FR Visiting NYC

[Mr.B]

I went on a trip with family for 2-3 days. Haven't lived in a big city in 8-9 months (not for much longer, though! )

I was reading up on Approach Invitations coincidentally right after a day of having approach anxiety on the water taxi (went to go visit the Statue of Liberty) and noticing that a few girls were planting themselves very close to me..

Girls(3)

Girl 1 (I don't like rating at all, but I'd say a 6. I thought she was more attractive from behind)

Spot her 5-6 ft walking in front of me (down in the sub.)

Catch up to her, tap her on her upper arm (I locked eyes after she looked at me), I say, "I saw you walking here and just had to say you were really cute"
I didn't introduce myself lol. She says, "aww, I'm actually on my way home to my boyfriend right now" I stop walking next to her, she heads out of the subway.
Wasn't too attracted to her, totally cool.

Girl 2 (6-7) Very sexy blonde wet hair, wearing a black coat with fur, black leggings, and light beige shirt under.. Cute face.

Open her, "I saw you standing here and had to come tell you that you have a very womanly sense of style, I'm Brandon" Didn't forget this time
Girl: "(smiles, looking very interested (sexually), Hey, Brandon."
Me: "So what's your story for tonight?"
Her: "I'm on my way to the bar with some friends."
Me: "Oh cool, girl night out?"
Her: "Yeah, something like that."
Me: "Hmm, sounds fun. So are you a nyc native?"
Her: "Yeah, I actually live right up the block in _____(idk)." (I thought about this after, do you guys think that was an interest thing?)
Me: "_____? I'm not too familiar with the area. (Having her invest by asking where I'm from.)
Her "Oh where are you from?"
Me: "Miami"
She asks why I'm visiting, tell her I'm passing through for business.
Me: "Well hey, I've gotta get going. I have some people waiting for me and I don't like making people wait (I thought that showed I respect peoples time) I didn't catch your name?"
Her: "Cute Girl"
Me: "Well, Cute Girl, it was nice meeting you. I might run into you tonight at ______(bar)"
Her: "Very nice meeting you, Brandon"

I forgot the bar name, and her name.... DURING the convo lol.... It was all so fast.

Girl 3
This one was cool because it was my first time jumping on an approach invitation.

The train is packed, no one can move an inch, I prop my arm up on the railing.

Black girl (not very into black women... but I used it as social momentum, and quite frankly wanted to talk to a black woman for once for some perspective and growth)

We're 2 inches apart, facing each other. As she got on the train, she consciously put her hand where mine was. (Game on)
I see her try and catch my eye (my peripherals are on point at this point, point, point, point. Haha)
Me: (warm smile) Tight squeeze, huh?
Her: "(Rolls her eyes) yeah"
Me: So what's your story?"
Her: "Heading home from work."
Me: "What do you do?"
Her: "I'm a finance manager in _____ (didn't hear). How about you?"
Me: "I'm not really doing much right now... looking to head back down to my hometown, I'm in need of a new adventure. (she say ahh ok, shrugs it off like, "no biggie") How do you like work?
Her: "You know, same thing every day."
Me: "Same thing?"
Her: Yeah, paperwork, filing, ... (on and on)
Me: So why work at a job that is so monotonous?
Her: "Idk, the money and.."

Train stops, my stop, I bow out.

Me: "Nice meeting you... (quizzical look, with hand out)
Her: Titi... nice meeting you.."
Me: Brandon.

I exit.

 

[Whizzy]

With the second girl you might have been able to grab her number to make meeting up later easier, plus its a reminder of her name if needed.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Second girl wanted your dick.

Third girl knew you were gaming her with your intro and then your "looking for new adventure response." She gave you a second shot when she asked what you did, but you didn't reward her with some good info. Vagueness =/= mystery. Instead, make whatever you're doing seem interesting, and there's no point in trying to spike a dickton of interest with early on vague comments like that. At this point in the conversation, you're just feeling each other out. Of course, you did have a small window to work with, so instead of spiking interest through vagueness, just be super direct.

- Hector

 

[Mr.B]

Whizz,

Of course! Go for the number, up the chances of seeing her later that night.
Will do next time.

Hector,

So feeling each other out is the small talk?

Stay Up,

-Brandon

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Hector,

So feeling each other out is the small talk?

Yeah, it's like the first moments of an MMA fight where both people are throwing light jabs to test each other's reactions

(It's probably not best for most guys to see seduction as a fight, but I do, so understand that when I use analogies).

- Hector

 

[Whizzy]

Another good way to think about it is how automatic the conversation feels. Most waitresses and service industry people are great at making small talk but ask them a real question and it almost startles them, because they aren't just going through the motions anymore.