FR Troubleshooting texting game

[tvktvk]

Waddup people, having trouble getting results from my texting so I thought I could get some pointers of what I'm doing wrong. I'll give two examples.

Linni - Ex co-worker at my old part time job, she had a boyfriend at the time but there was always tension between us. When I got back home from exchange we matched on tinder:

Me, tuesday 0830pm - Haha hey Linni What are you doing on tinder
Linni wednesday 0014am - Hey
Linni wednesday 0014am - Just checking what's out there atm. What about you?
Me 0242am - Haha I'm back home again! What happened with the boyfriend
Linni 0336pm - It ended two weeks before "insert holiday location". (She's apparently been single for a while, but I didn't know since I was abroad)
Linni 0336pm -
Me 0730pm - Ahh. Anyways, single life is pretty awesome so ain't nothing to worry about Are you going out next week?
Linni 0807pm - Pretty certain I am. I don't have any plans yet though
Me thursday 0058am - Hehe ok. It would be nice to see you again
Linni 0121am - Sure we could do that
Me 0100pm - I'll text you sometime next week. You still got your old number?
Linni 0150pm - Yes

So I leave it at that, did not want to take this girl out on a date because I feel it would have sent the wrong message of what I want. She's fucking crazy, but I thought she could be a nice fuckbuddy. I then text her wednesday the week after:

Me 0730pm - Hey Linni, how's it going? I'm going out tomorrow, but I'm probably going out other days as well this week haha How does your schedule look like?
Linni 1021pm - Sorry for the late response. I'm thinking going out tomorrow as well but I'm not sure. I can text you if I am
Me - You do that, I'll be going out other days as well

She never texts. I go out, and while I'm out I hear my phone beeping:
Linni friday 0105am - Didn't go out today. But I'm going out on saturday
Me 10.52am Hey! Haha ok, I'll see you then

When saturday approaches I find out that it's her birthday... What I'm thinking now is that if we actually hook up on her birthday it will send her boyfriends signals. Anyways, I say fuck it and text her anyway right before I head out:

Me saturday 1140pm - Happy birthday Linni Where were you thinking going out tonight?

Aaand I never heard from her again. I am really stuggling to understand what I did wrong her since she never stopped responding to my texts until the very end. Would LOVE your guys opinion on this one.

Amanda, this one is a short interaction. Cute tinder match:

Me monday 1046pm - Looks like we both have good taste (stole this one from RDAWG I think)
Amanda 1051pm - Not impossible!
Me tuesday 1207am - On the other hand I'm not quite sure if I should take your bio seriously
Amanda 1221pm - Haha how come?
Me 0705pm - When you say you're looking for your one true love, it puts a lot of pressure on me (and probably others as well, haha) Are you looking for anything serious?
Amanda 1053pm - Im just kidding haha, don't feel pressured
Me Wednesday 1230am - Haha ok! I hope you want to meet though, that would be nice How's your schedule this week?

Aaand I haven't heard from her since... pointers on what I'm doing wrong? Am I asking for too much with that last text?

Always grateful for your help guys
TVKTVK

 

[Jeet02]

Hey man,

With Linni I think the problem was not setting concrete plans. You should set up an actual meet with her and go out because you are meeting up with her. Although every once in a while it is ok to be like "I am heading over to X-Bar tonight with a few friends, tag along if you are free", in most cases it is better to be direct and state where and when you guys should go.

Try reaching out again, something like "Hey Linni, it was a shame we didn't get to meet up last week, let's not make the same mistake again. What's your schedule like this week?" once she answers...choose one of the days and say you guys should meet at some bar, or coffee shop that day, that you want to catch up with her. i.e. "Thursday sounds good to me. How about we go to *insert bar name here* around 8ish?" Or something like that...once it is set, no need to do more texting except for the day off.

As far as the second one, I am not too sure what happened to be honest. Only thing I could see as not showing much confidence is the "I hope you want to meet though". You should always assume the girl wants to meet, especially if you guys already matched on Tinder. I would've phrased that other wise and say something like "Phew, good! Let's meet up soon though, how's your schedule this week?". Or even taken it off of Tinder by asking her for phone number.

Those are my 2 cents on the matter.

Keep at it!

 

[tvktvk]

Thank you for your response Jeet. Maybe I have to do some tweaks on how I phrase things...

I also managed to fuck up another tinder match yesterday and I have no fucking idea what happened, because I felt my texting was working really well. I want to put it on here for you guys to look at:

Tinder girl with amazing boobs

Me saturday 0414pm - Your boobs are amazing
Me 0414pm - Just wanted to get that off my chest
Sweet tits 0417pm - Thank u honey (with kissface smiley)
Me 0422pm - You're welcome. Got any exciting plans this weekend?
ST 0423pm - Celebrate my birthday
ST 0423pm - Im only in town for the weekend (I'm off course thinking this is perfect)
Me 0425pm - Haha well happy bday! I'm actually heading to a birthday tonight as well. Where are you from?
ST 0427pm - "City down south"
Me 0433pm - Sexy southern girl, haha. Well I'd love to meet you later if you're up for that
ST 0443pm - Yess
ST 0444pm - Dont touch boobs
Me 0451pm - I can't promise you that What's your number
ST 0451pm - XX (she gives me two digits, I'm like wtf)
Me 0459pm - ?

So after this she never responds. Why would she only give me two digits? Did she maybe make a mistake? I ask her where she is going like 11 pm, she of course never responds. fml... I'm just thinking how the fuck did I not get this girl's number.

 

[Jeet02]

Maybe she misunderstood and told you her age?

Do you have the Tinder System by Colt? This will sound like a sell...but maybe you should consider getting it. I think it will answer a lot of the questions you have been having on how to handle this situations / what's the best way to get their phone number and what not.

Check it out here: https://www.laidontinder.com/pres/tinder-system it worked wonders for me...