So this was the day I tried the "Are you single?" approach as described in this article https://www.girlschase.com/content/are-you-single-why-always-ask-girls. I wasn't very keen at trying it when I first went out after work, but when Ricardus was writing about the reactions you get: "It throws them off… they often stutter and don’t know what to say at first. It’s quite funny to watch actually." - I decided to give it a try anyways.
I spot this cute girl wearing training tights and pre-open her. She looks at me and I say it.
We talked for a couple of minutes. I couldn't find any points to start deep diving with. So we talked about intermittent fasting and training. I ask her out, and she deflects by saying maybe. I guess I didn't build enough connection anyways. I thought I could try polarizing a little. I grabbed her hand and started talking about some random topics. She pulled it back. I excused myself and left.
After this I spot another cutie. Great ass. Blue eyes. I got the same, surprised reaction, but this girl had a boyfriend and they have been together the last five yeats.
I guess I made her day then.
Its not often I go out "just to approach women". Usually I run errands or meet a friend. This time it was Marius, a guy I meet twice a week to eat for free (we go to a restaurant that gives away their food before they close) and meet girls. He was running a little late so I start talking to this cute girl sitting by herself. I usually dont go directly at coffeehouses and restaurants so I tried to go indirectly, just to rehearse my deep diving skills.
She hooks. I talk as little about myself as possible. My friend Marius comes and I introduce her to him. I am usually not the best to remember names, but so I introduced her with the wrong name (forehead smack).
I ask her for her number and she says I remind her of her best friends ex-boyfriend. I can also see that she looks at me in between conversations. I was good at pregnant pauses and creating intrigue, but it was difficult to make her invest more than just talking.
And then, as she was talking a bit to her friend, I started a conversation with somebody else thinking she would stay a couple of more minutes.
I was surprised. I guess she tought by then that I was a sociable guy (auto-rejection). She leaves and Marius says I need to hug girls or leave them warmly before saying goodbye. (Another forehead smack!).
It was getting late and it was rainy. We did not spot any girls. I tell Marius that we should go to the mall, only to be encountered by young girls (14 - 16yrs). I spot one cute 20 yo and give her my "Are you single?" question. She reacted surprised only to tell me she had a boyfriend.
So that was it. All in all an ok day considering that it was late and girls where not on the street. I tell Marius that we should go to clubs and approach, he agrees. He tells me we should start daygaming a little earlier as well. We agree to meet this weekend and approach many girls.
I spot this cute girl wearing training tights and pre-open her. She looks at me and I say it.
We talked for a couple of minutes. I couldn't find any points to start deep diving with. So we talked about intermittent fasting and training. I ask her out, and she deflects by saying maybe. I guess I didn't build enough connection anyways. I thought I could try polarizing a little. I grabbed her hand and started talking about some random topics. She pulled it back. I excused myself and left.
After this I spot another cutie. Great ass. Blue eyes. I got the same, surprised reaction, but this girl had a boyfriend and they have been together the last five yeats.
I guess I made her day then.
Its not often I go out "just to approach women". Usually I run errands or meet a friend. This time it was Marius, a guy I meet twice a week to eat for free (we go to a restaurant that gives away their food before they close) and meet girls. He was running a little late so I start talking to this cute girl sitting by herself. I usually dont go directly at coffeehouses and restaurants so I tried to go indirectly, just to rehearse my deep diving skills.
She hooks. I talk as little about myself as possible. My friend Marius comes and I introduce her to him. I am usually not the best to remember names, but so I introduced her with the wrong name (forehead smack).
I ask her for her number and she says I remind her of her best friends ex-boyfriend. I can also see that she looks at me in between conversations. I was good at pregnant pauses and creating intrigue, but it was difficult to make her invest more than just talking.
And then, as she was talking a bit to her friend, I started a conversation with somebody else thinking she would stay a couple of more minutes.
I was surprised. I guess she tought by then that I was a sociable guy (auto-rejection). She leaves and Marius says I need to hug girls or leave them warmly before saying goodbye. (Another forehead smack!).
It was getting late and it was rainy. We did not spot any girls. I tell Marius that we should go to the mall, only to be encountered by young girls (14 - 16yrs). I spot one cute 20 yo and give her my "Are you single?" question. She reacted surprised only to tell me she had a boyfriend.
So that was it. All in all an ok day considering that it was late and girls where not on the street. I tell Marius that we should go to clubs and approach, he agrees. He tells me we should start daygaming a little earlier as well. We agree to meet this weekend and approach many girls.
. Body language and tone is everything though for this kind of opener.