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Raqimus

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Dear Virgins why is it that we always come into contact?

This is a from a recent outing when I was on my way to the gym. I usually try to pickup girls as I go about my day due to having so much on my plate; you really do put up with less when your busy. Back to the story! I was walking across the bridge from my job still riding my social momentum from my previous approaches. I notice a very skinny almost frail looking nerdy girl. I thought she was cute; I always seem to really have a thing for nerdy girls. Their brains give me an erection. I slow my pace down and let her catch up to me, as we are walking i open.

Me: "Hey, your cute" (Or something like that)
She looks at me for a couple seconds emptily then she turns her head back straight and looks down. I found it a bit funny and weird, so i glanced off to my left with a smile on my face, she was on my right; i looked back at her and I don't remember what i said but she finally started responding. She was a bit nervous and walking a wee bit faster than me. I remained walking at a slower pace and maintained my calm and she slowed down and began to ease up.

I began to dive as we walked that short distance across the bridge and down the street, found out she was here off an internship by herself and some other deets. As we reach the end of the street we were talking about a date and she agreed to it, i tried an insta date and it worked. Before we grab out ice cream she said she just had to drop her stuff at home, she lived 3 minutes away.

Now during this interaction i had pulled out my phone to grab her digits for the date, but once i found i could get an instant date going, I put my phone back away and forgot to get her number, my biggest mistake.

I ask her if I could use her bathroom, never used this line but I've always wanted to :) . So we get to her place and she takes her shoes off, okay good, I go to the bathroom and we are talking in her room. So I've known this girl for about 10 minutes and we are already in her room, okay cool. I begin to dial things up a bit more I use an innuendo and shes kinda neutral maybe a bit more negative. So i dive more into her love of books and tv shows and I suggest we watch sense8(Amazing tv show, gonna use Leto and his boyfriend as models, they are sexy). I use this opportunity to move closer to her.

I was sitting on her bed at first, and she was over by her desk sitting on the arm of her chair, i go over and sit on the other arm and try to feel things out. I eventually just sit in the chair instead of the arm, and we watch the preview it has a bit of everything and i just gauge her reaction. Eventually I'm just dilly dallying so I'm looking into her eyes and shes looking back at me and she looks away.

Now maybe she wasnt used to my touch but i gently tried to touch her chin to guide her to kiss me and she freaked a bit, it was funny and it is funny seeing girls react like that, just shows me I'm not doing something right.

I say " I was going to kiss you"
She says" I've never been kissed before"
I say" It's easy, I'll teach you"

Showed her what to do then kissed her, she was not a very good kisser and i was trying to instruct her but maybe I've been spoiled and asked for a bit more, i wanted her to before firmer and not so soft. Maybe another mistake because i was criticizing her first kiss.

I pull back and we continue talking, I move back towards sitting on the bed and she joins me, but shes sitting far away so its a bit weird, okay shes not comfortable i can see that, lets dial up the diving to more. She begins to get more comfortable and complies with me, another mistake is that I'm not going for more in the escalation, because she wasnt super keen on the kissing i didn't really try to go any further, i need to work on that.

She begins to talk about the actual date i promised her i ignored it the first time then we had more convo and then she mentions it again in an awkward kind of way, i say cool lets do it. We put our shoes back on and another mistake is that i leave it up to her whether or not she wants me to come back by having her if i should leave my bag. I have her hand me my bag and we go on the date.

I decide to forgo ice cream because i want to try one of the new smoothies at D&D, we go there and order separately, I choose the tables for us to sit and she says , Oh okay. We sit for a second and talk a bit more about her hobbies, maybe 5 minutes before i decide we should leave.

We walk back to her place and go back inside and take our shoes off again. I sit on the bed seeing as it's the only place to sit and she decides to sit on her table... hahahahaha what? I call it out playfully and she's like she likes sitting on the table and i test this saying I have to see what all the fuss is about. When i get up to sit on the table she moves, and I take the hint. I go back to my spot and this girl doesnt have the balls to ask me to leave, like i would love for her to be more direct but alas she is a woman and I am a man who is bigger than her. I'm ready to leave but i try to get her to ask me to leave and she just says she wants to eat dinner, and it becomes weird like I want her to tell me to gtfo.

It's whatever i get my shoes on etc and leave and go to the gym. SO this all occurred in about an hour and 20 mintutes. After the gym I go to shoot her an ice breaker text an realize i dont have her number. I know where she lives but i just think it would be so fucking weird and creepy for me to showup at her house again just to grab her number, i stuff these feelings away because as long as i dont think im creepy im not creepy. BUT SHOWING UP UNINVITED JUST FEELS SOOOOO FUCKING CREEPY HAHAHAHA.

To push my comfort zone I do it anyways i get there, ring the bell and wait for what feels like 5 minutes, then i just say fuck it i feel too creepy doing this and leave, hopefully I'll never see her again but knowing my luck... i probably will. Damnit D:
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
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Hey man, nice job on going up and talking to her and kissing her. It seemed like you had things going well until you got to her place for the first time, which threw you for a loop.

The whole interaction seems really out of order and out of your control. Do you have a process and if so were you following it? If not, you need to set one up and make sure you follow it. That way, even if she does something you don't expect like going to her place, you have a plan and know the next step.

A part of that process should be getting her number, even on an instant date. Don't wait until the end to ask for her number. Do it when you both are laughing and smiling. It doesn't really matter what you say, but, "Hey I'm having a lot of fun, let me grab your number" works just fine.

Let me know if you need help setting up a process.

-V
 
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Raqimus

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
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No i have a process but i just ended up putting my phone away as she was giving me her number, because that's when she mentioned her place. So silly of me >.>

Most of this was off the head tho and I did have a plan
 
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