Visiting when she is sick ?

[johnydones]

Hey guys i recently started seeing this girl ,we had sex and whatnot just to be clear its not 2nd date or anything.I texted her to set up a meet but she told me she was sick. Goes like this :

ME: "Hey *name* , i am back in town and i am in a good mood too see you , what are you up to today?"
HER: "You are in a good mood hehe , and you are not asking if i am in a good mood , i have fever ,im sick "
ME: "Thats bad , what you can get then is *medicine name* and a massage , it always helps "
HER: "I already have *medicine name* "
ME: "thats great , if it does not work then you will get that massage "
HER: "ohh , give that massage then!"
ME: "appointments are scheduled for tomorrow but since this is urgent case ill stop by in 30 minutes "

We had a great time talking , i like talking to this girl.

My thoughts are : It was a test to see if i will come over even if i do not get sex . If i answered with
"ok then , have some rest and we will talk when you feel better" - would that be insensitive and look like i only call when i feel like having sex

On the other hand , i hate doing boyfriendy shit too early and this falls in that category.

My questions is , what would you do in this case , would you bail or visit . Do you see her for a chat or drink even if you can't have sex that night ?

-JD

 

[Light]

Its ok to visit her as long as you put a time constraint in.

I would visit her, then move on to escalation and still turn her on. But then pull back and say "You can't have me tonight, go get some rest".

This puts the ball at your court as if you're the one in charge, and not her. That way you don't come across as being the chaser.

I would make sure I leave within 20 mins, and tell her to rest.

 

[johnydones]

I always forget about time constraint, we spent 2 hours talking , i enjoyed it don't get me wrong , but it's still bad in the long run i know.
Do you guys know what should i do to turn the tables , i think that i am beginning to invest much more, she was investing tons more then i did at the beginning.

-JD

 

[Light]

I always forget about time constraint, we spent 2 hours talking , i enjoyed it don't get me wrong , but it's still bad in the long run i know.
Do you guys know what should i do to turn the tables , i think that i am beginning to invest much more, she was investing tons more then i did at the beginning.

-JD

Balance is Key.

If you spent 2 hours talking this week, then don't call her for at least a week.

If you're doing most of the talking... then you're in trouble. Make sure she's the one being a blabber mouth. Its always better to be the listener.
You can do so by keep asking questions.

Always put a time constraint early, by saying you can't talk for long (give her a valid reason to explain why you're busy).
Then when you feel that the call is going for too long you just have to cut her off and make sure you tell her that you'll call her back later. (But obviously you don't. Its just to reassure her)

I find that usually cutting off at a high point where she is telling you something exciting works well, as it gives her a "I can't wait to finish telling him what happened" feeling known as - Anticipation.
It also works well as an opener for the next conversation "So what happened next?"