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I’m in a famous library and my eyes are open as I walk past a girl sitting in a little nook.
She's super cute with a big baggy hoodie and a hat low on her face, so I glance her way and get a massive IOI in return.
I stop and say hey, then she immediately gestures for me to sit down next to her.
Whoa. Green light as fuck.
Her shoes are off and she's just chilling cross legged on the bench. I have time to play ball so I join her.
She's local and super calm. Chill girl who has a break from working and studying and is just hanging out in her free time.
Barely speaks English but she’s unusually open to trying.
She makes super cute sounds when she gets frustrated. And of course my mind is going elsewhere. I want to hear those sounds… later...
It’s mostly chit chat between us. Hard to get deep convos/nuance with the language barrier. But we agree we’re both single and she's down to show me around where she lives. Asks for my instagram long before I set up a real date.
And this whole time we have some pauses where we aren't speaking. Just sitting, observing all the people walking by, living in the moment. Free.
We're facing each other in the nook. I have her come closer to show pictures, there’s some touching and light flirting but not much. After all we are in a public library with hundreds of people in sight.
We're flirting a bit but I'm not getting (or creating) the 'on' vibe yet. She mentions something about having foreign friends so I'm not 100% sure where this will go, but I know she's willing to keep hanging out with me.
I have an event to go to which I considered ditching for this girl, but the velocity just isn’t here enough for me to skip it. Which is my fault for not making it sexual.
I decide to go to the event and set up a time to meet. She already said she’s free all day tomorrow. But she also said she stays up until 2-4 am every night and sleeps until 4pm (??) so I tell her let's meet up later, I'll text you after the event. She agrees so I skedaddle.
Texts right after leaving:
- “Nice meeting you just now”
“Yes!”
- “See you later
”
“Tonight?
Right?"
- “Yep after my event”
“Yes”
The event sucks. Not what I wanted and there were only two semi cute girls so i grab their instas and leave early.
Texts from me:
“Leaving my event now”
“Where are you?”
(No answer)
(Voice call no answer)
and I'm a bit perplexed because this interaction was really solid. I'm surprised she would ghost so I chalk it up to culture.
I dick around for a bit waiting but I'm an hour from home so it's time for me to head back.
I take the long way home knowing that I'll pass her station just in case I hear from her. I know she'll be up late so there's a chance.
Look at the convo, unsend the ig messages, assume she’s flaked. Text a few girls from apps and mentally move on.
Send "passed (station) already 🫡" as a final ping.
And get a voice call.
I hop out of the subway right away to take it. closer mentality.
It takes a full 5 minutes to establish where we're meeting because I can't hear her and she can't really speak English. But once understood, she texts saying she's on her way and apologizes for making me wait. Sends me a screenshot of her phone at 4% as to why she didn't answer earlier.
We meet at her station and her phone is completely dead. Which is fine by me, perfect excuse, I say we should go charge it, she’s not too keen on the idea. My thought is she's not quite ready for the pull. If it were my phone dead or my place I would've pushed but here I don't hold the cards.
So I vibe. She asks what kind of drink I like. I assume we’re just building context so that she understands what’s going on.
'Guy I met at the library and talked to = ??'
'Guy I'm drinking with at night = hookup'
I let her take me to her favorite restaurant. Small issue of whenever I give her sexual looks she asks “why?”
We drink and talk for a little, she starts getting a lil tipsy off like 2 cups of soju and asks me a few questions.
"Are you open minded? (local meme asking if I'm a fuckboy)
lol. Yeah it's not a big deal for me if I like someone. Are you open minded?
she says No!
Had me for a good 4 seconds
"What’s your body count?"
I don’t give an answer, said some kind of “it’s about energy if I like someone” but for the most part just not answering. She has no idea what I'm saying anyways. And has no clue if I actually understand her question or not, it's not like she's pressing for a number.
I keep vibing. I'm getting memories of happy times.
At one point she says her friends taught her an English phrase but she doesn't know what it means.
It's “fuck me”
just lol.
along with "can you stay up late tonight"
I say her friends sound fun. Tell her that’s okay to say to me now but not to anyone else.
She mentions something about destiny and deja vu and I agree.
Then she says something about being done with questions so I take that as our cue.
Ask/gesture if she’s ready to go, she says yeah and we dip.
I pay, she pretends to protest but I want a clean exit. It's like $8, I don't even think about it. It's officially don't fuck up game now.
Start walking away and she asks "what do you want from me" multiple times. I don’t want to say sex here because I don't want to spook her. I make up some bullshit about feeling the energy. But also make sure to pull her close against me when we pause at crosswalks so she knows. It's on now.
This is probably where I should've been more direct but I still didn't want to spook her.
I’m assuming we’re going to her place. She asks where we're going and I say to charge her phone. We pass by the metro and she mentions something about me going home, taking the subway... but it's futile. I feel bad for any poor soul who would've stopped here.
We walk then she says she doesn’t know where she's going. I say to charge her phone, don't you know where your apartment is? Pull out my phone for the map and she looks for a second and says she has a better idea of where to go.
I ask where knowing exactly what’s happening. She gives me a 'shh' signal.
Let her lead me 2 mins away to a hotel. She talks to the desk and pays within 30 sec and we’re off to the room.
Make out on the way up. I shower, she showers, the rest is history.
And I take the bus home at 3am to pay for my sins.
Keys to the lay:
I didn't rush anything in the library. Let her fill gaps in the conversation and seeded the pull to her place early along with logistics like age and being single, even though the sexual vibe wasn't strong.
Pinged her again, got off the subway and turned the fuck around as soon as she called me. Closer mentality.
Paid no attention to all the little ways I could’ve gotten out - her asking if I’d take the subway home, saying she’s not open minded, not reciprocating sexual gaze, not taking me to her apartment, the language barrier
Knowing how/when to let a girl lead - if she drives the train I laid the tracks.
Possible issues:
Fuckboy objection.
Same issue I got the other day where the girl 1. didn't seem to know why I liked her and 2. wanted confirmation that I wanted to bang ahead of time.
I think I played 2. right but having 1. a specific reason for attainability should be better.
Sexuality - If I had been more sexual the right way in the library I probably could've set up the meet just to bang instead of going for a drink.
She's super cute with a big baggy hoodie and a hat low on her face, so I glance her way and get a massive IOI in return.
I stop and say hey, then she immediately gestures for me to sit down next to her.
Whoa. Green light as fuck.
Her shoes are off and she's just chilling cross legged on the bench. I have time to play ball so I join her.
She's local and super calm. Chill girl who has a break from working and studying and is just hanging out in her free time.
Barely speaks English but she’s unusually open to trying.
She makes super cute sounds when she gets frustrated. And of course my mind is going elsewhere. I want to hear those sounds… later...
It’s mostly chit chat between us. Hard to get deep convos/nuance with the language barrier. But we agree we’re both single and she's down to show me around where she lives. Asks for my instagram long before I set up a real date.
And this whole time we have some pauses where we aren't speaking. Just sitting, observing all the people walking by, living in the moment. Free.
We're facing each other in the nook. I have her come closer to show pictures, there’s some touching and light flirting but not much. After all we are in a public library with hundreds of people in sight.
We're flirting a bit but I'm not getting (or creating) the 'on' vibe yet. She mentions something about having foreign friends so I'm not 100% sure where this will go, but I know she's willing to keep hanging out with me.
I have an event to go to which I considered ditching for this girl, but the velocity just isn’t here enough for me to skip it. Which is my fault for not making it sexual.
I decide to go to the event and set up a time to meet. She already said she’s free all day tomorrow. But she also said she stays up until 2-4 am every night and sleeps until 4pm (??) so I tell her let's meet up later, I'll text you after the event. She agrees so I skedaddle.
Texts right after leaving:
- “Nice meeting you just now”
“Yes!”
- “See you later
”“Tonight?
Right?"
- “Yep after my event”
“Yes”
The event sucks. Not what I wanted and there were only two semi cute girls so i grab their instas and leave early.
Texts from me:
“Leaving my event now”
“Where are you?”
(No answer)
(Voice call no answer)
and I'm a bit perplexed because this interaction was really solid. I'm surprised she would ghost so I chalk it up to culture.
I dick around for a bit waiting but I'm an hour from home so it's time for me to head back.
I take the long way home knowing that I'll pass her station just in case I hear from her. I know she'll be up late so there's a chance.
Look at the convo, unsend the ig messages, assume she’s flaked. Text a few girls from apps and mentally move on.
Send "passed (station) already 🫡" as a final ping.
And get a voice call.
I hop out of the subway right away to take it. closer mentality.
It takes a full 5 minutes to establish where we're meeting because I can't hear her and she can't really speak English. But once understood, she texts saying she's on her way and apologizes for making me wait. Sends me a screenshot of her phone at 4% as to why she didn't answer earlier.
We meet at her station and her phone is completely dead. Which is fine by me, perfect excuse, I say we should go charge it, she’s not too keen on the idea. My thought is she's not quite ready for the pull. If it were my phone dead or my place I would've pushed but here I don't hold the cards.
So I vibe. She asks what kind of drink I like. I assume we’re just building context so that she understands what’s going on.
'Guy I met at the library and talked to = ??'
'Guy I'm drinking with at night = hookup'
I let her take me to her favorite restaurant. Small issue of whenever I give her sexual looks she asks “why?”
We drink and talk for a little, she starts getting a lil tipsy off like 2 cups of soju and asks me a few questions.
"Are you open minded? (local meme asking if I'm a fuckboy)
lol. Yeah it's not a big deal for me if I like someone. Are you open minded?
she says No!
Had me for a good 4 seconds
"What’s your body count?"
I don’t give an answer, said some kind of “it’s about energy if I like someone” but for the most part just not answering. She has no idea what I'm saying anyways. And has no clue if I actually understand her question or not, it's not like she's pressing for a number.
I keep vibing. I'm getting memories of happy times.
At one point she says her friends taught her an English phrase but she doesn't know what it means.
It's “fuck me”
just lol.
along with "can you stay up late tonight"
I say her friends sound fun. Tell her that’s okay to say to me now but not to anyone else.
She mentions something about destiny and deja vu and I agree.
Then she says something about being done with questions so I take that as our cue.
Ask/gesture if she’s ready to go, she says yeah and we dip.
I pay, she pretends to protest but I want a clean exit. It's like $8, I don't even think about it. It's officially don't fuck up game now.
Start walking away and she asks "what do you want from me" multiple times. I don’t want to say sex here because I don't want to spook her. I make up some bullshit about feeling the energy. But also make sure to pull her close against me when we pause at crosswalks so she knows. It's on now.
This is probably where I should've been more direct but I still didn't want to spook her.
I’m assuming we’re going to her place. She asks where we're going and I say to charge her phone. We pass by the metro and she mentions something about me going home, taking the subway... but it's futile. I feel bad for any poor soul who would've stopped here.
We walk then she says she doesn’t know where she's going. I say to charge her phone, don't you know where your apartment is? Pull out my phone for the map and she looks for a second and says she has a better idea of where to go.
I ask where knowing exactly what’s happening. She gives me a 'shh' signal.
Let her lead me 2 mins away to a hotel. She talks to the desk and pays within 30 sec and we’re off to the room.
Make out on the way up. I shower, she showers, the rest is history.
And I take the bus home at 3am to pay for my sins.
Keys to the lay:
I didn't rush anything in the library. Let her fill gaps in the conversation and seeded the pull to her place early along with logistics like age and being single, even though the sexual vibe wasn't strong.
Pinged her again, got off the subway and turned the fuck around as soon as she called me. Closer mentality.
Paid no attention to all the little ways I could’ve gotten out - her asking if I’d take the subway home, saying she’s not open minded, not reciprocating sexual gaze, not taking me to her apartment, the language barrier
Knowing how/when to let a girl lead - if she drives the train I laid the tracks.
Possible issues:
Fuckboy objection.
Same issue I got the other day where the girl 1. didn't seem to know why I liked her and 2. wanted confirmation that I wanted to bang ahead of time.
I think I played 2. right but having 1. a specific reason for attainability should be better.
Sexuality - If I had been more sexual the right way in the library I probably could've set up the meet just to bang instead of going for a drink.
