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Jay

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Hey y'all, Jay here.

I was sitting down and thinking about game in between my classes today and I remembered something I came across in Europe almost a year ago, and wanted to elaborate on it here and let everyone else who ever plans on traveling to foreign places know about it.

I took a trip to Amsterdam and Paris for a couple weeks in June of 2012, and honestly, it changed my life. I realized that America is such a small part of gaming girls worldwide, and that many of the social things we worry about in America mean absolutely nothing overseas.

That being said, I will get to the specific point of this post.

When I took this trip almost a year ago I had been reading Girlschase for a good eight months, and while I hadn't reached the height of my game yet I was confident in my ability to translate my game to different countries. Amsterdam turned out to be a huge clusterfuck of different cultures' people that just plain old didn't give a fuck, and that led to very easy lays, which is great, but that is a whole different story/post. Something that intrigued me in France is what this post is about.

While I knew absolutely zero Dutch (which turned out not to matter because 90% of people in Amsterdam speak English), I came to Paris knowing passable French. Gaming French girls, the first thing I realized is that the reaction to American men is going to be hostile or aloof a lot of the time, and that this is something that has to be worked past. Knowing French helps a lot, and though I wasn't quite fluent, the difference in initial attraction at least doubled when I opened a girl in French.

Opening these French girls in French led me to notice a little phenomenon I didn't quite understand at the time.

Because I didn't know the language quite well enough to be completely fluent, I had to pause every now and again to think of how I wanted to word a certain statement or question in French. I found that this halted way of speaking, when handled smoothly rather than awkwardly, led to an increased attraction level in the French girls I was talking to.

The way I think of it is that I didn't want to sound like an idiot, so rather than speaking quickly and stumbling over my words, I implemented 'pregnant pauses' to make the flow of conversation feel more natural as I thought of exactly how I was going to word each sentence.

I didn't realize it at the time, but this led the general conversation to feel more sexual as well as more natural as I intended it to be.

So as specific as this advice and revelation is, if you are ever gaming in a foreign country when you know the language, focus on speaking slowly and really knowing what you want to say to this exotic girl to make her want you.

Thanks for reading,

Jay
 
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Chase

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Jay-

Great post.

I've noticed a disadvantage for a lot of guys speaking local languages, but I think there's a caveat and you may have found it - these guys I'm seeing disadvantages from tend to say whatever in the language, and come across stumbling through their words or sounding unintelligible.

Picture a silly Italian guy bumbling his way through English. Not very cool. He seems more like a child, not really aware of how he's coming across and more concerned with communicating than how he LOOKS communicating.

Now picture a sexy Italian guy, pregnant pausing his way through English, a la your finding in Paris here. Much cooler. He's clearly aware of how he's coming across and is taking his time to make sure he comes across as intended. You kinda just want to take this guy under your wing and show him around... or, if you're a pretty girl, there's very possibly a lot more you'd like to do with him, too.

Nice discovery here.

Chase
 

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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That's very correct Jay.
When I started learning a new language I spoke fast, even tough I didn't know shit. People took me as an expert when I spoke like that
like what Chase said, overly trying to correct yourself after stumbling makes it worse. Now you'll find it funny when I say this but


If you saw the movie Inglorious Basterds,
(SPOILER ALERT)
The guys who stuttered in the movie gets killed by the Gestapo and the guys that don't survive. So lets say Gestapo faces you and you tell your alibi smoothly without stuttering you pass the test. Even though in the movie Gestapo knew the truth already.
Same thing with foreign lands, speak fast, be smooth even if you don't know the words people will like you and get in on your actions. Heck I used to go out with this Korean and she didn't speak a word of english. In those cases we use touch as our language
 
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