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Oskar

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Out at a classy bar in town that is mildly full and my buddy decides to go meet a group of girls sitting near us. He goes over, crouches down and starts talking to them while I go to the bathroom. He invites me over when I return and I quickly hit it off with a cute blonde who apparently knows who I am, having been in one of my brother's classes at uni. Across the table my friend gets blown out so he goes and meets the people the next table over, amusingly. I get the blonde's number then invite her to walk to another bar with us. They decline but they're going to a bar for dancing that's on the way so we walk together then say farewell when we get to their bar.

My friend and I arrive at our more cowboy style bar and start opening girls, meeting cool guys, and generally having a blast. One blonde girl with dreads grabbed me and tells me I am beautiful then pulled me into her group while I am on my way to the bathroom. The boys around her are not happy with that, as she is obviously "the hot one" in their social circle. We flirt, exchange numbers, but I miss the escalation window of pulling her instantly (which she seemed to want but I didn't register fast enough) so go back to talking to another girl I liked more anyway. Then the blonde girl who I started the night with arrives and says she left her friends to come find me. I ditch the girl I am talking with for her, as she is clearly in the bag. She then tells me that she is a virgin, which is quite surprising as she is good looking enough that I can't imagine her not being able to find cool guys. We escalate and she is extremely compliant. I tell her to drive me home so we leave, bidding farewell to my friend. Small talk in the car, tell her to take off her shoes in my room, then I show her the pics I told her I'd show her of my travels on my computer. I put on a movie and jokingly ask if she has ever kissed a boy before. She laughs and says of course and I immediately kissed her, which she welcomes passionately. She has no resistance at all until it comes to her panties which she won't remove. She explains that she hasn't shaved because she wants to get a Brazilian wax and is embarrassed about that and also that she doesn't want to lose her virginity so easily and if she did she would feel disgusted by herself. We fool around all night, verbally and physically, but no penetrative sex. When the morning comes I ask her to drive me to my bike and she is clearly annoyed in the car ride, probably in part because I failed to achieve penetrative sex, and in part because I didn't care whether or not I achieved it, since she told me "at this point, I'd probably feel disgusted by myself if I did." My brother informs me that though she may be a virgin that doesn't stop her from fooling around. Now that I know that I'm a little annoyed that I didn't just overwhelm her with passion, but it explains why there was so little resistance until I reached her hardlimit on penetrative sex.

Looking forward to your criticism,
Oskar
 

Chase

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Oskar-

Sounds like you're already in a pretty all-right place based on all the advances you're getting from women. You just need to tighten up your recognition of these signals in the moment and getting some fast responses to them down, and you'll be flying.

Oskar said:
She explains that she hasn't shaved because she wants to get a Brazilian wax and is embarrassed about that and also that she doesn't want to lose her virginity so easily and if she did she would feel disgusted by herself.

With objections like these, it's usually helpful to address each one.

e.g., embarrassed about not having shaved: "Are you kidding? Girls with their hair are so hot... I don't get the whole shaved pubic area thing. Makes a girl look like a vagina cancer patient"; doesn't want to lose her virginity so easily: "So how would you like to lose it?" - have her tell you all about it, go deep into the emotions, and she'll begin to feel those emotions right there in the situation - and be a lot more likely to suddenly decide that tonight is the night for her to give it up.

She's obviously out looking for someone who's going to take it from her, but she needs a guy who's going to overcome her resistance. That was most likely what the annoyance was - she thought she'd found him, and left disappointed to have yet another guy who couldn't do it.

Her telling you she's going for a Brazilian is another way of saying, "I think I'm ready to start having sex." All her communication was, "I'm right on the cusp, I just need you to help me not feel embarrassed and not feel disgusted with myself. Can you do that?"

That said - yeah, you're right there, Oskar, if you're getting these kinds of receptions.

Chase
 

Oskar

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Chase said:
Makes a girl look like a vagina cancer patient.

Haha, that's a good one. Thanks for the encouragement Chase :)
 
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