Uncalibrated Women

[Lotus]

How do you deal with sociallyuncalibrated women?

I have gone on two dates with this girl and most of the stuff I have learned here does not apply. She is unaffected by touch and sexual innuendo and just oblivious to all of the easy fundamentals I have been working on.

I know I should break things off but I want to solve this puzzle and I'm hoping figuring her out will help me with other girls like this for the future.


She is a very pretty girl but strange/awkward at the same time. It isn't that she is quiet it's that she never stops talking. Word vomit. She is uncormtable with silence.. Anyone experienced this before?

 

[Sam Dray]

Well.. I might be a bit off..

But from your description..she sounds like an open minded girl, who likes to have a good time. Her being uncomfortable with silence, might (to a certain degree) affect your ability to increase intrigue via silence.

Personally... With girls like that, I just listen and relate..while using a bit more eye contact than usual (Dont stare at her for 10 minutes straight, just increase your usual eye contact by roughly 15-30 seconds before you break it off or look away).

This usually (but not always) will result in her reacting by saying something such as, "Haha.. Im talking to much, right?"

Well..from that point on, you should start persisting a bit more and going for intrigue and escalation while deep diving (or "relate" as I put it earlier) and moving her to a more private location.

It's a complicated way to approach things (for me personally.. Im still making mistakes every now and again). In terms of her, not responding to certain things..as you said, she might just be uncomfortable with certain things such as.. You touching specific parts of her body in public, or it may be her trying to protect herself by intentionally resisting you ..maybe because of a traumatic experience from the past. (How well do you know her by the way?)

I really can't say. It ranges from a lot of things..all the way from trust issues, to standards, and even reputation.

I tried my best to help, but I don't have all the answers you need. I suggest waiting for more responses and advice.

Wish you all the best.. (And apologies for the long reply)

 

[Lotus]

I met her the day before Thanksgiving so I haven't known her that long but I have spent a good amount of time talking to her when we hung out. Like a substantial amount of 1v1 time so I know the basics, but I don't think I have made it onto things she hasn't told anyone

No that's a good point about eye contact. Even the most uncalibrated girls would have a hard time not noticing good eye contact. And now that I think about it there were a couple instances where I generated good tension with her.

I appreciate the response slick