Valentines Firefighting! Advice needed dudes!

[Fluxcapacitor]

Sup dudes!

A need some input on this, a have a few thoughts on how to handle but there completely different approaches. Top an bottom a made some pretty big fuck ups leading to this so am all but calling this a loss so thinkin have nothing to loose in attempting to put the fire out and a good recovery would boost attraction but a don't wanna waste ma time either and just looking to move on.

Have gave a girl a second chance an we been back together 3 weeks an she dropped hints bout valentines. a thought her expectations are something will happen on valentines an if we giving this a real go a can give her some time an message her (An got her a card just in case she got me 1..Firefightin 101!). She went into a silly mood with me cause a didnt message her on the 13th so a thought screw that! were just casual anyway am not persisting if ya in a mood! She made a token effort to talk to me that night which a ignored in hindsight a should have talked to her to stop the next explosion!

The night after a seen her out so thought id talk to her to get her out of her mood to prevent it getting out of control. A was to late she full on hated me! She said how much she hated me and how she couldn't do this anymore. So looking to break up our CASUAL thing cause a didn't match her expectations a guess. A ignored the break up comments a assumed this was auto rejection cause she felt forgotten on valentines. A told her a was busy on Wednesday an didn't have time to call her but that a was wanting to go out with her yesterday. She calmed down a lot an became compliant with me but was still very angry. A asked if she wanted what a had for her so gave her the plan B valentines card to prove that a did care an that she wasn't forgotten. (Risky move a know cause now have validated her an basically confirmed am happy to commit with her, but when she was auto rejecting cause of being unwanted have now hit the valentines expectations....jurys out! she thinks am a sexy dominant guy so a shouldn't drop much value an improve attainability??)

She quickly calmed down an changed her mood an said that we had to talk when we were sober so were going out to talk tonight. A dunno whether a should treat this as a break up discussion an go in cold or aggressive an force this to a head now so we either break up or stick it out. or whether this is auto rejection an a can fix it by being warm an keeping in proximity an doin the turn around forumla (THANKS CHASE!) a know its been a few days an the formula is meant to be done the same night but this is all a got.

So A) turnover - a realise how hard she took valentines, clear up that im not as unattainable as she thought (guess a done this aready), pay her a compliment an then we go an have fun. OR B) a go in with ma game face ready to tell her to decide whether were still giving this a shot or if were done, eithers fine by me but she has to choose now.

Casual relationship valentines casuality! a regret giving her the card an feel it appears that am chasing, have cut contact with her since an ignored her messages cause theyre not helping the seduction an to say am not chasing ya. Cheers dudes! look forward to ya input even if ya calling me a punk as bitch! haha a know a made some big fuck ups here already!!

OLDGUY DUDE! a done a HUGE post without saying yah!! (YAH? )

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Sup dudes!

We met last night, a was still undecided on what approach to take but she made the decision for me by being very late. After 10 minutes a assumed she wasnt coming even though she messaged to say she was setting of. A almost left but had to go to the shop nearby so thought a would just go to the shop. She gave me a text to say she was here but a ignored it an continued shopping she could wait for me an she better have a good excuse or a was leaving regardless. When a actually turned up to meet her a found it totally unacceptable an told her she was lucky a was still there an that am not bothered an will just leave. This made her chase an try to make me stay....(positive?)

We start talking an she keeps being warm from the chasing, a decide to warm up slowly an use the proximity to get her out of auto rejection, she agreed to meet me right? She then admits that shes still angry with me but doesnt know why (a do dudes! a didnt meet her expectations for valentines, thats what this is about) a keep warm, she hasnt went on tha attack an try to turn it around which works we're getting back on track an am thinking result! Have turned this around an recovered (positive?)

Out of nowhere she flips an goes on the attack telling me that she hated me an that we wouldnt work (was this a test to make me fold? get me to chase?) A went on the attack back with ma game face on an quickly went cold on her back an said how she said she wanted me. if she still did im here for her an if not thats fine we can say goodbye. but this is final. She cracked, from full out dump mode she changed she wasnt sure an said she didnt know. A pushed her more for an answer an made it clear ya want me or ya dont an if ya dont am going. She eventually said no....(NEGATIVE...honestly didnt expect her to say no after being so uncertain)

A told her thats fine, this is goodbye then. I was happy to have shared the little time together that we shared, a hope that she woud find someone that made her happy an then a left her there crying her eyes out. A feel good about the whole break up cause a got a final answer an am free to move on. Am out tonight so will be meeting more girls! Am still unsure bout the parting message that a got from GC articles by chase. It seems very cassanova an romantic but its not really ma style. It wasnt great a didnt say it gracefully an didnt say half the stuff a actually wanted to a jus fumbled through it. A have thought bout writing to her with what a actually wanted to say but think it would make me look weak contacting her again after walking away. There is no mercy to be given here an feel it would be stronger just leaving it.

Any insights ya have dudes?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

I really need some insight on this dudes!

Most importantly dealing with disrespect from ya boy! A forgot to mention but when she got me to stay she threw a curve ball that shuck me which fucked ma head an ma game plan. She lead with a needed to talk to ma boy cause he grabbed her to dance with an nuzzled her neck at the end of the night. A was furious, a cant tolerate that from somene that is meant ta have ma back. A have never been disrespected like this an have no idea how ta handle it. Calling him up an telling him to fuck if cause a dont tolerate that shit doesnt seem mature but its that or a hit him. A just seen red!! an worse she seen that it fucked me cause a went silent an just stared of into space she knew a was angry an kept asking Flux? are ya okay? whats going on in ya head?

A told her a lot of things, she asked what? a said it doesnt matter. She said it does...it does an a will deal with it. She then called me out that it really bothered me cause a couldnt look at her. A could look at her but a was that furious at ma boy that shed have seen the anger pulsing from me. A ended up looking at her which a shouldnt cause a caved to what she wanted an she seen just how fucked of a was....not a great start to controlling the frame! how do ya deal with this shit??

Jus realised another issue with ma frame control, when a was being warm a put ma hand on her leg. She ended up getting her phone out at one point an was texting so a removed ma hand from her leg to say that's unacceptable. She picked up on this an apologised straight away an stopped texting. After she won me back a put ma hand back on her leg. Jus before she went on the attack she asked me to take ma hand of her leg, a didn't at first as thought she was testing, when she asked a few times an got more annoyed a then removed me hand. Am not sure if this was the best move cause a caved to her demands when it didn't bother her before but then again she made it clear she didn't want it.....thoughts dudes?!?!

Anyway a went out last night to meet new girls an have fun, an then she turned up.....The issue with that is a didnt wanna take risks an get rejected in front have her so was waiting for definite AIs which stoped ma cold approaching. There was one girl a liked that a was confident in towards the end but with her looming over ma a few ft away didnt take the risk. Am kicking maself now cause had have been all over that if she wasnt there an if it woud have worked!! yah?

She totally fucked with ma head last night, first thing she noticed me she kept away an was avoiding me. Thats good, a was avoiding her. Have cut her from ma life. Later on when she was more drunk an then it was like she followed me round. She wanted me to notice her dancing feet away an what was worse she kept putting herself in ma line of sight. Certain songs came on like GIRLFRIEND where a didnt want her in ma sight so navigated the room an ma boys so a didnt have to see her an no sooner did a move she moved back into ma sight! What kind of mind game is this?!?! A asked her the night before if she wanted ma an she said no so thats fine am not part of her life anymore an thats her decision.

A also noted that a few guys hit on her an she rejected them. If she wanted me to notice she had lots of options for jealousy so was this to be kind to ma feelings? If it was she can get fucked a don't need her pity an my emotions are unhurt towards her am fucked of about who a thought was ma boy!!!

 

[Jakeroviks]

I stopped reading after the 3rd paragraph because I don't feel like reading a book today, but it's simple dude.

Valentines day is a woman's holiday. She wants a provider man in her life to buy her nice things so she can feel special about herself. If you're not her provider, don't worry about it. You don't need to firefight anything.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Jakeroviks dude,

A ended up firefighting an getting burned. Cant win them all yah? Valentines casualty of a casual relationship even when a was willing to commit to this one.

It was an overcomplicated situation where a pushed to get it resolved in tha end where we either kept together or we split, but if we split it was final. She said to split so its done. A feel good bout it cause theres no ifs but or maybes that is final. A still need to deal with ma boy though!