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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Always see nice girls in the train station but have yet to go there for the sole purpose of meeting girls - this is something I've never had to do before (always relying on house parties etc). Just wanted to hear about what your average efforts are say per week?
 

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Hey man,

I usually try a mall or stores nearby my house. Otherwise I let my day flow and just approach wherever I am. Getting involved with different activities helps too, so I'd try that.

Hope that helps,
Jake.
 
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Cro-Magnon Man
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I've been meaning to break mine down for some time, so your post inspired me to do that:

Street / outdoor mall: 51%
Indoor mall / clothing store: 17%
Grocery store / pharmacy: 15%
Park / outdoor café: 12%
Beach / other: 5%
 

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Marty said:
I've been meaning to break mine down for some time, so your post inspired me to do that:

Street / outdoor mall: 51%
Indoor mall / clothing store: 17%
Grocery store / pharmacy: 15%
Park / outdoor café: 12%
Beach / other: 5%
Impressive to see you guys doing so much from scratch - I would say my connections are 90% from classes or house parties.....

How many of these do you do a weeek>?
 

Marty

Cro-Magnon Man
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GF,

It's not as impressive as it may sound. I started three months ago and have done only 41 solid approaches: "solid" means I stated my interest unambiguously, exchanged names (obviously) and explicitly asked for a date. That's less than one every two days.

I am NOT counting some of the blowouts I had at the start, e.g. situational approach then failing to go direct (attempting vainly to read interest levels), or asking to join a girl at an outdoor table, for example, and being declined before even introducing ourselves. Glad to say I have stopped doing that nonsense already.

I am also not counting social circle dates though that has been very minor... this is about daytime cold approach. I don't go to many house parties (and certainly don't go alone), and it's years since I last took a class.

I am aware that I need to step up the pace to gain the learning benefits of having a lot of experience condensed into a short time; I face a few obstacles, but I'm working on that.

The above details come from my spreadsheet records; soon I plan to post descriptions of each interaction in the Journals section.
 
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