Unlucky or Screwed It Up?

[ramirezs316]

So I got this girl out less than a week after I met her. Took her on a simple date of just drinks. We had instant chemistry and attraction. I deep dived her, had her really intrigued by me, and was ready to pull...but then she mentioned that she had to go to her friend's bday party right after. She wanted to see me again, so I started fishing about when she would next be free. She was pretty much busy the whole week, but curiously mentioned that she lives with her brother and he wouldn't be back till the day after next. Then she said the magic words: "What are you doing the rest of the night?"

I mentioned how I like watching movies and then suggested we hang out together. She said she could just stop by her friends then we could hang out. So we ended the date, and she said she'd text me right after. But I never heard back from her and haven't since that night.

How was I supposed to handle this? If I didn't set something up after she asked what I was doing, she would've felt spurned and I would've blown it. But her going to the party probably took her out of the mood, such that any friends there most likely talked her out of it. And her friends were texting her toward the end of the date because I guess she had a commitment (which she didn't mention before), so I couldn't convince her to blow it off. Was this just a terrible situation? Did I handle it right or are there angles I could've tried?

If so, is she not texting back because she auto rejected?

 

[Smith]

I don't think u actually screwed up. Like u said, her friends probably talked her into staying. Just be cool. Try set up another date and this time at your place. Don't even mention how she flaked at u last time. If she mentioned it and even apologized, just ignore it. It doesn't bother u

 

[Mr. oblivious]

I agree with Smith just schedule another meet up and act like the flake did not happen

 

[ramirezs316]

I agree with Smith just schedule another meet up and act like the flake did not happen

Yeah that's exactly what I did. I texted her yesterday: "blah blah about getting together again - when's good for you? My schedule is pretty flexible blah blah." So far I haven't heard back. It's been four days since the date now.

 

[ramirezs316]

Well she texted me back with this:

Hey sorry I'll be out of town. But I'm also not interested to go on a date, I wasn't even completely aware it was a date until you mentioned it. But I'm still kind of into my ex so I don't feel like I'm in a place to date, sorry.

She didn't know it was a date? We were all over each other when I got her number. I was complementing her on the date and she wanted to hang out. Lol. Oh well. I don't even know how to respond to this haha.

 

[Smith]

Hey sorry I'll be out of town. But I'm also not interested to go on a date, I wasn't even completely aware it was a date until you mentioned it. But I'm still kind of into my ex so I don't feel like I'm in a place to date, sorry.

lol her clever choice of words. She was aware but wasn't 100% sure. Oh well next one will be better.