Now im sure this is natural but i also think it may be my ability to smalltalk and flirt over text messege prior to meeting. Im really bad when it cones to talking to new girls in tinder too and girls ive never met but i am fine in person, any advice? How often do you text girls and how do you keep things interesting with girls where you dont know likes interests cant read body language etc.

I solely use texting for logistics. I don't flirt through text because there's all sorts of ways it could be interpreted by the girl - not necessarily the way i want it to be perceived. I don't small talk through text either because this is just boring to the girl. She's got tons of guys trying to small talk with her through text every day. I just text her to make plans for our next meeting, but I am most definitely warm and friendly about it.

I would get under the mindset that you DON'T need to try to make things interesting with girls through text after meeting them. Instead I would aim to get better in your initial interaction with a girl. If you had a boring interaction with her, texting her will NOT change her mind about you. If you had a great interaction with her, she's likely looking forward to seeing you again anyways, so focus on making plans with her and getting her out with you ASAP.