Using The Advantages of Your Ethnicity

[Smurf]

This is NOT a "I'm this color and I can't get girls" thread. This is specifically for discussing the advantages of different races (White, Black, Asian, Spanish, European, Middle-Eastern, etc.)

There are lots of specific things that guys do that are different races that wouldn't very well work if you were a different race. Some of it has to do with behavior, other it's canned lines they can use, actions, lots of things.

An example of this is my friend Fluffy, he's Spanish, so he works the romantic latin descent angle quite a bit. Can be pretty sassy at times as well. Now since I'm Black, it wouldn't quite be congruent if I went around speaking with a Spanish accent over certain words.

I use it sometimes with racist shit. If a girl is talking about how she needs something, I'll say in a joking tone, "Why didn't you call me up? I could've totally stole that for you!" Or if a girl says something that can be taken as racist, or maybe not even mildly racist, I'll take mock offense saying, "Oh, 'cause I'm black right? Totally racist."

So this is basically an open discussion of your race that you are and certain things you do to take advantage of it in a POSITIVE way. I wanna see what you guys think of this.

Jake.

P.S.: This is not to complain about how you're a certain color, certain race and can't get girls or a certain type of girls. This is specifically for positive advantages. And don't tell me they're not there, they are, and they're there for a reason.

 

[Rusty]

I've actually used the contrast principle to great effect.

So the advantage of my "ethnicity" is actually using it as leverage.

Unless you're dealing with a girl who's grown up in a diverse setting or went out of her way to hang out with a diverse group of people, she's going to be unfamiliar with culture specific or ethnic unique characteristics. So she'll basically just have a very basic, horribly stereotypical view of you. When I meet a girl like this (typically white/Latina/black), most of my passive traits take care of this. I don't fit into any of her labels.

I dress well. I speak with a clear and confident tone. I can look her in the eyes. I can make her laugh. I am unapologetic about my sexuality.

Those things alone throw most women, especially when they don't have any concept of Asian men in her head except what she's seen and heard in the media. It also helps that most men dress horribly, slouch, speak with a weak voice, and can't look a woman in the eyes with some backbone. The stereotype is that "X" type of men are like this, but the truth is, it's a situation where men of all groups are like this. It's male-specific, not race. But most women will attribute it to a man belonging to "x" group. Doesn't matter to me, since I don't fit those labels anyhow.

I also own my heritage and background. I can talk about it proudly and without making excuses. But I also know how to relate to women from different backgrounds, especially Latina women, where my conversational Spanish impresses them. It also helps that I make a conscious effort to speak like a native and show respect to the language. (I really hate when people butcher a language; some people don't even try to speak it properly)

But yeah, I make use of my "ethnicity" simply by being a better all around man that breaks stereotypes.

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

I do as well, I'm Indian but people rarely guess that I am; I get Arab or Italian a lot. I just dress a lot better, work out a lot more; and act much differently then what is the typical stereotype of Indian men.