Vacation and romance with a colleague??

[BornToRun77]

I have a beautiful office colleague with whom there is definitely sexual tension. We have lightly flirted for more than a year (more her than me). She's early 30s Asian girl, me late 30s white guy. For now, we work in different areas, but collaborate closely on one project. In the new year my team is moving to the same floor as hers (i.e. our desks would be 20 feet away). Out of the office I've only seen her a few times while out with other coworkers. But it's clear we have a lot in common in terms of interests, personality, etc...Last week after a meeting we were talking about the holidays. She is going on a backpacking trip solo in Indonesia and sent me her itinerary should I want to come along.

This all sounds like a golden opportunity, and this trip would no doubt turn into a romantic one in an amazing tropical setting...But I really don't to get involved with someone in the workplace (particularly someone I will be sitting near in the future!). And somehow it just feels a bit off. I know another colleague of mine has considered getting involved with her and much of her social life centers around people from work (me, hardly at all). I would also feel more comfortable if I was the one taking the lead in the situation...As I work in Europe, there is nothing wrong with coworkers getting together romantically, but it's been a preference of mine not to.

I'm not sure why I'm placing importance on this potentially tricky situation when I could be out dating other girls without so much baggage. Basically, it just feels very conflicted, with my caution over the potential work consequences outweighing my desire for her, which admittedly feels a bit like short-term urge for forbidden fruit.

Anyone dealt with mature work romance situations or something that sounds like this?

Thanks, The Boss

 

[Virgin101]

The title's a bit misleading!

The short answer is no. Even if you've kissed her already, the answer is still no. The worst case scenario is that u'll end up going on a crappy holiday of someone else's choice, wasting a load of money and get no sex. A man with many options wouldnt put himself in a situation for such potential disappointment, nor would he care so much about what his coworkers do or don't gossip about. If u're willing to go on such a trip without having bedded her, u'll only drop in her estimation.