LR Virginity=Lost. Beach Sex

[Seppuku]

Hey Slay,

Welcome to the club. You did a very good job, especially if this was your first time. She was very much into you from the first and most likely DTF, but you still handled well by not screwing it up. However you were a little harsh with her in the end, and you will need to learn how to handle it more smoothly.

She starts giving ME value. Complimenting me and humoring me while I mostly smiled.

First IOI.

Conversation ends, but, she's sticking around, so I know she wants to talk to me.

Another IOI here, and many others (her voice...). But the greatest sign she was giving you is when she started getting extra talkative, without much stimulation from you. I have noticed this when girls start getting aroused:

She goes on to tell me a lot of things about her. She wants to become a news reporter, I told her she definitely had the voice.

"But, I think you're voice might be a tad too sexy for that job. Might want to adjust that a bit". I told her with a cheeky smile. She ate it up.

She goes on to tell me her sexual experiences. How she's had sex with both men and women. Her crazy exes,etc.

At this point she's said about 3 times she doesn't know why she's telling me all this.

If you notice this behavior from a girl, you can start escalating.

Me: Hey!
*She turns*
Me: Come here for a sec.
*She walks up*. Her friend stays back. "yeah?"

"I want you to stay". I told her dryly.

Her: I really wish I could but-
Me: You can.
Her: No I-

she was about to go, and it would have been the end of it, but you saved the day at last minute. Good job. However...

Me: Listen, you like me right?
Her: Yes
Me: Do you feel connected to me?
Her: Yes, a lot
Me: You got 2 options here. We've been given an opportunity that millions of people dream about. That only happens once in a lifetime.
Her: What's that?
Me: The opportunity for 2 strangers to meet, and connect and relate so well. That doesn't happen to anyone. You're going to throw it away. You'll regret it. The possibility for us to have a great time, something you will remember for years to come.

Here you lead her on with the "once in a lifetime" thing. This is heavy arsenal, to be used very carefully (only if genuine!), and not really necessary here. You make her build expectations. So just stick to "You got 2 options here." The rest was fine.

Me: Yea I do
Her: Ok give it to me

I contemplate it for a bit and I answer

Me: I can't.
Her: Why not?
Me: I enjoyed tonight a lot. But this was a 1 time thing
Her: So all that talk about destiny, it was all crap?
Me: I meant what I said, but, I have something really important going on in my life right now, and I don't want to develop feelings and get sidetracked.

She didn't like that very much. I must of not said it properly or something. But after that, she went STONE COLD.

She is a little upset, and rightly so, because of the "once in a lifetime" bit. Also, even if you don't want to see her again, it is a little bit harsh to refuse to give the number. You two are still feeling connected from what just happened and you break the connection abruptly. Just be smooth with her, cool and gentle after sex, even if you don't want to see her again. Take her number, let her know you really enjoyed and you had great time. Later on you can choose not to answer her texts, or you can answer her without pushing for a meeting (she'll get the message), or you can decide to see her again if you change your mind.

But she stood there, waiting for me to say something.

"Ok. I wish you the best." I said. I had to force a smile. She ends up walking away. I stayed in the beach for like 10 more minutes.

Making sure she'd already left, because I didn't know what to say to her...

Harsh! It's the emotional moment. Be cool and gentle with her. Take her in your arms. Give her a gentle kiss. Tell her goodbye. Because of this she will feel bad about it and regret... instead of remembering it as the wonderful time it was. Exactly the opposite of what you wanted.

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[HellAtlantic]

Also don't make the mistake of thinking that just because your first pass as a football quarterback went for a touchdown they're all gonna be touchdowns. What I mean is you have nothing to gain from saying "this is a one time thing". You will hit a dry spell. You will get rejected. You will start to doubt yourself. And eventually you will be tempted to hit up the one girl (or hopefully in your case one of the girls) you were able to bang and she won't be an option because you weren't a decent human post-sex. Nothing makes a girl feel more used than immediately after sex telling her it was a one time thing. Some things don't need to be verbalized. Especially since this was your first time bro, have a little appreciation that she made you a man. But regardless, congrats on getting that monkey off your back.

 

[Seppuku]

Slay,

I know I lead her on verbally. But, did I also lead her on by taking so long to escalate? Did this give her a boyfriend vibe?

I don't think you're leading her by taking long time to escalate. However: 1. you're not as dominant and confident as you could be, and 2. When she's ready for escalation, but you do not escalate (yet), you run the risk of losing the moment - I think, although it never really happened to me since I started seduction. Before I learned seduction it probably happened to me a myriad times but honestly I didn't have a clue.

These are details. You can fine tune and calibrate with more experience.

We spoke for about an hour and a half. According to Seppuku I could have pulled much earlier. But I didn't have any logistics.

Yes I think she was ready much earlier, from what you describe, but if you don't have logistics there is no point starting escalation.

Cheers man,
Seppuku